ResidentSadist
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Joined: 2/11/2007 From: a mean old Daddy, but I like you - Joni Mitchell Status: offline
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Laura Antoniou light heatedly calls us the 'middle guard.' I think you put a good perspective on how intensity is irrelevant to the physical act and more a matter of perception. Nicely said. I use extreme examples like fluffy vs bloody to put a focus on the scope of it all, because BDSM includes it all. I love the 'Chitty-Chitty-Bang-Bang' comment. My house (home) is called the Shady Rest. So I can see an old west Chitty-Chitty-Bang-Bang scene somewhere in the near future... thanks for the idea. Sounds like fun. quote:
ORIGINAL: LadyPact <FR> Old Guard doesn't especially mean 'original old guard'. (Aka the first round of gay leathermen.) There's also this concept called the 'generations of leather,' which is about how the various evolution(s) of leather came about. Not just gay men. Lesbian women, het men, het women, TNG, etc... All of these different eras had an 'old guard' and a 'new guard'. The whole idea of this is people who want to adhere to old theories while mixing with what's on the horizon. (For more on this, check out a guy named Master Skip Chasey. It's his theory. For those who want to complain about the title, the guy really does have a Master's degree. :) ) I guess I'm weird about it. BDSM can overlap with leather, but there are parts of leather that I don't consider BDSM. The leather community part doesn't necessarily have to do with the physical acts. The activism certainly doesn't. Nobody really cared about the education back in the day, (other than what effected their own club) or the health issues. People 'started at the bottom,' not just for the learning aspect, but a lot of that was also about fresh meat to f^ck. So, this bit about being a leisure activity... It seems to me that it's not just 'balls to the wall' activities that qualify. It's just like the 'what is bondage?' question. Are we really saying that only people suspended from flesh hooks qualify as bondage? Pink fuzzy handcuffs wouldn't float my boat either, but is the person bound? Sadism is the same thing. What some other people do wouldn't scratch my sadism itch but other people are doing it, incorporating some level of pain and having a grand old time. How much giving and receiving of pain qualifies? And, if you (general you) don't want to have sex with every person you swing a flogger at, does that mean it's not sadism, anymore? What about people who do it for fun when they want it, rather than have a NEEEEEDDDDD to do it? Still the same blood, sweat, tears, and piss. Just it's a couple of times a month thing to ride those awesome endorphin levels. The amount of pain (aka sadism and masochism) is still on the same level. We're still talking needles, electricity, whips, and all of that stuff on the harsh end. Are we saying it has to be six times a month, rather than three, to qualify? It's too much work for me to judge what other people do in their bedrooms. Just because it wouldn't work for me doesn't mean it's not working for them. A lot of what I do wouldn't work for other people, either. Doesn't mean I'm going to take those opinions into account. As long as I'm having fun, other people can call it BDSM or Chitty-Chitty-Bang-Bang for all I care.
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