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PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 10:45:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins Surely it's better when someone has looked at your profile and doesn't message you, rather than does look, and then messages you with inane nonsense that wastes the time of you both. What sort of deranged people are these? Needles I don't know .... I think, at bottom, it's about people not knowing how to transfer RT codes of behaviour to their internet equivalents. A better analogy might be: you go out walking in public, and your appearance is 'public' - other people are entitled to look at you. But if they come over and scrutinise you carefully from head to toe - that turns into an encroachment into what's more 'private' than 'public'. Our profiles here on CS are called 'public' but, well, for some, a person who has a good close read of a profile is entiering a 'private space'. Takes all sorts!

WhoreMods -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:01:25 AM)
Nobody is entitled to a reply. That said, unless somebody's messaged you with something really offensive (and I've heard a few horror stories about that) it's a lot quicker and easier to just block somebody you don't want to talk to than it is to send them a bug eyed torrent of abuse.

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:06:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins Surely it's better when someone has looked at your profile and doesn't message you, rather than does look, and then messages you with inane nonsense that wastes the time of you both. What sort of deranged people are these? Needles I don't know .... I think, at bottom, it's about people not knowing how to transfer RT codes of behaviour to their internet equivalents. A better analogy might be: you go out walking in public, and your appearance is 'public' - other people are entitled to look at you. But if they come over and scrutinise you carefully from head to toe - that turns into an encroachment into what's more 'private' than 'public'. Our profiles here on CS are called 'public' but, well, for some, a person who has a good close read of a profile is entiering a 'private space'. Takes all sorts! It does indeed. I view that kind of contact etiquette as misplaced as the guys that think it's ok to send a dick pic as their opening introduction. I'm not going to get all offended that a guy checks me out some place but decides I'm really not his type, or picks up the vibe from me that I'm not interested, but I'd be pretty pissed off if a guy got his dick out in front of me. My ex playmate and I have been to a few 'play' clubs in London, but not with the intention of involving others. We've had guys and couples check us out, and approach us. Even there you have a level of manners that people seem to think don't apply online. Mind you, I guess my profile is just never going to be that intimate, or explicate, even if I were looking, that I'd feel 'violated' that someone had viewed my profile without contacting me. Hell, I think I have a huge amount that view me already on hide [:D] Needles

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:17:48 AM)
quote: Hell, I think I have a huge amount that view me already on hide Strewth. Yet another way in which, I suspect, it's quite different for women here. Me, I think I used to be somewhat put out if someone had read my profile but not at least said 'Hello'. But I quickly realised that the sense of 'manners' I had with that was out of place. My CS profile is wholly public as far as I'm concerned, now - well, to the people who've signed up with CS, anyway.

WhoreMods -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:29:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins Surely it's better when someone has looked at your profile and doesn't message you, rather than does look, and then messages you with inane nonsense that wastes the time of you both. What sort of deranged people are these? Needles I don't know .... I think, at bottom, it's about people not knowing how to transfer RT codes of behaviour to their internet equivalents. A better analogy might be: you go out walking in public, and your appearance is 'public' - other people are entitled to look at you. But if they come over and scrutinise you carefully from head to toe - that turns into an encroachment into what's more 'private' than 'public'. Our profiles here on CS are called 'public' but, well, for some, a person who has a good close read of a profile is entiering a 'private space'. Takes all sorts! It does indeed. I view that kind of contact etiquette as misplaced as the guys that think it's ok to send a dick pic as their opening introduction. I'm not going to get all offended that a guy checks me out some place but decides I'm really not his type, or picks up the vibe from me that I'm not interested, but I'd be pretty pissed off if a guy got his dick out in front of me. My ex playmate and I have been to a few 'play' clubs in London, but not with the intention of involving others. We've had guys and couples check us out, and approach us. Even there you have a level of manners that people seem to think don't apply online. Mind you, I guess my profile is just never going to be that intimate, or explicate, even if I were looking, that I'd feel 'violated' that someone had viewed my profile without contacting me. Hell, I think I have a huge amount that view me already on hide [:D] Needles I think it's because people fear that if they can see you IRL, then they can belt you one if you say any of the stuff that people seem to think blathering to people who can't retaliate makes them a manly badass on t'internet. (Or possibly that people who can actually get into a play party, rather than being told to fuck off and find a pub full of chavs instead, have better manners than some mouthbreather who they won't let in because all he's read about the fetish scene is Bizarre's annual articles on bullshitting your way into fetish nights wearing a check shirt and jeans...)

