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Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:08:59 PM

ARGENTEAGLE

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Just wondering if my expectations are reasonable. I'm looking for an online only sub that will not be a love interest or anything more than a freind to play with. I'm happily married and my wife doesn't have a problem with it as long as I dont actually have sex with someone else. We have a great marrige and I want to keep it that way. She's not really into being submissive. She's willing to play every once and a while, but she just doesn't enjoy it very much. So like I said I'm looking for a freindly dom/sub strictly online relationship. Is this a something that I have any hope of finding and if so where should I start looking.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:12:27 PM

Homestead

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I used to think how nice it would be to find a toy that wouldn't get attached. It was a false fantasy, don't expect it.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:32:55 PM

Elegant

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Online Subs:

http://www.subway.com/subwayroot/index.aspx

http://www.quiznos.com

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:33:15 PM

Dustee

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While I am not attached as you are, I don't think I am capable of having a relationship at this time. I've seriously considered either going to a pro maledom or finding a pro who'd dominate me online for a fee. I'm pretty sure a person I was paying wouldn't get attached to me.

I hear there are pro female submissives, but I have no idea how to find them, as I don't exactly go looking for them.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:40:14 PM

mstrjx

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You didn't mention the gender of the sub you were looking for.

Was that specifically a female sub or, since it's online, any ol' person impersonating a female sub?

If it's the latter, I have no doubt your chances for success are rather high.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:41:32 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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I'll just say you should get an account on second life and enjoy everything that you can there.

If you're thinking of doing ANYTHING offline, it really will be best to just hire someone and make it a regular appointment.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:43:31 PM

proudsub

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It might help to put in your profile what you are looking for. I'm sure there are subs out there who are in the same situation as you are and would love an online only situation. Just be careful not to fall in love with them and not to neglect your wife in the process. Good luck.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 2:50:55 PM

porcelaine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ARGENTEAGLE

So like I said I'm looking for a freindly dom/sub strictly online relationship. Is this a something that I have any hope of finding and if so where should I start looking.

You'll have no problem finding what you seek.There are plenty of married persons online eagerly chatting with very supportive partners and quite a few that are otherwise in the dark. You may find it easier to focus your efforts on married submissives in an attempt to reduce the possibility of attachment. Keep in mind, you cannot control another's affections and should be prepared for the ramifications of relations regardless of the care exercised.

porcelaine

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 3:05:46 PM

Owned1

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It is a possiblity however be very cautious. The virtual world can be perfect for the time the computer is turned on. Feelings can develop for who we believe to be on the other side, this can lead to many discontented feelings in real time.

Perfect is never a reality only in the virtual world. I can be a perfect limit free online sub, if I am tired of playing dont you know my internet got disconnected. I never have bad breath, let my hair grow (where it should not) always wear the perfect sub outfit/or am naked kneeling before the oh wonderful LordDomMasterofMyWorld. The kids never interrupt, the bills are non existent, and the house, laundry, garden, cars are always perfectly maintained and tended to.

In all honesty if you do have a solid relationship, and your wife is ok with "playing sub" perhaps you could water and fertilize what you have before you sow yet another garden. With some encouragement, guidance and examples perhaps she will move from playing sub to becoming submissive or even slave to you her Dominant/Master.

A garden does not grow overnight, it needs care and attention, I would work on the garden I have in the flesh before I started the online garden

Just a few thoughts from one who is fortunate enough to be living the life in the flesh.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 3:14:31 PM

ThatLilBrat

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elegant

Online Subs:

http://www.subway.com/subwayroot/index.aspx

http://www.quiznos.com

<cracks up and hands you a brat badge>

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 3:26:44 PM

NakedGirlScout

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Yes of course there are married online subs out there... I should know... I am one ~grin~

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 3:40:37 PM

Donnalee

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I think you'll find someone that you can have a connection with, but no one can decide beforehand what their feelings will evolve into, and they can become intense. I think setting up a professional appointment would be a great way to keep everyone clean.

You may be able to play in real life, but not have sex, right? Then you might also try your local community. Good luck!

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 4:21:43 PM

diamonddreamlove

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Was online with a wonderful Master for a year before W/we broke down and met. He is still wonderful but because W/we were both married it could not work for U/us in real life. Both our spouses knew what we were doing online but dang You are taking a chance with Your marriage if You follow this path. Keep in mind that even the best intentions get sidetracked sometimes. My vanilla husband had given me permission also for online and then later for r/t. He is now deceased and while that leaves me sad it also relieves me of the guilt i sometimes had playing even with his permission. Think hard about this before You do it and Your wife should do some soul searching as well. Been there done that and am happy r/t.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 5:07:32 PM

TNstepsout

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I agree with those who warn you to be careful. Don't have any illusions that just because it's online that your emotions won't get involved. Be careful and be honest.

Be up front in your profile. Tell the whole story. That you are looking for online only, you are married and your wife knows and is Ok with it.

Put profiles on a couple of sites and also check out various chat groups.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 6:11:00 PM

babysburnin

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Being a fan of real-life relationships, what do you expect to obtain from an online relationship? It's a tricky road you and your wife have "agreed" to.

Maybe it's just me ... (I'm sure others will disagree), but online only? And online submission and Dominance? Seems "Super-Shallow" and unrealistic to me, no offense.

Maybe you can just have an online fantasy world with an online fantasy woman ... but take heed ... it may be just a gentle step into something that you find needs to grow in your life and becomes REAL.

< Message edited by babysburnin -- 8/28/2006 6:13:56 PM >

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RE: Online Subs - 8/28/2006 6:15:37 PM

DiurnalVampire

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The one piece of advice I can give is make sure the person you are going to eventually keep online only takes it as seriously as you do. I have had online pets before, usually short term before deciding to meet, only to find out it was a game to them. When you consider someone online completely, you need to be sure their mindset is thesame as yours, or else you are going to be very unfulfilled and rather hurt when things play out differently than you expect.

DV

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RE: Online Subs - 8/30/2006 9:22:06 AM

babyboyk

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i agree with a lot of the posts-i'd be extra cautious about getting too attatched to anybody You meet-You may be genuine, but the person You meet may not be, for all You know You could be talking to a bald 50 year old male who hasnt got a life and doesnt deserve one

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RE: Online Subs - 8/30/2006 9:41:46 AM

mstrjx

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quote:

ORIGINAL: babyboyk

i agree with a lot of the posts-i'd be extra cautious about getting too attatched to anybody You meet-You may be genuine, but the person You meet may not be, for all You know You could be talking to a bald 50 year old male who hasnt got a life and doesnt deserve one

This is the point of my first post. If it is online only, I don't see the difference. Without voice or viewing, it's all reading and all fantasy. If you are getting out of the fantasy what you want to, then all is well.

Jeff

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RE: Online Subs - 8/30/2006 9:59:37 AM

LotusSong

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You don't think it can happen now.. but you do get attached. And eventually your wife will take umbrage that you are sharing even the mental intamacy with another.

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RE: Online Subs - 8/30/2006 10:10:31 AM

babyboyk

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im not sure how it can work online anyhow-you can only know so much by talking to somebody over a pc- i mean- how can you understand a persons true identity (or more importantly-emotions) if you are communicating only through emails or other means, even webcams cannot portray the whole truth- if there is such a thing- and i imagine some subs would be cautious as well

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