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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 7:29:58 PM

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What does "Pay It Forward" mean?
The expression “pay it forward” comes from the book of the same title by Catherine Ryan Hyde. It is the story of a young boy who does “a big help” for three people and tells them that instead of paying him back, they should “pay it forward" and do similar “big helps” for three other people, starting a chain reaction.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 7:38:11 PM

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I think most decent human beings are "random acts of kindness people". There never used to be a name for it, or such an awareness of it.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 9:32:15 PM

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I seem to collect strays whether people or animals ... Bring them in feed them sometimes they stay sometimes they move on. But it all paid off last week I think with the offer I got on the house I am moving into ... I was floored when she told me what my rent was for this month .... Still trying to get my jaw back in place LOL

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 9:47:55 PM

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Thank you.....that makes perfect sense :)

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RE: Pay it Forward - 7/31/2006 11:43:21 PM

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The idea is that you not "pay BACK" the person who helps you but instead "pay it FORWARD" to the next person who needs help.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/1/2006 10:45:42 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

What does "Pay It Forward" mean?
The expression “pay it forward” comes from the book of the same title by Catherine Ryan Hyde. It is the story of a young boy who does “a big help” for three people and tells them that instead of paying him back, they should “pay it forward" and do similar “big helps” for three other people, starting a chain reaction.

I have read the book and seen the movie. One of the most awesome movies that has come out.

Yes it is about paying if forward in a bigger way than my original post.

I am going to put myself out here. I am generally a pretty private person.

I was in a bad 10 year marriage. It was a vanilla marriage but I was a non consensual slave. I was forced to work so he didn't have, I had 3 children that I was 100% responsible for. This man took all our lives away. He systematically got rid of my friends and my family. I worked full time, paid childcare, took care of vast amount of animals from domestic to some pretty exotic ones. I took care of the house, the yard everything. He batter me down emotional and verbaly..tho he never laid a hand on me. I was useless, uncared for. My two oldest were gifted children. High IQ kids top of their classes. They were allowed no friends to come over or allowed to go to friends. He called them stupid worthless children. He was the epitome of an emotional abuser. When my daughter was 16 she attempted suicide. WOW did that open this worthless persons eyes. I got the hell out of there FINALLY.
From that day forward...it has been my mission that if I see any sign of emotional abuse I will do whatever it take to get that person out. When I moved, I opened my house to throw away teens. You know the drunk parent, the homeless kids, the throwaways. I loved them, I fed them, I advised them and some are much better off now. There was always a piece of floor at least for a sleeping bag.

I still to this day champion emotionally, physically, mentally abused or hurt people. If I cant help I try to help direct them to the right place. I will stop what I am doing to listen cry or just hug. My heart hurts for the underdog.

Anyways...maybe I am the little boy...I cant attribute who I am to one person that helped me get out of that....but you know I pay it forward....not one time, not three...but as much as this little person can do on a now limited income. (yes I am the wanker that doesn't work and am on SSDI due to severe anxiety disorder) I am lucky because the daughter that caused me to open my eyes now takes care of her mom. But even with my limited capasities...I do not stop..sometimes at the detriment of my own mental well being. If nothing else but to save one person... my life with be complete.

With this I but ask people to pass it on.

This may be the wrong place to post this but oh well....

SF

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/1/2006 11:02:08 PM

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i've done this too many times without anything ever getting back to me...so, what's the point in trying anymore?

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/1/2006 11:05:51 PM

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if done this too many times without anything ever getting back to me...so, what's the point in trying anymore?

<laffin> michael.. sometimes you just remind me of eeyore.. very down.. but still very adorable.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/6/2006 11:22:36 PM

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Savage, I heard a C&W song about that. I forget who does it. Does anyone here know?
Yes, I'm just a big SAP for stuff like that too. Giving people money for gas , food, people who I've never met.
One time last year I bought two tickets to see Willy Nelson here in hopes that a woman who I was going to ask would go with me.
I asked, she politely turned me down. I figured I'd go anyway and get my money back for the other ticket. ($45)
When I got to the M.B. Pelicans Ball field and was walking up to the ticket window I saw a young couple and their two young kids who were obviously not well off waiting in line to buy tickets. I walked up to them and said "Hey I got a no-show ticket here if you'd like it."
They were beaming and said they could go out to eat after the concert.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 2:20:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

i've done this too many times without anything ever getting back to me...so, what's the point in trying anymore?

Point ......damn what does point have to do with it.....its is simply plainly compassion for me me...its breathes life into me, it allows me to keep breathing and be a part of this world. You read this story......Michael...go read the entire confession thread if you have not.......another part of my story is there....along with others pain....read it if you dare....then come tell me....you have a worst life than all of us.

I did reach out to you. You said no thanks...I dont waste energy on those that do not want it.....I cannot and will not pity you....because that is what you seem to seek...I will not give you that satisfaction from me.

This is all I have to say.....you have my email.....use it if you dare.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 8:55:04 AM

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Yes the Movie is Excellent, Yep.... Pay it forward... Love it ....

