LordODiscipline
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To use the words of Confucious -
"Stop mind fucking yourself"
(ok, he did not really say that, but people seem to believe it is wise if you preface it with that statement)...
There is no such thing as the "aura and the presence" of "dominants" - that is written by a bunch of idiots waxing poetical about something because that is how they would like it to be.
If you want an "aura" try exposing yourself to high doses of neutron radiation - other than that... it is a matter of being who you are and loving it...
You do not love it because you feel like a fish in a bowling alley that has never bowled before....
Pick up a freaking ball and throw it. Fins are not an issue.
If someone refers to you as "Sir" - go with it....
On the one hand, you do not 'feel like one'
and
on the other hand, you do not let people treat you like one...
Get on the stick here... of course it may not be for you (having people call you "sir") - but,then it might just be for them.
Allow that in their lives if not your own.
YOU can be a "nice guy", "compassionate" and "young" and still be dominant... stop shorting yourself at every turn.
'Sons-of-bitches' are not necessarily dominants - just 'sons-of-bitches' - it is not necessarily something to strive for or emulate.
And, stop with what other people are telling you you need to be....
the whole "A Dominant IS..." Sctick is faulted from the get go...
YOU are finding out the reality - which is the people who write that crap are either not living it or are delusional. - A LOT of it cannot be rectified to real life... YOU ARE RIGHT - some of it is impossible..
Try being who YOU are - rather than some false archetype of a dominant that makes you look like a Klingon at a 'Seasame Street On Ice' show.
I swear some of the people who spout off on line about the romance and beauty of BDSM should be horse whipped so they understand pain.
But then I digress in a sadistic dream....
Where was I??
- oh, yeah...
The people who write such things are mostly ignorant assholes.
DO not try to become one... simply be who you are and do it well.
~J
PS: If anyone reading this recognizes that I am talking about them and how they believe BDSM is - please understand - I do not care.. the sad part is - people believe you and think that is a reality which is possible - rather than an archetype of an ideal.
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"Anyone who thinks they're important is usually just a pompous moron who can't deal with his or her own pathetic insignificance and the fact that what they do is meaningless and inconsequential."
William Thomas
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