Lucylastic -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:41:24 AM)
politeness 101 Will we get to know each other better? ;) Add me, here I do not activate my profile :( intriguing, no? no

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:46:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: Hell, I think I have a huge amount that view me already on hide Strewth. Yet another way in which, I suspect, it's quite different for women here. Me, I think I used to be somewhat put out if someone had read my profile but not at least said 'Hello'. But I quickly realised that the sense of 'manners' I had with that was out of place. My CS profile is wholly public as far as I'm concerned, now - well, to the people who've signed up with CS, anyway. Uuummm, well I guess here is a slightly different thing for me. I have been a member elsewhere and on those profiles you could have private sections that only certain people could view ... either by being a friend, or through invitation only. I don't actually recall ever opening your profile up fully, but I think I must have done once as I do remember PMing you about some such nonsense to do with a photo of yours. You didn't even open it I don't think, and I only know that from checking on something for someone else a short time afterwards. I actually never see your profile anymore on the other side. Still, I thought nothing of it, it's not like it was important, and you could have filters on for all I know, or just not want to talk to me lol That's the thing though ... Were I looking for someone, I would look at their profile in full, and check out their posting history, if that didn't float my boat I wouldn't bother contacting them. That comes from the fact that I get fed up of guys doing it to me, and I don't see it as an invasion of my privacy. At first I had thought that maybe this was a D type response thing, but then I remember you're an s type? So that's that theory out lol Needles

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:48:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic politeness 101 Will we get to know each other better? ;) Add me, here I do not activate my profile :( intriguing, no? no Yep, I've just deleted that one too! Needles

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:49:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WhoreMods quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins Surely it's better when someone has looked at your profile and doesn't message you, rather than does look, and then messages you with inane nonsense that wastes the time of you both. What sort of deranged people are these? Needles I don't know .... I think, at bottom, it's about people not knowing how to transfer RT codes of behaviour to their internet equivalents. A better analogy might be: you go out walking in public, and your appearance is 'public' - other people are entitled to look at you. But if they come over and scrutinise you carefully from head to toe - that turns into an encroachment into what's more 'private' than 'public'. Our profiles here on CS are called 'public' but, well, for some, a person who has a good close read of a profile is entiering a 'private space'. Takes all sorts! It does indeed. I view that kind of contact etiquette as misplaced as the guys that think it's ok to send a dick pic as their opening introduction. I'm not going to get all offended that a guy checks me out some place but decides I'm really not his type, or picks up the vibe from me that I'm not interested, but I'd be pretty pissed off if a guy got his dick out in front of me. My ex playmate and I have been to a few 'play' clubs in London, but not with the intention of involving others. We've had guys and couples check us out, and approach us. Even there you have a level of manners that people seem to think don't apply online. Mind you, I guess my profile is just never going to be that intimate, or explicate, even if I were looking, that I'd feel 'violated' that someone had viewed my profile without contacting me. Hell, I think I have a huge amount that view me already on hide [:D] Needles I think it's because people fear that if they can see you IRL, then they can belt you one if you say any of the stuff that people seem to think blathering to people who can't retaliate makes them a manly badass on t'internet. (Or possibly that people who can actually get into a play party, rather than being told to fuck off and find a pub full of chavs instead, have better manners than some mouthbreather who they won't let in because all he's read about the fetish scene is Bizarre's annual articles on bullshitting your way into fetish nights wearing a check shirt and jeans...) Some people on here want to be seriously thankful that they haven't been stood in front of me the way they have behaved towards me. I would have flattened them! Needles

