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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 9:03:28 AM

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Who is so impatient they can brush aside a inch of cotton?
first meet I'll wear soemthign nice but comfortable soemthing I can break into a swift run when the chainsaw comes out lol
Having said that if Master said no panties I woudl do as I'm told, but first meet should be more about clickign as people than anything

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 9:22:58 AM

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 10:53:57 AM

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Funny, i was just talking about this topic to someone... my normal "advice" would be if it's a first meet to just get to know someone, i'd do it just like i would to meet a gal friend for lunch. i don't have any gal friends that would dictate what i should wear, and i certainly don't ask my gal friends "skirt or pants" unless we're deciding about dress code for a place.. not dressing to please each other.

BUT... after all my years of "You might be a Dom, but You're not my Dom" mentality.. i realised that when i first started talking to Master, i did everything i swore i would never do. i let Him dictate how i typed, from the very first convo. WTF? As it was happening, i told myself this was insane, but i loved what He was saying enough to overlook the silly typing conventions. Then, when W/we met, i did ask what to wear, down to the color prefs. More out of character insanity!

To this day, i still don't know the majic that triggered my behaving so. Was i just responding well to a good match, or did i essentially create the match by being so eagerly compliant? So now i say... trust your instincts.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 11:48:10 AM

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oh i pretty much know what a Dom would like to see and i'm savvy enough to know what is appropriate. i've had some make requests and i tell them i won't promise to follow those requests but that i would rather choose my own wardrobe and they can see if my natural inclinations meet their preferences. i have never met a Dom in person who was unhappy with my choices.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 1:09:59 PM

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The reason I have never been stood up is because I don't dictate what she should wear. Seriously, as long as she shows up and is what I expect, she could be wearing Army fatigues and I'll rationalize, she is just an outsdoorsy type.

Edited to add, I live in Augusta, GA where there is Fort Gordon and I actually met a girl wearing Army fatigues once, come to think of it. Now I know the reason I thought of fatigues when I wrote originally.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 1:18:09 PM

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i would hope before you meet someone you have some idea of what they look like to identify them. i dont ask on a first meet what to wear, and i met most local men that interest me, not one has actaully told me what to wear. i do always wear a skirt, for some reason to me, i just think its a little more resepctful. has no real reason behind it. i actually went to dinner with a dom pal recently and it was the first time he has seen me in shorts. i dont think id even meet someone that thought they needed to direct me as to what to wear for a first meet.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 1:21:41 PM

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If we are talking about clothing in general. I.E. don't weear a nice slimming black dress when we are going to a monster truck show. I'd like to be informed, but as far as being told specifically what to wear I doubt I would agree to that. But honestly I wouldn't know unless it were to happen.

Now as far as wearing ah er something else... I.E. fetish-lifestyle gear? No don't think I'd allow that. I'd want him to meet me as I am before the possibility of him seeing me as a submissive.

Edited due to lack of sleep... Nap time! Heh.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 1:31:18 PM

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I had one who tried to tell me not only what to wear, but to paint my fingernails. Now, while my toenails are nearly always painted; I never paint my thin, flat, short fingernails; it just draws attention to them. Besides, I'm always working in my garden; I'm rough on my hands.

I told him all this to no avail. Before I could tell him to take a hike, though...he told me not to bother speaking to him, should I see him at the munch. LOL

We were good friends for a long time afterwards, though...he's such a bossy thing! <grinz>

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 1:41:16 PM

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I agree on the point of these last two. When meeting a potential they should always choose there own attire with possibly casual or dressy set requests. One always can derive much information from ones attire

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 1:58:06 PM

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A question for the women. Your meeting your Dom/Domme for the first time. Do you let them tell you what to wear for the meeting?

