Milesnmiles
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ORIGINAL: Greta75 https://sg.news.yahoo.com/certis-cisco-officer-touched-colleagues-breast-kissed-jailed-30-weeks-120444144.html Here is a good story of how two colleagues who regularly lunch together where the man probably mistake the woman is interested in him without asking carefully! And this gotta be quite a typical work place scenario where innocent friendliness with a male colleague could be misinterpreted as you softening up to him! The two regularly met for lunch and during other break times, and would communicate and share problems with each other, according to the prosecution. There would usually be no body contact between them except a “special handshake” as a greeting. A few days before the incident, the man told her that he would be bringing her to a “beautiful place” in Basement 2 of the terminal, which has a waterfall. On the day of the incident, he messaged her to meet at the armoury after their shift ended and addressed her as “sayang” and “dear”. He also told her not to wear a uniform underneath her jacket, but she did not follow his instructions. Instead, she zipped her jacket up to the collarbone to hide her uniform. Upon reaching the waterfall sometime after 9pm, he held her hand while they were climbing the stairs. When the woman asked him why, he replied that he was afraid she might fall. He then shared with her his relationship problems. While doing so, he told her to remove her bag from her shoulders as it was heavy. He then locked his arms over her shoulders from behind and told her “don’t move, don’t move” in a tone she described to the court as “ferocious”. The woman tried to move but couldn’t do so as he was too strong for her, said Deputy Public Prosecutor Chew Xin Ying in her closing submissions for the case. The man then kissed her neck, and placed his right hand under her jacket, uniform and bra to cup her left breast. She also felt his fingers touching her nipple area. The victim then confronted him and told him off for behaving “very cheaply”. The man then pushed her against a wall and tried touching her again. She responded by crossing her arms across her chest. He then kissed her neck, cheeks, and eventually her lips after placing his hands on her palms. The victim moved away immediately and the man begged her not to tell anyone about the incident. When the victim started crying, he asked why she was making such a big fuss and said “it’s not as if you lost your virginity”, according to the DPP. The victim responded by slapping him before leaving. The accused continued apologising to the woman through messages sent to her phone, but she ignored him. Upon reaching home, the woman attempted suicide but was prevented from doing so by her roommate. She also harboured thoughts of shooting herself. Quite honestly if I was the woman in this case, I would have known from the minute that he asked me "not to wear a uniform underneath my jacket", that I had some place else I'd rather be. Honestly, except for the eating lunch together and being friendly, everything you mentioned about this is filled with red flags that would have me running for the hills. The man should have stopped everything as soon as he noticed any resistance or uncomfortableness on the part of the woman and should have been apologizing from that point and not after he had groped her, since he didn't, he deserved what ever punishment he received.
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