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The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet a f... - 8/9/2006 3:34:38 PM   
AAkasha


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Status: offline 		It's probably feasible to create a point scale to help submissive men more clearly see what their chances are of finding a femdom mate.  All we need is a math brain to program the formula and build a questionairre.  How do you add up? 90 - 100+ points you are highly likely to meet a compatible femdom, 80-99 still in good shape, 70-79 you have a fair chance, 60-69 you might be worried and below 59 -- your outlook is bleak.

Starting with 100 points:

Add 10 points if you are single and never been married, no kids
Subtract 20 points if you are married and your wife consents/is aware you are looking
Subtract 50 points if you are married and hiding it from your wife
Subtract 15 points if you live in a very small town
Subtract 15 points if you are a virgin at age 35+
Subtract 15 points if your last romantic relationship was more than 2 years ago
Add 15 points if you have a steady job and income
Subtract 10 points if you are shy/introverted and women need to make the first move
Subtract 15 points if you have no real live bdsm experience
Subtract 20 points if you have a lot of experience but it's all online
Add 15 points if you regularly (at least 1 time a week) go out socially with friends
Subtract 10 points if you spend more than $250 a month on pro femdoms or porn
Subtract 15 points if you secretly crossdress and no one knows
Subtract 20 points if you secretly crossdress and no one knows, including your wife or ex wife
Add 5 points if you have a college degree
Add 5 points if you consider yourself wealthy
Add 10 points if you are regularly complimented on your looks by a woman (mom or sister does not count)
Add 10 points if you manage 3 or more people in your job
Add 10 points if you have had 2 or more relationships that lasted more than a year
Subtract 20 points if you are seeking a no-strings relationship
Add 15 points if you are willing/able to drive 4+ hours to meet someone and cultivate a relationship
Add 20 points if you are willing/able to  drive or fly 4+ hours to meet someone and cultivate a relationship
Add 10 points if you know you are a good kisser
Subtract 10 points if you do not know what kind of a kisser you are
Subtract 20 points if you have never kissed a woman

How do the numbers work out?
Femdoms, how do you think these criteria should be weighted? higher or lower? What would you add?
Akasha


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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 3:38:38 PM   
zenofeller


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Status: offline 		so i got 215 points on that scale. does that mean i need to wait half the average time for induction ? or that i can be twice as dominant as the normal sub to be tollerated ? or that i can be twice as not interested as your average guy ? or exactly what does it mean ?

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 3:39:54 PM   
AAkasha


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zenofeller

so i got 215 points on that scale. does that mean i need to wait half the average time for induction ? or that i can be twice as dominant as the normal sub to be tollerated ? or that i can be twice as not interested as your average guy ? or exactly what does it mean ?

You pretty much get a 0 for inability to read instructions.
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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 3:43:05 PM   
LTRsubNW


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Status: offline 		I got 103 points.

(But I divided by 7 and added 13).

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 3:53:31 PM   
cloudboy


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Status: offline 		Basically, if you score enough pts, there's always the hope of meeting the ultimate FEMDOM..
....as just one example.

Solzhenitsyn used to say, "A person who's warm can't understand a person whose cold."

He was a wise man, even if he did fall off the cliff of eccentricity in the end.

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 4:08:51 PM   
zenofeller


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Status: offline 		Let's see then :

quote:


Starting with 100 points:


_zenofeller_points$ := 100;

quote:


Add 10 points if you are single and never been married, no kids


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 10;

quote:


Add 15 points if you have a steady job and income


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 15;

quote:


Add 15 points if you regularly (at least 1 time a week) go out socially with friends


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 15;

quote:


Add 5 points if you have a college degree


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 5;

quote:


Add 5 points if you consider yourself wealthy


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 5;

quote:


Add 10 points if you are regularly complimented on your looks by a woman (mom or sister does not count)


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 10;

quote:


Add 10 points if you have had 2 or more relationships that lasted more than a year


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 10;

quote:


Add 15 points if you are willing/able to drive 4+ hours to meet someone and cultivate a relationship


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 15;

quote:


Add 20 points if you are willing/able to drive or fly 4+ hours to meet someone and cultivate a relationship


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 20;

(as proven by the fact that i actually have. 11 hours.)

quote:


Add 10 points if you know you are a good kisser


_zenofeller_points$ := _zenofeller_points$ + 10;

echo _zenofeller_points$;

> 215

now what ?