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 9:15:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: popeye1250

Savage, I heard a C&W song about that. I forget who does it. Does anyone here know?
Yes, I'm just a big SAP for stuff like that too. Giving people money for gas , food, people who I've never met.
One time last year I bought two tickets to see Willy Nelson here in hopes that a woman who I was going to ask would go with me.
I asked, she politely turned me down. I figured I'd go anyway and get my money back for the other ticket. ($45)
When I got to the M.B. Pelicans Ball field and was walking up to the ticket window I saw a young couple and their two young kids who were obviously not well off waiting in line to buy tickets. I walked up to them and said "Hey I got a no-show ticket here if you'd like it."
They were beaming and said they could go out to eat after the concert.

The Road you leave behind By David Lee Murphy.... Awesome song....

I always take extra money with me when I go to work... that way, If anyone needs it, I have it.... There is this little girl that comes in the store all the time... she is like 7 or something... and she shouldn't even be allowd to cross the street by her self if you ask me.... but I watch her leave her house, go threw her alley, and accross the street to the store at LEAST once a day... and yesterday, she came to get a paper, and (being sunday, it was $1.50 instead of .50) only had a dollar.... but i paid the other .50 I didn't want her to have to go back home and come back... and she just looked at me... i don't think people do nice things for her or her family very often....

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 11:24:50 AM

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Savage, I read that thread (Confessions).
Message me an adress and I'll send you a check.
Tom

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 12:54:50 PM

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I have often stopped to help someone who broke down on the side of the road . I have done some good deeds in my life . never asked for a dime .... I do things more then not just to put a smile on someones face ... I have offered my place out to those I felt needed it even tho I wasn't sure how long I could do it ..... I watched that movie and think on this day that it's the only movie I know that brings a tear to my eyes.

I will never forget the acts a few have done for me this paast few weeks and will rmember to always pay it forward

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 1:00:44 PM

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If I do a random act of kindness, which I do, then I do not do it with the expectations that someone else will "pay it forward". If I do it with expectations, no matter how small, the act is selfish and then pretty much pointless. I also never brag about what I do. I always keep it to Myself. To brag about it completely nullifies it, it once again makes you selfish because once again you expect something in return, that being awe, admiration and/or praise. I would rather just feel good inside that I did something for someone else and made their day that much brighter. That is all I need.

I always do it because I want to and expect nothing in return, ever.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 1:09:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

If I do a random act of kindness, which I do, then I do not do it with the expectations that someone else will "pay it forward". If I do it with expectations, no matter how small, the act is selfish and then pretty much pointless. I also never brag about what I do. I always keep it to Myself. To brag about it completely nullifies it, it once again makes you selfish because once again you expect something in return, that being awe, admiration and/or praise. I would rather just feel good inside that I did something for someone else and made their day that much brighter. That is all I need.

I always do it because I want to and expect nothing in return, ever.

I am not going to post about how good natured and selfless I am becouse I am more humble than Sir Kenin and have a higher moral position .

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 1:15:34 PM

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Ummm. Humility is keeping it to yourself. Explain how I am not being humble please. Bragging about having a "higher moral position" as you call it is not only based on absolutely nothing factual, it also betrays the reality that you are not as humble as you might think.

In reality you would have been better served to say nothing at all.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 1:40:11 PM

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Ummm. Humility is keeping it to yourself. Explain how I am not being humble please. Bragging about having a "higher moral position" as you call it is not only based on absolutely nothing factual, it also betrays the reality that you are not as humble as you might think.

In reality you would have been better served to say nothing at all.

You good sir , have no grasp of sarcasm and a weak grasp of irony . You brought up humility with the content of your first post and I perceived an attempt at humble and holier than tho in the tone . Here lets sit down and take a look at the post and what you are saying .

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ORIGINAL: SirKenin

If I do a random act of kindness, which I do, then I do not do it with the expectations that someone else will "pay it forward". If I do it with expectations, no matter how small, the act is selfish and then pretty much pointless.

lets see .. that makes a good post that would be worthy of respect .Oh .. it continues ...

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I also never brag about what I do. I always keep it to Myself.

Wait what ? Ok .. I guess you should make that clear ... and then stop before someone thinks you are full of it .

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To brag about it completely nullifies it,

I sense a pattern forming

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it once again makes you selfish because once again you expect something in return, that being awe, admiration and/or praise.

So you are bringing it up and elaborating on it again .

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I would rather just feel good inside that I did something for someone else and made their day that much brighter.

Good so that's it ? Your done ? You sure your not looking for a pat on the shoulder ?

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That is all I need.

I think you have already said that ... and disproved it .

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I always do it because I want to and expect nothing in return, ever.

ummm ok I have read this from you FIVE times already ,thanks .

And just for the record I have never seriously made any claim at being humble . Why should I ? I think having a deep understanding of Ones self makes for a better person than someone who views their own worth against others . You have to truly believe you are better than other people to be "humble" or suffer from hum.

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 1:41:26 PM

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boys, boys....be good

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RE: Pay it Forward - 8/7/2006 1:54:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: cuddleheart50

boys, boys....be good

What ?

I know Sir Kenin isn't dumb .( I have been reading his other posts ) He should have easily seen what I was jesting about in my first responce to him on this thread . Since he didn't and instead chose to tell me to shut up in an off handed but very very polite manner .

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ORIGINAL: SirKenin
In reality you would have been better served to say nothing at all.

So I responded to help him see my position and the joke ( albiet a poor one if your sensitive ) .

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