My second response was actually to the person that posted just before me. A comment was made that the word "thick" came from urban culture and then they went on to say something very negative about black women. What I was attempting to say is, comments like that are what make people not want to be a part of this site. It seems to be a very common trend on this site and many others. The conversation starts out civil and then all of a sudden race gets thrown into it.
I know plenty of people, men and women that are asian, latino, black and white that have used the word thick to refer to a woman. Although, I think the comment was originally aimed at the guys since the original post said a guy is the one that used the word I was not trying to state that a woman could not comment. I was simply reading what's in the subject....."Guys, is "thick" a compliment." People have taken a simple question and ran with it, which seems to be another common trend on this site.
I am an educated man and I do not talk like this but I can use context clues to determine if a person is trying to make a compliment or not. Yes, I am a man but I have a mother, sisters, a daughter and nieces so I know that not every women appreciates a man that talks like this but it doesn't change the fact that the person was trying to give a compliment....no matter how its perceived. As you can see, my original response was simple one line response that I think its normally meant to be a compliment when used by a person in the US.
Ok so I checked back and saw your original response, which is a huge general sweep for the country when you have other Americans in here saying they don't see it as a compliment.
The post I quoted starts with 'You GUYS can't be serious' That doesn't indicate that you're replying to the person above you.
You then go on with your post, and claim that there is no wonder the site is so quiet. There is nothing to indicate that your post is actually in direct response to the one above you. Notice that to prevent all confusion how I have quoted you, or at least you did mention me by name in this post, but it certainly wasn't evident that you were replying in a direct way to epiphiny43. As to your claim that they said something negative about black women, I don't believe they did. It's simply an observation that many of us are aware of, and I don't see how commenting on the fact that a larger lady is appreciated is a negative thing to say, whether she is black, white, pink, or sky blue with yellow polka dots.
Now, as to race, no-one has mentioned race at all between your first post, and the one I quoted. Here's the thing though; it's a well known fact that some black women carry their weight through their hips, just as some Latino women do. Me, I'm Greek. It's easy to see from my photo that I'm all curves, but what you don't see it that I have ass too. As the wonderful Mr ResidentSadist once said of me- I have junk in my trunk. I have always been all tits and arse. I've always had great thighs because I rode horses, and trained. It doesn't mean I want to be described as thick when actually it's rather insulting where I'm from.
When something gets put up as a post on here, most certainly as a regular, you should know damn well that everyone else is going to answer it. for the most part this has actually been well debated.
I deserved better. Not than you, but from you.