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 4:22:30 PM   
Aimtoplease101


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Status: offline 		Hi Akasha-- I'm curious about the subtraction for seeing pro dommes at a rate that amounts to about 1 session every 2 months or so.  Is it that pro domme experience changes a sub's expectations in a way that's not compatible with lifestyle dommes?

Regards, ATP

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 4:29:33 PM   
losttreasure


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zenofeller

> 215

now what ?


*helps zenofeller read the instructions*

quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

It's probably feasible to create a point scale to help 1) submissive men more clearly see what their 2) chances are of finding a femdom mate.  All we need is a math brain to program the formula and build a questionairre.  How do you add up? 3) 90 - 100+ points you are highly likely to meet a compatible femdom, 80-99 still in good shape, 70-79 you have a fair chance, 60-69 you might be worried and below 59 -- your outlook is bleak.


If you are a submissive man as indicated at highlighted item 1) above, and...

If you wish to know your chances of finding a femdom mate as indicated at highlighted item 2) above, then...

According to your score, it appears that you fall into the "highly likely" category as indicated at highlighted item 3) above.

So... now you know.  Simple, no? 



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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 4:40:54 PM   
zenofeller


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Status: offline 		yea. point was more along the lines of how arbitrarily silly the thing seemed to me.

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 4:53:47 PM   
losttreasure


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zenofeller

yea. point was more along the lines of how arbitrarily silly the thing seemed to me.


Perhaps it is, but it's not for us to judge, is it? 

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 5:10:37 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		I came out at 120, and that was being overly critical of myself. Then again, maybe I should subtract 20 points for being overly critical of myself. Sheesh. Just can't win.

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 5:19:54 PM   
zenofeller


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quote:

ORIGINAL: losttreasure
Perhaps it is, but it's not for us to judge, is it? 

if not us, then who ? if not now, then when ?

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 5:57:43 PM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		Subtract fifty points if you want a romantic, loving relationship with me. I don't quite know what "no-strings" means. If it means that we are free to ignore the duties we have agreed we owe to one another, that's not okay. However, if it means that there's absolutely no likelihood of a relationship in which I am presented to your family as your mate, that sounds wonderful to me, and certainly not worth subtracting twenty points. The polyamorous part doesn't bug me at all--actually, the most appealing submissive man to contact me off this site yet is married.

15 points for a steady, reasonably pleasing job may be too few. On the other hand, I don't care about the managerial position, as more than a few jobs I view as significant don't involve actual management. And I'm not talking about arty things, either. Teaching is a good example.

To assess one's scheduling abilities and ability to fulfill obligations, one might dock 5 points for every cancellation of a meeting with anyone, in the last, say, three months.

Docking 15 points for a single man not telling people of his private crossdressing does not sit well. I would award points for keeping one's private activities private.

I don't like adding 15 points purely for extroverted behavior. I don't particularly want an extrovert, and I don't tend to get along well with people very comfortable with "hanging out." Nor, on a later point, would I agree that "shy" and "introverted" and "passive" (needing someone else to make the first move) all mean the same thing. I would like to add perhaps twenty points for each didactic or ambitious hobby, and five for each culturally significant or literate event attended. In the former, sports count if you're playing them and actively trying to improve performance. Both learning a language and developing a culinary skill would be good examples of the previous. In the latter, going to the symphony or to a major modern author's reading would work well. I wish I could accord points for reading quality books, but the ways one can quantify literacy don't readily allow for grades of significance in the content of the books.

