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scarlettuk -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/24/2007 1:58:30 AM)
Simplyangelica1 with reference to your comment about 'lifestylers' Master and I strongly object to the d/s world being called a lifestyle. We feel it's more appropriate for serious d/s folk to refer to our choosen way as a life .... not a lifestyle. From our point of view a 'lifestyle' is more likened to a fashion trend. Now We stand back and wait to get hit! Apologies to any if we have hit a raw nerve however this is our personal perspective.

simplyangelic1 -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/24/2007 2:06:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: scarlettuk Simplyangelica1 with reference to your comment about 'lifestylers' Master and I strongly object to the d/s world being called a lifestyle. We feel it's more appropriate for serious d/s folk to refer to our choosen way as a life .... not a lifestyle. From our point of view a 'lifestyle' is more likened to a fashion trend. Now We stand back and wait to get hit! Apologies to any if we have hit a raw nerve however this is our personal perspective. You say tomato and I say tomato...To each their own.... Psst...I'm not the only one who used the term lifestylers in this thread. shrugs

justapeek -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/24/2007 2:45:41 AM)
I prefer to call him Master for any reference between just the two of us. Very very few cases have ever uttered His name, seems very taboo somehow. Never in argument, but when he was upset and i felt the need to reach out. Not sure that makes any sense but that was how i felt about it If he was just "____" to me, that would be what i called him.

bearincuffs -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/24/2007 12:09:51 PM)
I know what you mean justapeek. Laste night, Master and myself had been discussing this topic and He made His opinon on this very clear. I am to never call Him by His given name, unlees I'm under duress, otherwise I am to refer to him only as Master.

TreasurePet -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/24/2007 12:54:06 PM)
I refer to my Owner by title with name rather than simply a title. There are some whom I speak to where I simply use the name without the title, but it does seem uncomfortable to me ... I wind up pausing before saying the name as if I had just used the title anyway. Generally, I use honorifics when speaking to my Owner. With my former Master, I only used his name when I would cum so it became a bit ::ahem:: uncomfortable to use his name otherwise as it would, er, "distract" me.

lilsubl -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/24/2007 1:08:43 PM)
when W/we first met, i was instructed to call Him Sir Mark...after He claimed me as His property, i was instructed to call Him Master & this is what i call Him to Him & to others who are aware of the nature of O/our relationship...to those who are not, i call Him Mark & if i'm in public & He calls, i always say, "Hello, Mark" to let Him know that i am where i cannot speak freely...this is the only time i use His given name when addressing Him, even when i'm cumming...at that point, i am crying, "oh, Master, yes, Master" etc...giggle it feels somehow wrong & awkward to address Him by His given name.....

slo18 -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/24/2007 11:21:28 PM)
i call him sweetie, baby, hunny, babe,doll, love, my love,and darlin, I have called him Sir three times in the 9 months we have been togheter and only once was it with revernce the rest were sarcastic the same goes for master maybe four or five times ever and mostly with sarcasim, but thats us we both hate the titles and find them obnoxis for our own use. I do call him by his given name but not nearly as often as i call him by the others. usualy as a means of drawing his attetion cause i feel like something i have to say is important.

Coupleseeking321 -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/25/2007 11:41:11 AM)
I call him Nippler in public and private.During play I call him Master. It's still weird for me to call him that because we were a vanilla couple for so long.

