deltadawn
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ORIGINAL: Focus50 Dunno if it's just an Aussie thing (I've never travelled overseas) or on a global scale but men generally make the worst patients, most noticeably when it's something serious such as requiring hospital time.... My first guess is that he (as both male and Dom) doesn't like being seen, or at least fussed over, when vulnerable. So I think it's "normal" that he wants his *second in command* taking charge at home rather than being constantly reminded he's not a hundred percent through disrupting your routine, too. I think you should find a middle ground. Give him a day or two of no visits so he can discover that sharing the mutual misery of other sick strangers isn't a barrel of laughs either! Then I'm sure he'll be far more appreciative of a caring, friendly face visiting him.... It's a similar principle to training a sub; combining punishments with rewards to modify behaviour. Even the most modern hospital is an unpleasant place to be because it's focused on the sick and vulnerable.... Give him a few days solitude to find that out for himself, then go visit; I'll be surprised if his attitude doesn't improve. Focus. smiles. You hit the nail dead center !! He hates being sick, hates not working, and because of this wanted us all to stay home. Though he seems to be feeling better today, the doc has said at least a few more days if not a full week in the hospital. He did have me sneak him food tonight..lol. I thank each of you for your words, I was feeling both disobedient in wanting to be there, but also felt I needed to be there to support him. He is a very private man, used to hard work and being the One in charge. Being a patient and receiving orders he does not like from the doctors there has him all .........well not himself. Thank you for the advice and just for being here. I know I am not one of the regular posters here and the responses made me smile. deltadawn
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