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WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/23/2017 10:15:40 PM   
Rebelwolf85


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I tried to contact support and tries to report this profile named sdy2017 as an underage user. I don't know what this 14 year old is thinking being on an adult site like this. I have proof that they are underage. So please be careful with who you talk to on here. If any mods or admins would like the screenshots let me know on my profile Rebelwol85. Thanks.
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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/23/2017 11:47:15 PM   
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Unfortunately this is a free site with a negligible barrier to entry, so people who shouldn't get on here often do. (Kids lie about their age to go places they shouldn't all the time.) On top of that, site admin really isn't up to par, so what support staff do exist are stretched thin.

You're better off not naming names here, since that can just serve to point any predators here at potential prey. The account may be part of a sting operation (official or not), part of a scam, or someone who stepped in over their head. Unfortunately, absent a proper support team, there's little random users can do to effectively police the site.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/24/2017 5:16:43 PM   
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What makes you think she is underage?

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/24/2017 5:52:31 PM   
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Yes, yes..

Because the right thing to do is start a thread and get more people directed to the underage profile!!! Hey, let's even add a link!!!

Dude, you'd better have a copy of that girl's birth certificate. You said you can prove it. Pony up.



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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/24/2017 6:41:51 PM   
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Personally, I don't mind talking to people of all ages but given the nature of this site, if I found out that someone was underage, I would immediately block and hide that person and then try to notify support about it.

But I'm pretty sure I would not create a thread letting others know where to find the underage person.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/24/2017 6:49:23 PM   
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I never thought of that LadyPact... I saw she was from my hometown so I did check out her profile... she looks and says she is legal anyway

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/25/2017 1:49:50 AM   
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You're in your 30's but obviously have your radar tuned for 18 year old teenagers. You interacted with a teenager enough to learn she was underage. So what happened while you were hunting teenagers... you stumble into a sting operation and want to cover your ass with this post? Does anyone else smell something fishy or is it just my jaded sinicism?

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/25/2017 9:16:06 AM   
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You're so right, RS. The obsession men have with jailbait and 18 yr olds to skirt the legal lines has always creeped me the fuck out. Sting or not, the nature of having found her, talked to her and being able to prove she's 14 is a behavior that sure smells bad.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/25/2017 11:06:09 AM   
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You're in your 30's but obviously have your radar tuned for 18 year old teenagers. You interacted with a teenager enough to learn she was underage. So what happened while you were hunting teenagers... you stumble into a sting operation and want to cover your ass with this post? Does anyone else smell something fishy or is it just my jaded sinicism?

It's just your jaded sinicism... wait a minute what's that smell? ;-)

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/25/2017 11:11:36 AM   
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The obsession men have ...
Do you really think all men have this obsession or did you just forget to say some men?

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/25/2017 3:04:05 PM   
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You're so right, RS. The obsession men have with jailbait and 18 yr olds to skirt the legal lines has always creeped me the fuck out. Sting or not, the nature of having found her, talked to her and being able to prove she's 14 is a behavior that sure smells bad.


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
You're in your 30's but obviously have your radar tuned for 18 year old teenagers. You interacted with a teenager enough to learn she was underage. So what happened while you were hunting teenagers... you stumble into a sting operation and want to cover your ass with this post? Does anyone else smell something fishy or is it just my jaded sinicism?

It's just your jaded sinicism... wait a minute what's that smell? ;-)


It makes me wonder what he did or said to that 14 year old that riled his emotions enough to "warn us" and say "So please be careful with who you talk to on here." The target of his concern doesn't seem to be for the teenager, but for the older person who is talking to them. Whatever the case may be, his misguided public service warning leaves a funny smell in the air around him. He really opened a can of worms with his comments in this thread.



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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/26/2017 12:32:53 AM   
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I didn't immediately think that way when I read the OP but I on re-reading you are right.

That's not the post I would write if I inadvertently encountered someone who was or appeared to be underage. Well for starters I wouldn't write a post.

Where's the care? I understand the public hysteria, but it's a sad day when your first thought is self-preservation and that comes before protecting a minor - assuming of course that you have behaved properly and don't have a history of getting inappropriately involved with younger people.

