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gem7 -> what makes a good slave? (11/23/2017 8:39:43 AM)
hello, i am gem7. while i have been a member for several years, this is my first time posting. i am in training as slave 24/7. i wish to learn more about serving, to improve my service to Master. so i am asking, what makes a good slave? what qualities and attributes do you value in a slave? i realize that each relationship, Master, and slave is unique, however, i want to be the best slave i can be for Master, and would appreciate any comments intended to help me improve my service. thankyou for your time.

ThatDizzyChick -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/24/2017 7:24:30 PM)
Depends on who you ask.

nancygirl34652 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/24/2017 8:41:07 PM)
I would suggest you ask him....after all he is the one you will be serving.

tamaka -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/24/2017 9:53:06 PM)
Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up.

DarkSteven -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 12:48:28 AM)
A good slave is one that pleases their M type well.

gem7 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 7:10:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: nancygirl34652 I would suggest you ask him....after all he is the one you will be serving. thank you. yes, i understand. and i do ask. while there are many instructions Master has given me, i guess i would like to learn more. i don't know anyone other than Master in this lifestyle, and thought maybe be able to surprise Him (smiling).

gem7 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 7:19:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up. thank you. ... i could feel my heart open as i read, 'really wanting to be' and how good i feel when i see Master happy. Your comment also had me thinking of times when my self esteem gets low, and my thinking effected, and i do sometimes feel like giving up. Master helped me long ago with a list to refer back to when i feel 'off track'. (initially started by Him, and continued by me). do you have any advice for slaves when they are experiencing times of self doubt?

gem7 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 7:28:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven A good slave is one that pleases their M type well. thank you for taking the time to respond. yes, pleasing Master is my priority.

gem7 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 7:39:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDizzyChick Depends on who you ask. thank you for taking the time to comment. i know that because we are all individuals, 'what makes a good slave' will be different for different folks. i posted this thread in the hopes of learning, expanding ....being a better slave. and i do know asking my Master is the first place to ask (and i do). and i do read online as well. There is so much experience shared in these threads, and i have experienced lots of 'ah ha' moments reading the forums here. guess i'm hoping to expand my knowledge and understanding, and have a few more 'ah ha' moments.

tamaka -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 10:06:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gem7 quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up. thank you. ... i could feel my heart open as i read, 'really wanting to be' and how good i feel when i see Master happy. Your comment also had me thinking of times when my self esteem gets low, and my thinking effected, and i do sometimes feel like giving up. Master helped me long ago with a list to refer back to when i feel 'off track'. (initially started by Him, and continued by me). do you have any advice for slaves when they are experiencing times of self doubt? I have finally learned to talk to my Master more about thoughts/feelings i'm having related to my own inner doubts or insecurities. I ask Him if i'm pleasing Him as much as former slaves He has owned. I ask Him if i am behaving the way that He wants me to at different times in different ways. Overall, i ask more with my current Master than i ever have with my previous Masters. My questions usually result in a good conversation between my Master and me that has helped us both continue to progress in positive ways in our M/s relationship.

gem7 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 11:16:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka quote: ORIGINAL: gem7 quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka Really wanting to be will usually get you there if you don't give up. thank you. ... i could feel my heart open as i read, 'really wanting to be' and how good i feel when i see Master happy. Your comment also had me thinking of times when my self esteem gets low, and my thinking effected, and i do sometimes feel like giving up. Master helped me long ago with a list to refer back to when i feel 'off track'. (initially started by Him, and continued by me). do you have any advice for slaves when they are experiencing times of self doubt? I have finally learned to talk to my Master more about thoughts/feelings i'm having related to my own inner doubts or insecurities. I ask Him if i'm pleasing Him as much as former slaves He has owned. I ask Him if i am behaving the way that He wants me to at different times in different ways. Overall, i ask more with my current Master than i ever have with my previous Masters. My questions usually result in a good conversation between my Master and me that has helped us both continue to progress in positive ways in our M/s relationship. thank you, i will definitely do this. i like how it puts the focus on pleasing Master. i believe one gets what they focus on, and asking Master, as you do, will help me focus on improvement rather than self doubt.

kiwisub22 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 6:22:23 PM)
It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me. At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well. One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves.

tamaka -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/25/2017 8:21:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub22 It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me. At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well. One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves. What a small mind you have.

gem7 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/26/2017 6:23:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub22 It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me. At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well. One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves. thank you, kiwisub22. i was introduced to this lifestyle 6 years ago by my Master. and i was brand new to this lifestyle. we began on line, and after visiting back and forth, moved in together. W/we lived together on the westcoast for three years, and now W/we have recently arrived in Ontario. Master has given me His expectations. over time, additional expectations have been added. i don't really get told if i am doing well, but have been told to pay attention to cause and effect, and Master corrects me. i have been told to find the joy in service as my reward. i came in with trust issues, and work to develop trust (which i do/am). thank you for your response, as i do go through periods of insecurity and jealousy so i think i will hold off asking to be compared to others. for me, what's important is how i am doing, am i pleasing Master and Master has advised me that His relationships with other people, are exactly that...with other people, and not my concern. that my concern is His relationship with me.

kiwisub22 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/26/2017 12:06:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tamaka quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub22 It took me about 6 months to get comfortable with the fact that I was pleasing my Sir. I was brand new to the lifestyle and dove right into a 24/7 relationship. He gave me his expectations and I fulfilled them - and if I didn't, he corrected me. At some point you will trust your master to tell you what he wants and trust him when he tells you that you are doing well. One thing I wouldn't do, because it screams insecurity and jealousy is to ask him to compare you to other subs/slaves. What a small mind you have. and how helpful you are........[:D]

kiwisub22 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/26/2017 12:08:03 PM)
Oh dear - I just read tamaka's post and realise that i just basically called her insecure and jealous. No wonder she was snarky......oops, my bad! [:D]

tamaka -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/26/2017 12:35:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub22 Oh dear - I just read tamaka's post and realise that i just basically called her insecure and jealous. No wonder she was snarky......oops, my bad! [:D] No you didn't. You just assumed that everyone is like you.

kiwisub22 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/26/2017 1:57:04 PM)
Now, you see, if you had posted that the first time, without the snark, it would have been much more helpful. And you are right - not everyone is like me. And comparing myself to other significant others would be a sign of insecurity and jealousy - for me. For you, apparently, not so much. I would say you are more evolved than me, except you feel the need to slang at people rather than try to help.

tamaka -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/26/2017 2:16:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kiwisub22 Now, you see, if you had posted that the first time, without the snark, it would have been much more helpful. And you are right - not everyone is like me. And comparing myself to other significant others would be a sign of insecurity and jealousy - for me. For you, apparently, not so much. I would say you are more evolved than me, except you feel the need to slang at people rather than try to help. I'd say i helped pretty well. Sorry if you don't appreciate my straight-forward style. But that's also your problem, not mine.

kiwisub22 -> RE: what makes a good slave? (11/26/2017 4:44:19 PM)
Your straight forward style isn't the problem - the problem was that i had no idea what you found to be a problem in my original post. So, basically, your lack of communication skills on-line would be the problem. Unfortunately, i couldn't hear the rest of the conversation in your head to explain your post.

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