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 11:50:42 AM)
quote: I don't actually recall ever opening your profile up fully, but I think I must have done once as I do remember PMing you about some such nonsense to do with a photo of yours. You didn't even open it I don't think, and I only know that from checking on something for someone else a short time afterwards. I actually never see your profile anymore on the other side. Still, I thought nothing of it, it's not like it was important, and you could have filters on for all I know, or just not want to talk to me lol Oh! Well, that was rude of me. I wouldn't have deliberately ignored a message from a friend on these forums. It might have come at a time when I was away from home and reading on my mobile - I've clicked the wrong things and somehow lost or passed by messages that way, before.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 12:00:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: Hell, I think I have a huge amount that view me already on hide Strewth. Yet another way in which, I suspect, it's quite different for women here. Me, I think I used to be somewhat put out if someone had read my profile but not at least said 'Hello'. But I quickly realised that the sense of 'manners' I had with that was out of place. My CS profile is wholly public as far as I'm concerned, now - well, to the people who've signed up with CS, anyway. I think it is more polite NOT to message someone if I’ve read their profile and know that I’m not interested in them because of what I’ve read. I’d prefer the same myself.

longwayhome -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 12:40:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic politeness 101 Will we get to know each other better? ;) Add me, here I do not activate my profile :( intriguing, no? no I've had a couple of people message me to say they liked my profile (it's nothing clever, no pics and a random stream of consciousness) and then discovered that they do not keep *their* profile active. I always answer because I assume they realise that I don't use CS to look for partners and I want to be polite and friendly to someone who is being decent to me because I have enjoyed exchanging messages with some fascinating people. It does however leave you feeling at a bit of a disadvantage. If someone reads your profile and then intrudes into your mailbox, you feel that they should at least be open enough to allow you to see what they are about too.

Lucylastic -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 1:31:51 PM)
I dont have anything in my profile. I find it less problematic But lately, the mail is screwy as hell. Btw, you got mail. Lol

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 1:52:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: I don't actually recall ever opening your profile up fully, but I think I must have done once as I do remember PMing you about some such nonsense to do with a photo of yours. You didn't even open it I don't think, and I only know that from checking on something for someone else a short time afterwards. I actually never see your profile anymore on the other side. Still, I thought nothing of it, it's not like it was important, and you could have filters on for all I know, or just not want to talk to me lol Oh! Well, that was rude of me. I wouldn't have deliberately ignored a message from a friend on these forums. It might have come at a time when I was away from home and reading on my mobile - I've clicked the wrong things and somehow lost or passed by messages that way, before. Then I shall remember that for future reference just in case there is ever such need for me to PM you, and there not to be a reply. I shall gently prod in here to let you know [;)] Needles

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 2:46:54 PM)
quote: Then I shall remember that for future reference just in case there is ever such need for me to PM you, and there not to be a reply. I shall gently prod in here to let you know We have a deal! :-)

longwayhome -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 2:47:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic I dont have anything in my profile. I find it less problematic But lately, the mail is screwy as hell. Btw, you got mail. Lol Even the quality of spamming even seems to have declined. There also seems to be a minor infection of random "males" messaging that they don't have a profile but you can respond on a shortened url. Not even an attempt to work out what sex they may have to be to get you to answer, if indeed you are gullible enough to take the risk of responding.

Wayward5oul -> RE: politeness and manners (12/7/2017 3:02:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic politeness 101 Will we get to know each other better? ;) Add me, here I do not activate my profile :( intriguing, no? no Yep, I've just deleted that one too! Needles Just got it myself.

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 6:59:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins quote: ORIGINAL: Lucylastic politeness 101 Will we get to know each other better? ;) Add me, here I do not activate my profile :( intriguing, no? no Yep, I've just deleted that one too! Needles Just got it myself. Wow, now aren't we all feeling special [:D] Needles

kdsub -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 8:30:36 AM)
I do have some advice for you... We all have the same power over our lives. If you allow someone to get under your skin you are diminishing your power and giving it to them. Just know yourself and your worth and ignore those that would try to take some from you. You are who you are... if someone does not like that don't give them the satisfaction of believing they have reduced you. Butch

LadyPact -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 9:36:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul Yep, I've just deleted that one too! Needles quote: Just got it myself. I don't want to jump the gun. Are you ladies saying the OP started this thread in the attempt to start contacting women who responded? Dang good thing I blocked the OP some time ago. [:D]

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