Presumably there is a record of this guy's dealings with this person on the site so he should have nothing to fear?

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/26/2017 12:50:58 AM   
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This isn't the post I would write in that situation either. Besides the fishy smell in the OP, there was another thing that seemed odd about this. The girl's profile pic looks like she's 30... not 18 as listed. She certainly doesn't look like a 14 year old. As you mentioned, his behavior makes you wonder what got him all riled up. I wonder if will ever come back and fill in the details? This thread could pretty funny real fast.

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ORIGINAL: longwayhome
...That's not the post I would write if I inadvertently encountered someone who was or appeared to be underage. Well for starters I wouldn't write a post.

...it's a sad day when your first thought is self-preservation and that comes before protecting a minor - assuming of course that you have behaved properly and don't have a history of getting inappropriately involved with younger people.

...Presumably there is a record of this guy's dealings with this person on the site so he should have nothing to fear?



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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/26/2017 4:58:48 AM   
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I feel like alot of women look much more mature these days even at 14.

When I was 13, female entry age allowed for clubs are 21 and above.

But because at 13, I already looked easily like 26 to 28 yrs old.

I never ever get ID checked for clubs. They just let me enter, thinking I am that old, because I do look that old. My other girlfriends who look their age, would never successfully pull it off.

So ya know, at 13, people sold me alcohol with no problems too. And most people are shock when they hear my actual age.

And that's why at 13, I dated 21 yr olds because, I look legal. And nobody would blink.

Saying this, I have not looked at the woman's picture.

But definitely, there are some women who are almost 30 and still look 15.

And there are some women who look way beyond their age.

I think potentially, there can be some teenage girls online with daddy issues who are looking for older men. So men do have to be careful and not get swayed too much by looks. As over here, we got very smart teenagers entrapping older men, and then threatening to go to authorities to extort money from them.

I don't know, I feel like these days, people treat teenagers like children. But at 13, I can practically dictate a 21 yr old man exactly what I want or don't want in bed. I also knew how to choose my men so nothing ever gets done against my will. I was always assertive and knew what I want. And I went looking for it. Because I would never hook up with older men who got holier than thou attitude because they are older. Always choose those who treated me as an equal and talk to me like an equal.

I think when I was 13 and the oldest I had was 21 is not so bad.

What is worrying is when teenagers specifically aim for 50 yr olds. Because they got more money and can buy them things. Not that I feel sorry for any adult male who fall into this and get into trouble.

My logic still is. The older one should have known better.

In the case of OP, especially if the woman state she was 30. Why would he be guilty of specifically looking for 18 yr olds. Weird conclusion from some of you guys.

It could be she is truly a teen who looks 30. It could be they got close and she confessed her real age. Which he could have wasted alot of time in someone who he thought was 30 yr old.


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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/26/2017 10:04:19 AM   
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Well I have to go with RS on this one. Something smell fishy with the story.

I can honestly say I have never mistaken a teenager for someone of legal age. While women can look older and mature, in reality it becomes very apparent when talking or chatting with someone. Simple questions like what was your favorite TV show growing up, what was your first car you drove (year, make, model), etc. A few simple questions will show someones age especially if they are underage.

And the whole thing of running to the forums to be a tattle tale. My god, we are adults. A 30 something year old male running to the forums to warn me of an underage child he has been talking to. That screams of teenage behavior in it self.

Sorry, I just cannot buy the OPs story in any which way.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/26/2017 10:47:32 AM   
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As with Greta, at 13 I looked 18, I started going round town at 15, and was only ever asked for ID once by a new mini bouncer who was flexing his badge in front of the regulars, so we went to the other club for over 21s and never went back there. I was 16. My ex was a bus driver and took the kids to school. He then did delivering at night. Sometimes he'd see the girls he'd taken home from school a couple of hours before all dressed up for town. He was shocked by what he saw with these girls. If these girls lied, and obviously they were, he knew how easy it would be for guys to get themselves into trouble. Some of them were 13. It's easy for girls to look older than they are, and actually if you have any level of intelligence it's exceptionally easy to answer questions and hold a conversation too. Mind you, some of us weren't there for sex, so the hard part was fending off persistent guys that wouldn't take NO for an answer.