If I am meeting a potential dominant for the first time, I will ask, in a casual way, how they would like to see me dressed. Not because I feel like they have the place to tell me how to dress yet, but because I want to be pleasing to their eyes.... something they enjoy looking at....I dont see anything wrong with that.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 2:00:57 PM

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ORIGINAL: ExSteelAgain

The reason I have never been stood up is because I don't dictate what she should wear. Seriously, as long as she shows up and is what I expect, she could be wearing Army fatigues and I'll rationalize, she is just an outsdoorsy type.

Edited to add, I live in Augusta, GA where there is Fort Gordon and I actually met a girl wearing Army fatigues once, come to think of it. Now I know the reason I thought of fatigues when I wrote originally.

Ha! This is too funny. I actually have a camoflauge mini skirt. Its one of my favorite things.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/14/2006 3:06:33 PM

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It's a good last minute weeding tool. If the dom says no panties, i suddenly have to go to my grandmothers funeral. If i am told make sure your hair and makeup are done perfectly and you are in heels (he's too perfectionistic) then my house was hit by a meteor and i have to cancel. On a more serious note - if someone who has in interest in me as a dominant, and he is foolish enough to push too much too soon and showing his lack of common sense trying to dictate to me how to dress, especially if it leads to anything suggestive, he's blown it. It's almost like a light switch being turned off. Respect is paramount and would certainly be lacking if you try to order someone to dress a certain way you are just getting to know.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 6:42:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: velvetears

It's a good last minute weeding tool. If the dom says no panties, i suddenly have to go to my grandmothers funeral. If i am told make sure your hair and makeup are done perfectly and you are in heels (he's too perfectionistic) then my house was hit by a meteor and i have to cancel.

lmaooooooo. Dont you think you're a little too hard on these poor guys???

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 6:48:36 PM

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I think my question would be how do you know they would be YOUR dom/me?

Maybe just a meeting is all?

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 7:08:04 PM

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It all depends. On the Dom. On the relationship we have at that point. I am sure there are many Doms who would eleminate themselves from being my Dominant based on clothing requests, and I suspect that the right one could make me dress up happily in a clown suit with absolutely no protest.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 7:33:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

A question for the women. Your meeting your Dom/Domme for the first time. Do you let them tell you what to wear for the meeting?

I have requested certain attire...yes I fall into the skirt, blouse, no bra (if possible as to breast size not to embarrass her) and no panties ( the latter only the two of Us know) group

For Me it shows mindset and willingness...

For some it just isn't their cup of tea...

Then again I had one show up in sweat pants with god knows what on the front...stinking and disheaved..not a pretty sight.

Given the options I will take the intelligent woman willing to comply with My simple requests over the sweatgirl any day

Go ahead..call Me sexist. ;)

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 7:42:14 PM

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So we fall into sweaty dishevelment or into letting strangers dominate us.. no inbetween...hmmmm...

If I was looking and had to choose between submitting to strangers and no dates, I would pick no dates. Some of the men I have met after talking online for coffee I would not let dominate my goldfish, much less me...

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 7:46:32 PM

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I have generally requested that she wear something comfortable that shows off her best attributes...accessibility is an added plus. <g> It's true that early demands cast a sour taste. As the famous saying goes...one can never get a second chance to make a first impression.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 7:46:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

So we fall into sweaty dishevelment or into letting strangers dominate us.. no inbetween...hmmmm...

If I was looking and had to choose between submitting to strangers and no dates, I would pick no dates. Some of the men I have met after talking online for coffee I would not let dominate my goldfish, much less me...

Why of course. ;) As with any situation there are greys...not just black and whites...

Dates..the last date I had was actually a prune... ;)

I agree with you..some have no biz dating let alone dominating.

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RE: First Meeting - 9/15/2006 7:59:20 PM

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It all depends. On the Dom. On the relationship we have at that point. I am sure there are many Doms who would eleminate themselves from being my Dominant based on clothing requests, and I suspect that the right one could make me dress up happily in a clown suit with absolutely no protest.

the first time this slave met Master, he requested that this slave be naked when he walked in the door. Master and I had corresponded and spoken on the phone for a number of months before meeting; this slave found no issue what-so-ever with his request

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