sensualmagirl -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/25/2007 1:39:14 PM)
I was recently talking to my Master and thinking about this very subject. When we first "met" online (we know each other in person/real life now for quite some time), I remember talking about how calling Him "Sir" a lot seemed a bit formal to me given how we started off just friendly like and He agreed. Also, He and I both agreed that "Master" was a term given or earned... not necessarily demanded (don't jump on me about this, just our feelings on the subject). I struggled with some sort of a nick-name for Him, but sweetie or hun didn't seem to cut it for me (although, I do call Him sweetie now and again, not often though). He is originally from a Spanish-speaking country and said He liked "Papi" a lot. Well, at first, it felt a bit strange or weird to me, but, now, I can't imagine NOT calling him Papi... I also can't imagine calling anyone else that, but I digress... I do like to call him Sir, Master, and "my Owner" depending on the situation, how I feel, etc., but nothing is ever demanded and it comes from a sincere feeling I have for Him inside and it is almost an unconcious thing on my part... just comes out natural like. When I have to refer to Him/talk about Him to other people (i.e., vanilla types), or when He calls me on the phone, I do call Him by His given name, but, I always have to pause a second and fight the urge to refer to Him as Papi. If we were to be in some sort of a BD/SM social situation, probably would refer to Him as Sir to show the respect that I truly do hold for Him. Well, half the time, I kind of forget now what His given name is anyhow... ha ha ha... good thing I have His phone number programmed in my cell phone with His name [:)]

shinypebble -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/25/2007 2:05:45 PM)
When me and my Master first met it was purely for play purposes and thus I addressed him purely as "Sir". However, as our relationship developed and a more vanilla side to our relationship developed I found myself called Him by his first name a lot. Nowadays it all depends on the context as to what we call each other. At home, when not playing I generally call him by a term of endearment "sweetheart, angel, sexy etc" unless I'm doing something domestically subby (like cooking/cleaning etc) and then I might call Him Master/Sir... Obviously during play, I don't even think about calling Him by His first name...

SlaveChezu -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/26/2007 8:31:18 AM)
i call Master Master when we're alone but if Him and i were in public He usely alows me to call him by my nickname for him unless he orders me to call him Master

jcolbert14 -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/27/2007 7:54:44 AM)
I know my Domme's full name, but never use it when speaking with Her. I just call Her "Goddess".

andreaC -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/28/2007 5:15:07 AM)
In my case, how i call Master always depends on the situation. In public, i will call him by his name, but when we are in the bdsm set up, its Master.

Vendaval -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/28/2007 5:38:55 AM)
In a public, vanilla setting my submissives and I use our given names, or refer to each other as girlfriend/boyfriend/friends, etc; with Lifestyle friends and at events, we use our Scene names, during a Scene it is "Mistress". I tend to not like the term, "Ma'am", as it sounds too military and Bible Belt to me. We also have pet names for each other, both tender and playful, that are shared only in private. I am not big on titles in everyday speech, although they can be impressive in writing.

orfunboi -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/28/2007 6:46:16 AM)
i used to refer to her by her name most of the time, it didn't change who she was and it is how she asked to be addressed.

velvetears -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/28/2007 7:43:51 AM)
In the beginning, after first being released and we stayed friends, i called him by his real name and yes it was strange, difficult, even painful. But i got used to it.

desires2 -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/28/2007 6:21:21 PM)
In public, I call Him by His name...in private...I call Him Sexy, sweetie, Sexy Sir, my Love, and of course Sir! In my heart...I just call Him wonderful!! ~smiles~!

Passion357 -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/28/2007 8:03:57 PM)
I call Master his name most of the time. That is his wish. I call him Master, also. I rarely call him "Sir" we both think it's just not..us...LOL I also all him Asshole, Jerk, Dickhead, Baby, Darlin, Dark (his r/t nickname) etc etc etc. He actually introduced himself to me, almost 5 years ago, as "Asshole". He lives up to the title LOL But I do NOT call him Bastard...that's against the rules. And when talking about an intense subject, meaning, not joking or playing, it is against the rules to say "whatever". So as easy as some think I have it...there ARE rules, and he is an Asshole so living with his is tough...errrg I love him anyway :-) Good topic, OP! [:)]

CollaredCat -> RE: Your Dom's Name (1/30/2007 9:32:40 AM)
My once and ( hopefully) future Master is currently my Mentor (it's a long distance situation). The first two years we knew each other we were friends and used given names - that still holds for most situations, ie. family / friends / vanilla / public. I use sir when asking for and / or acknowledging instructions / advice or when around BDSM situations. To people who know him in the scene, I previously referred to him as Master and his given name together. Currently in those situations I refer to him as my Mentor. Funny, I'm more often aware of not being able to call him Master now than I ever called him that when he was.

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