BlkTallFullfig
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How does one know whether disobedience is the sub/slave passively resisting or his being forgetful/occasionally flaky? sometimes pointing it out, you are appreciative that he does try, but that constantly having to correct his mistakes or his attitude/behaviour is tiresome... asking, does he really want this kind of d/s..and if yes, then what is holding him back ...and if it's not, perhaps together you can work out some other arrangment...but to be a committed submissive, or more to the point, to be you're committed submissive, is probably not in either of your best interests Thank you Jasmyn. As I said this is not a current problem, but one I have encountered in the past, and want to deal with effectively if I should encounter it in the future, while hoping I do not (at least not frequently). I agree that after having discussions and agreeing on the boundaries, there ought not to be too much forgetfulness if he is committed to staying in the relationship. quote:
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I was trying to express disliking punishment, and preferring simply discipline, but what would one do when discipline failed? I guess it's not so much a case of the discipline having failed, but in them failing to observe the discipline (instilled?) expected...I'd try to find out why they are failing to observe it and act accordingly ... finding out whether we are actually on the same wave length ... and if not, is there a common ground that could be worked on ..This working on common ground is what is a little scary, because I believe it frequently becomes a matter of giving up D/s in order to remain in the relationship, and I don't believe that would ever work for me... I suppose experience and time will tell in the future. quote:
thetammyjo If it is different situations -- different activities, different or more intense levels of service/training, then it could simply be how that person learns. Try, make an error, get corrected, learn and move on. This would be a once or twice error in my opinion. As always your thoughts make perfect sense to me, thank you. M
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