Greta75
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FR There are two types of dominants out there. 1) Really wants a woman to quit her job and be completely and utterly and totally reliant on him in ALL ways. These type of dominants love to micro-manage every aspect of this woman's life. And just want her to just totally devote her world to him and him only. (My ex-dom was like this, he enjoys micro-managing every single aspect of my life including picking up the clothes I will wear out everyday, and what am I allowed to do with my time. He wanted to micro-manage my drinks and food too, but I told him if he did that, I will leave. Like don't touch my drinks and food. And he utterly enjoys all that work, I mean, seriously, it's ALOT of work to micro-manage especially a person like me who is not exactly co-operative about anything at all and would have a gazillion objections and keep trying to negotiate every single aspect of what he wants. But in a way, he was very devoted to me which I liked. There was no doubt, no insecurity about his feelings for me. He was constantly in touch with me all the time. And the way I see it, he did it like he really enjoyed it. And it brings him joy. And I enjoyed watching him enjoy micro-managing me. But end of the day, I was reluctant to quit my job and be completely at his mercy. I think I was too afraid to take the leap to be financially vulnerable and dependent on a man. Which was why we ended. As this involves constant relocation and he moves countries every 2 or 3 years. It will be hard for me to find employment in those circumstances with the complications of work permits for each country. I think I was not ready to be feeling that vulnerable and being reliant on someone for money for me, is another level of vulnerability that is terrifying to me.) 2) The kind that gets off in persuading a woman with higher or equal income level to kneel to him. (Which will usually be not my type but such guys tend to be less micro-managing too as first of all, because the income level is better or equal, she has alot of power to walk anytime, he has very little to control her but psychologically, he has to be very very good at mental dominance.) Is there any right or wrong way? I don't think so. End of the day, it's all about compatibility.
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