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judeged by other Doms - 10/10/2006 4:26:18 PM

wanta247

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I have a submissive that is starting to enjoy herself as a Domme, and from time to time, I let her Top me, yet because of that I get the feeling that other Doms look down their noses at me for it, What say you all

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/10/2006 4:39:25 PM

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If it works for you why worry about what other people think? You continue to exercise control over her in those circumstances. Again, you don't have to justify it to people.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/10/2006 5:03:12 PM

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What we do does not necessarily define who we are. I usually prefer to be the more passive partner in sex. I am a masochist for spiritual purposes....and I am finding that I enjoy it for my own purposes, too. So, I'm a bottom and a masochist as well as a sadist and a top. I have a dominant personality, most of the time, but sometimes can be shy and quiet. I have served my friends in what looks like a submissive role at national events. Yet, I am, a Master.

The Master is not always the sadist, the submissive is not always the masochist.
The Master is not always outgoing, the submissive is not always shy.
The Master is not always the inserter, the submissive is not always the insertee.

Go with what works for YOU.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/10/2006 5:05:34 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanta247

I have a submissive that is starting to enjoy herself as a Domme, and from time to time, I let her Top me, yet because of that I get the feeling that other Doms look down their noses at me for it, What say you all

There are those that will see you as "impure" so to speak, but I would not give a shit what they or anyone else thought.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/10/2006 6:35:04 PM

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Some people will always find something to look down on so you might as well be enjoying yourself!

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/10/2006 8:45:49 PM

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I don't care so much as to who is working over the slave.. but my concern is HOW they are working him over.

One thing that did bother me once, was a young lady switch that was topping for the first time and constantly flirting over her shoulder back at her master instead of focusing on what she was doing and the sub before her. An "aren't
I just so cute playing Domme?" look.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/10/2006 9:14:45 PM

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obviously there are plenty of people that will look down their noses at you amd judge you and honestly does it matter ? personally I would hope that at the end of your life when you look back with fond memories that YOU alone can say wow that was a Wicked ride instead of what if I would have ...
I do not live My life for others I live it for Me and I enjoy it along the way as long as you hurt no one No harm no Fowl comes into play ,

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/11/2006 1:38:36 PM

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I think that most of the judgement that will be passed will concern your spelling skills, therefore; I wouldn't worry about it a great deal.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/15/2006 2:19:05 AM

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Go for it, I allow my sub to top me from time to time I just have her follow my script for the scene. Also, never worry about what others think of you. If you are sure of yourself they will respect you for it.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/15/2006 7:16:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanta247

I have a submissive that is starting to enjoy herself as a Domme, and from time to time, I let her Top me, yet because of that I get the feeling that other Doms look down their noses at me for it, What say you all

Are they actually looking down their noses at you, or do you just "feel" they are? In other words, is it really them? or are you having a hard time with the idea?

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/17/2006 6:25:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanta247

I have a submissive that is starting to enjoy herself as a Domme, and from time to time, I let her Top me, yet because of that I get the feeling that other Doms look down their noses at me for it, What say you all

The ONLY way others know about this is because you tell them or you do it publically.
Do you volunteer this information for acceptance?

It is no ones business what the 2 of you do. People judge for their own insecurities.
Did you share this information for your insecurities?

ONLY suggesting a motive...not judging one.

in re: to insecurites...been there, done that, its negative energy.

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RE: judged by other Doms - 10/17/2006 6:26:52 AM

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don't worry so much about what other Doms think...if it works for You, have fun.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/18/2006 8:28:41 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanta247

I have a submissive that is starting to enjoy herself as a Domme, and from time to time, I let her Top me, yet because of that I get the feeling that other Doms look down their noses at me for it, What say you all

i say have a blast, it is your life to live, you do what makes you feel good. Period. Unless of course you are trying out for the national runway Dom competitions...*weg*

As for those other doms snubbing their noses, the first thought that comes to mind in this is, that those who worry about appearances are those who are insecure about their own. Perhaps they may even be a bit jealous, because secretly they want to be able to be as free as you are, but their worry over what others will think stops them dead. Careful not to end up as one of those! *smile

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/24/2006 9:10:53 AM

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Shut the door and dont let them in you unpure exibitionist.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/24/2006 12:11:13 PM

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raiken summed it up wonderfully. Took the words right outta my fingers.

My husband and I are both Doms/Tops, but we're also both masochists from time to time. We've done some really rough take-down/wrestling scenes in a public venue before, and we were having such a good time with each other, we weren't thinking about whether or not the other Doms thought we were exhibiting Un-Domly behavior....whatever that is.

If she's only Topping you, you're not submitting to her, because you are bottoming for her. In reality, you're running the show for her educational benefit. Domination and Topping are two VERY different things. I think once you reconcile that with yourself, you might start to feel more secure in your actions, and worry less about what everyone else thinks about what you're doing with your partner. Think about it this way....At least you're confident enough in yourself as a Dominant to allow your submissive to practice her techniques on you.

Those Doms that you feel are looking down their noses at you really aren't. You know why? Because they've probably got their noses stuck so far up in the air, if it rained, they'd drown. As long as you two are having a good time, fuck what everone else thinks.

As always, YMMV...

MrsShadows

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/24/2006 2:10:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanta247

I have a submissive that is starting to enjoy herself as a Domme, and from time to time, I let her Top me, yet because of that I get the feeling that other Doms look down their noses at me for it, What say you all

If you feel other doms are looking down on you, maybe it's time to point out to them that you're the bigger man because you can take what you dish out.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 10/24/2006 2:17:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wanta247

I have a submissive that is starting to enjoy herself as a Domme, and from time to time, I let her Top me, yet because of that I get the feeling that other Doms look down their noses at me for it, What say you all

Before I even read further, my question is, why are you tellling people your business? In a way, by telling them, where you not asking for feedback?

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 11/1/2006 8:40:09 AM

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enlighten me. What is a national runaway Dom competition. ?

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 11/1/2006 8:41:40 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

enlighten me. What is a national runaway Dom competition. ?

Maybe its a race, how fast they can runaway.

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RE: judeged by other Doms - 11/18/2006 3:58:37 PM

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opinions are like assholes, everyone's got one.

who cares what people outside of your relationship think about you? You do apparently.
Perhaps you should begin by asking why you give a flying fuck what someone elses Dom thinks of you?

puzzling to the extreem!

Ive noticed its less offensive to those that would be offended, if you bottom as a masochist, rather than submit. See above reply for evidence.

But in the end, who you are is what is important. Not what you are.
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