Monica

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 6:23:30 PM   
zenofeller


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ORIGINAL: mp072004
To assess one's scheduling abilities and ability to fulfill obligations, one might dock 5 points for every cancellation of a meeting with anyone, in the last, say, three months.


5 points for every cancellation, ever. 1 point for every minute of being late.

laugh all you want, but i actually use something rather similar.

and also, i want 20 points for whomever actually wrote a book. a real book not how to stuff.



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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 6:25:47 PM   
LordDarkPleasure


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Status: offline 		I scored 155 but I'm a Dom... should I fear that my current sub becomes a Domme?  Well she did mention that fantasy about acting like a Domme that gets overpowered too...

*makes a mental note that if we get to do that fantasy, overpower her BEFORE she ties/cuffs me helpless in case she starts enjoying it too much*

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/9/2006 6:34:33 PM   
Hercuckslave


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Status: offline 		guess i'm just way lucky.    i am collared and owned for over 5 years, and much of my situation is different now then before, but if i put myself on this scale just BEFORE i met Mistress, i have to say that i was in the 60's. 

M's m

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/10/2006 5:54:11 AM   
cloudboy


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quote:

ORIGINAL: zenofeller

yea. point was more along the lines of how arbitrarily silly the thing seemed to me.


What is interesting to me is how some people in the dating market actually do keep scores and checklists. For them, dating is very transactional, and hence their approach to meeting another person is not altogether different from how they purchase commodities on the open market. I knew one woman who dumped a guy because his car did not have power windows. Somehow to her this symbolized how he was a loser.

To me, the most useful advice I would ever offer a guy trying to woo a woman would be:

Lead with and rely on your own personal strengths. Try to take your experience with her out of the mainstream, out of the market place, and out of the point system altogether. How well you can write her a note, chose your words, and otherwise focus your attention on her is vastly more important than all the checklist shit ---- which when it comes down to compatibility --- is really nothing more than background noise.

Its always interesting to me, though, the ways and means of quantifying one's dating prospects. And, I do think its important for everyone to realize how they do and do not fit into the general little boxes of life and the preconceived dating checklists that exist in many folk's heads.

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/10/2006 6:47:08 AM   
CuteIrishM4F


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quote:

Its always interesting to me, though, the ways and means of quantifying one's dating prospects. And, I do think its important for everyone to realize how they do and do not fit into the general little boxes of life and the preconceived dating checklists that exist in many folk's heads.


Yeah but I doube if AAkasha meant it to be taken so seriously! That said, I did it 4 the laugh and scored pretty well, and that was also being critical (and no I'm not taking points off for that!). So hopefully that means I'm doin ok in somebody's eyes ... lookin at You AAkasha! :)

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/10/2006 7:59:56 AM   
cloudboy


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Status: offline 		O, her post was a lot of fun and its D/S-ey too.

Scorekeeping, though, is a real phenomenom. Although she's making a joke about it, she's playing off an existing mindset.

Taking a self inventory is also part of the dating market.

Jay Leno used to say, that doing pull ups was the most important thing to impressing a girl. He recommended pulling up in a Corvette, BMW, or roadster to make the best impression.

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RE: The formula for success. or, "Why can't I meet... - 8/10/2006 8:08:25 AM   
Lashra


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AAkasha

It's probably feasible to create a point scale to help submissive men more clearly see what their chances are of finding a femdom mate. 

quote:

ORIGINAL: zenofeller

so i got 215 points on that scale. does that mean i need to wait half the average time for induction ? or that i can be twice as dominant as the normal sub to be tollerated ? or that i can be twice as not interested as your average guy ? or exactly what does it mean ?


zenofeller since your profile says your a dominant, I'd think this wouldn't apply to you as it is geared towards submissive males. But if you suddenly realised that you've been on the wrong side of the fence and are indeed submissive, with your score you might stand a chance of finding a Domme. But with your attitude I doubt it.

Have a nice day.

~Lashra

< Message edited by Lashra -- 8/10/2006 8:10:59 AM >

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