Now as to this OP, to be tricked by a photo, I understand, although I haven't checked out the profile. It may not even be her in the photo. However, for your first thought to come here and warn others to be careful as to whom they speak to, rather than the welfare of the minor, that I find odd. Regardless of her motives for being here, you are the adult. A post to warm any MOD around that you've tried to contact them on the other side, that you have concerns, and can they investigate, cool, but this, no, not so much.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/26/2017 8:33:59 PM   
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So basically you are accusing me of being a pedophile? You are a fucking dumbass. I can prove my side of things without a fucking sweat.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/26/2017 10:04:13 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Milesnmiles


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ORIGINAL: cloverodella
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The obsession men have ...
Do you really think all men have this obsession or did you just forget to say some men?



You have got to be kidding me. Come on. I mean I know you're not, but seriously? Seriously? I made a statement in which I put no qualifier or quantifier. It is you and you alone who turned "men" into "all men". I did not forget to say "some", nor did I actually say "all". Enter the famous Gaslight Strawman...

Do all men seek out barely legal teens? No. Of course not. However, the plain fact is that it is men who are into barely legal teens, not women. The overwhelming majority of porn is shot and intended for the male gaze, so if men weren't so into barely legal girls, porn would not mention age so often. Of the porn featuring barely legal boys, it is also mainly for male consumption: it is either shot for gay men, or the fanasty of the younger men seeking older women. If the barely legal thing wasn't such a problem in pornography, it would not be a law that every porn manufacturer must have proof of age on file. A statement that CS conforms to the law is at the bottom of every page on the site - the link to the site's 18 U.S.C. §2257 Statement.

At this point it's actually hard to find porn that features women who look older than 25. When you do find it, it's either labeled MILF or "granny", which is obviously for a male gaze: MILF and "granny" are not words women use to self-describe. Porn shot for the female gaze features older men and women. I'd be interested to see a study breaking down the average age disparities between genders of porn actors, as well as career longevity. I'm guessing there is a huge difference.

Don't expect me to debate any of this, miles. I'm not going to argue against the strawmen you build.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/27/2017 5:21:38 AM   
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So basically you are accusing me of being a pedophile? You are a fucking dumbass. I can prove my side of things without a fucking sweat.

I would have thought that you were in a position to evidence what happened.

I don't think anyone is calling you a paedophile. They were just surprised that your post concentrated on warning people and did not show any particular concern for the welfare of the potentially underage girl you were talking about.

It may not be nice to be accused of thinking about the threat to you rather than showing care for a minor but, it is not the same as being accused of being a paedophile. There has been some talk about people liking girls who are young but of old enough to consent to adult, and some talk about underage girls deliberately trying to look older.

Your apparent lack of concern for the girl is what has really been questioned. You do of course have an opportunity to put that right.

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RE: WARNING!!!! BEWARE!!! - 12/27/2017 7:13:22 AM   
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So basically you are accusing me of being a pedophile? You are a fucking dumbass. I can prove my side of things without a fucking sweat.


Are you a Father?

You see, I'm a Mother. That's the prospective I look at this from. I've been that girl that looks older. As a girl in the UK where the age of consent is 16 I've also been in a position to be able to be with older men, and have older men try to take advantage of me. I've also been the child that has had men take advantage of me.

You CLAIM she is 14, you CLAIM you have proof of that, but your CONCERN is to warn other people as to whom they are talking to, NOT towards the CHILD on the site possibly being taken advantage of. As a Mother I find that ODD.

I'm not accusing you of being a paedophile, but I find your train of thinking ODD, and as a Mother, your duty of care towards a minor, worrying at best. Now, it suggests to me you are not a father ... at least, I'm seriously hoping you are not, because if so, WTF is your mind at that your concern is for other MEN, and not the CHILD?

You've been here a year, and never posted in the forums before, but the first time you do it's to warm other people to be careful in case the person they happen to be taking to is a 14 year old. I'm not into fucking people drastically younger than myself, so it's never going to happen to me, but if it turned out that I spotted a child on the site, my concern would be for them, not the welfare of the other adults here.

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