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Wayward5oul -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 10:58:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul Yep, I've just deleted that one too! Needles quote: Just got it myself. I don't want to jump the gun. Are you ladies saying the OP started this thread in the attempt to start contacting women who responded? Dang good thing I blocked the OP some time ago. [:D] No, the email was from someone else. And I got it before I posted anything in this thread.

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 3:49:19 PM)
Well the OP visited my profile, but the PM was from someone else. I couldn't tell you what though, oddly I've had a speight of spammers just mailing urls, and a Bi Domme from the US the keeps calling me Dear. They all get deleted as well. Needles

Lucylastic -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 4:25:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: Wayward5oul Yep, I've just deleted that one too! Needles quote: Just got it myself. I don't want to jump the gun. Are you ladies saying the OP started this thread in the attempt to start contacting women who responded? Dang good thing I blocked the OP some time ago. [:D] No not the OP, but he has mailed me a couple of times in the past, my post was a "polite" message I had just received from someone. while reading the thread. [:)]

NoirMetal -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 7:38:53 PM)
LOL,I once got a mass-message from some gay guys in california who thought I might want to wander down there and play bottom to them. Maybe the rude girls got the same one?

Wayward5oul -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 8:56:28 PM)
Haven't gotten that one. But I got one today wanting to know if I had kids and would I be interested in taboo. No wonder we have so little patience.

Shandirra -> RE: politeness and manners (12/8/2017 9:50:24 PM)
@OP - Your view of "politely" messaging a person is strictly one sided. If you do not fit the parameters of what they seek in correspondence, then you should not be contacting them. It's rude to thrust yourself into their inbox to satisfy your desires regardless of however "politely" you believe it has been phrased. I totally understand and even condone the rude replies if they feel it serves their purpose in some manner. Such as an outlet for frustration and aggravation in dealing with a dimwit. My replies usually depend on my mood of the moment. If they've caught me in a magnanimous moment, I'll simply block, delete and report as spam. Otherwise, the vitriol will spill out and burn their eyeballs. Either response is warranted when a complete stranger wanders to my inbox without meeting the requirements stated succinctly within my profile. At no time is anyone for any reason entitled to courtesy unless I feel it's warranted.

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 1:48:00 PM)
FR Quick Q, as an aside: LP addressed other women here as 'You ladies'. Is that standard? Does a woman address a group of other women as 'ladies', ordinarily? I don't know why, exactly, but that made me inwardly titter just a little.

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:09:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer FR Quick Q, as an aside: LP addressed other women here as 'You ladies'. Is that standard? Does a woman address a group of other women as 'ladies', ordinarily? I don't know why, exactly, but that made me inwardly titter just a little. I can't speak for anyone else, but for myself, yes. If I was speaking specifically to a group of women then I'd address them as Ladies, just as I'd address the men as Gentlemen, or Gents if I'm being slightly less formal. In a totally non formal group I'll just use the generic 'guys'. I know guys is supposed to refer to males, but it seems to be used quite generically too. Needles

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:11:06 PM)
quote: I know guys is supposed to refer to males, but it seems to be used quite generically too. It still grates on me a bit to do that if I'm addressing women as well as men. Too American. Women are not, and cannot be, 'guys'. I'd rather say 'You folks', even though that sounds completely silly coming from someone who speaks with my accent.

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:15:23 PM)
Yeah, I get where you're coming from with it, and as said, it is only when really informal. I'd never consider using it for a professional setting. I think it actually crept in with me because I had a friend that used it so much. It's one of those annoying quirks you pick up and wish you could drop. Needles

Wayward5oul -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:16:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer FR Quick Q, as an aside: LP addressed other women here as 'You ladies'. Is that standard? Does a woman address a group of other women as 'ladies', ordinarily? I don't know why, exactly, but that made me inwardly titter just a little. I can't speak for anyone else, but for myself, yes. If I was speaking specifically to a group of women then I'd address them as Ladies, just as I'd address the men as Gentlemen, or Gents if I'm being slightly less formal. In a totally non formal group I'll just use the generic 'guys'. I know guys is supposed to refer to males, but it seems to be used quite generically too. Needles Same here.

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:18:08 PM)
I think the best solution is to address a mixed group of people as 'Comrades'. Afterwards, the people who think it concerning can phone the relevant government agencies. [:)]

LadyPact -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:18:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer FR Quick Q, as an aside: LP addressed other women here as 'You ladies'. Is that standard? Does a woman address a group of other women as 'ladies', ordinarily? I don't know why, exactly, but that made me inwardly titter just a little. Ha! You said something quite similar a few years back when I wrote a thread, to ask the male opinion on some random thing and addressed the folks as "gentlemen". Of course, the term "you ladies" is clunky. My weird way of saying 'we' in a sense of outward direction and 'you' in the plural of a group. We crude Americans (some of us) will use the term "ladies" as the situation is appropriate. "Ladies, me show you the house." "Ladies, I'm here to talk to you about..." So on. [;)] You must elevate to a full giggle when I use a term like "y'all."[8D]

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:20:53 PM)
I love 'y'all'. I wish it were a thing in British English. The Irish will use 'Youse' ... but that's never caught on here.

Wayward5oul -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:21:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer FR Quick Q, as an aside: LP addressed other women here as 'You ladies'. Is that standard? Does a woman address a group of other women as 'ladies', ordinarily? I don't know why, exactly, but that made me inwardly titter just a little. Ha! You said something quite similar a few years back when I wrote a thread, to ask the male opinion on some random thing and addressed the folks as "gentlemen". Of course, the term "you ladies" is clunky. My weird way of saying 'we' in a sense of outward direction and 'you' in the plural of a group. We crude Americans (some of us) will use the term "ladies" as the situation is appropriate. "Ladies, me show you the house." "Ladies, I'm here to talk to you about..." So on. [;)] You must elevate to a full giggle when I use a term like "y'all."[8D] I would love to see the reaction upon hearing something like "dudes and dudettes".

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:24:16 PM)
quote: I would love to see the reaction upon hearing something like "dudes and dudettes". Likewise, in the UK, with 'blokes and birds'. I've never once known anyone to have the guts to do that, though.

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:29:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I think the best solution is to address a mixed group of people as 'Comrades'. Afterwards, the people who think it concerning can phone the relevant government agencies. [:)] [:D] My warped sense of humour would actually want to do that lol Needles

needlesandpins -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 2:32:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I love 'y'all'. I wish it were a thing in British English. The Irish will use 'Youse' ... but that's never caught on here. Am I wrong/right in thinking that the Scousers also say 'Youse'? I like y'all too. There is someone I follow on youtube from Texas, and she uses it quite a bit :-) Needles

PeonForHer -> RE: politeness and manners (12/9/2017 3:04:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: needlesandpins quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I love 'y'all'. I wish it were a thing in British English. The Irish will use 'Youse' ... but that's never caught on here. Am I wrong/right in thinking that the Scousers also say 'Youse'? I like y'all too. There is someone I follow on youtube from Texas, and she uses it quite a bit :-) Needles I think Scousers do, plus Irish and Northern Irish, plus the Scots and Northern English ... it seems to be pretty common everywhere except in Southern England, in fact. It seems such a sensible word, to me.

peppermint -> RE: politeness and manners (12/10/2017 8:38:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer I love 'y'all'. I wish it were a thing in British English. The Irish will use 'Youse' ... but that's never caught on here. In Pennsylvania we use "yuns."

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