MasterFireMaam
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Joined: 3/1/2006 From: Charleston, WV Status: offline
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There's a difference between rights and preferences. When push comes to shove, for me, the only right the slave has is to obey or not. They must be aware that disobedience has it's price...sometimes higher than at other times. However, as someone who wishes to foster a positive, nurturing atmosphere, I wish to continue things that make a person, in general, happy. A certain amount of autonomy...privacy and private time...etc.etc. I can, and will, take these away, if pushed. However, if I'm beginning to feel forced to do this, I will start questioning if the slave continues to be a good match for me or if they are simply not fit for service of any kind. I will most likely end the relationship before I am forced to strip all these things away. I simply have no desire to have someone that I must monitor at all times to ensure they behave. It's exhausting. In answer to your actual question: Each person has their own idea of what is and isn't a slave or a submissive. I have found that my definition of submissive is someone who doesn't want to surrender completely. In the context of this question, this means they want a guarentee of certain rights. In slavery, that's not a guarentee. I offer a sensible household, however, and some security that certain things will be granted due to my nature and desires, but no guarentees. Of the things that I want, I grant the slave these things. An example is that I like to be in affectionate relationships; I like to be touched. Therefore, I will grant my slaves a certain leeway to reach out and touch me without asking permission every time. So, this all implies that I don't want submissives. This is true, according to MY definition of sub and slave. However, definitions vary. Upon talking to my girl, who is my collared slave, we realized our definitions were almost opposite. Once she identified as a slave, according to my definitions, we knew that we had something to work with. Master Fire
< Message edited by MasterFireMaam -- 9/6/2006 8:27:55 AM >
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