demistress
Posts: 391
Joined: 4/24/2006 From: Dela-where? Status: offline
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OP, I have been lucky, I knew I was dominant young (16) and I am internet saavy. Women are generally not raised to be dominant, they are molded into young ladies, societally conditioned NOT to be dominant. It takes a while to break through/past this type of conditioning. Also, the older you get, the less you let other people's opinions shape your view of yourself, at 20, when people call you a bitch, it tends to hurt, at 28 I have to say it's hurting less (and now most pay dearly for THAT mistake). I was dominant only in my personal real life relationships until recently, but decided to look into sharing my hobby and dungeon with others. I got so many petitions for my time and attention that I went pro, thinking that would be a good way to satisfy MY urges AND help MANY others realize their fantasies. I joined this site to learn, grow, and ideally meet new subs or slaves that fullfill MY fantasies (having been an active lifestyle domme for 12 years) but here on CM many people see 'pro" or "tribute", label you a whore and they immediately disregard alot of what you say. I think this is sad, because it drives many of the good, young domme away. It's not like we NEED to be here to find clients, I personally am here PRIMARILY to try and build my household, BUT will session with most subs professionally if they seek that, and are not available to apply for a full time, real life, live-in, slave position (which is what I personally seek). I encourage such people to address their kink with their significant other, and hold no rancor at all if they find someone who satisfies them for free, or in a lifestyle sense. Owned, I think these are some of the motives for "doing this for financial gain", I'm getting older, and some of these issues are applying less and less a) supply and demand -- we're younger, in higher demand, and more rare (see reasons above) someday down the road this will work against us, because we will be the 'older' domme, but for now.... b) we're not as established in our lives, many of us are still going through school, or working our first career position, money is tight, and time is scarce for pleasure pursuits c) to play with people who are not going to make positive contributions to our lives costs us time, energy, (REAL friendship/servitude/etc.would be different, but few 'clients' can say that if at three AM my motorcycle breaks down and I need you to come pick me up, I can call. Because I might wake your ... wife/kids/gerbil/whatever)and the opportunity cost can be high (beat fakesubA for an hour, plus 1 hour of prep/tear down time OR relax on the porch swing listen to the babbling fountain in my garden pond, snuggled up with a good book and a soft blanket for two hours). If a sub wants me to give up something I will find pleasurable, for something that is going to be work (doing an over the knee spanking on someone who joined AARP in the 80s for example) I expect to be compensated for that loss in pleasure, and I'm sorry, but oral servitude and worship is NOT going to do it, no matter how many hours you offer me.*rolls eyes* --edited for run-ons, there weren't enough so I added some more
< Message edited by demistress -- 9/26/2006 10:55:16 PM >
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