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bootw0rshipJT -> RE: Older and Larger Dommes (10/8/2007 10:49:50 AM)
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ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish
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ORIGINAL: silverthorn7
I am one of the "larger and older" Dommes being discussed and would like to add that the D/s world runs on different rules than the vanilla world. At least, we sincerely hope it does. In the vanilla world, most pick their mates, at least initially, based on what they look like - their "beauty" as defined by the one choosing. In our current culture, "beauty" is definied as "thin" first and foremost, with "young" being a close second. In the D/s world, we theoretically choose based on role which is the only quality that ultimately matters. If you are seeking a Domme, it matters not how good the barbie doll looks in fetish wear - what matters is if She can take you where you want to go. Looks are not as important as Domme or sub and finding a Domme is certainly not the same as seeking a girlfriend. Girlfriend (or boyfriend) material is everywhere - an experienced Domme who is actually looking for yet another sub is amazingly rare. There are not that many of us and many of us have had a lot of living before we realized who and what we were. Size is powerful. It is hard to be a powerful presence when you are half the size of the male you are attempting to dominate. Age is also a powerful thing. I am in my mid-50's and have become more Dominant with each passing year. .....(text removed for space)
Silverthorn
While I agree with many of the things you say above I highly disagree with what you say above (I highlighted it in pink).
It is easy for me to be a powerful presence for men twice my size and I am petite. I love having a tall and strong man at my feet. It is very sexy for me and the big subs I have played with. Somehow it enhances the experience for us both, my being so much shorter and still able to be a fully dominant woman.
Being over 45 is a definite plus. Men are very visual (so are many women and I am one of those), and they desire what they desire as we do, and many of us have no control over what actually pushes our buttons. I have always thought it was grand that so many men love big women and get all hot at the sight/thought of one.
I do not have any kink pics up on this site as I want a good realationship with any of my subs, and want to make it clear upfront that I am not a black-clad, booted fantasy look-alike Domme. That way...I hope that more men (and women) will respond to WHO I am, rather than some super hot bdsm pic.
Irish
I'm with Miss Irish on this one.
Although i see the points made about larger dommes fitting the bill for 'humiliation and domination' because they are such a towering figure over the sub, i love all kinds of dommes, and personally i find it's the ones you least suspect or if you like the ones you wouldn't picture as a domme at any point, that are the ones that do it for me.
For example sometimes i will see a petite lady, or a average size lady whatever, but if they happpen to be wearing a little something that you notice e.g a nice pair of leather boots on show, or long leather gloves etc your mind automatically can associate them with dominating you (even if it's someone you know) and i find this a great turn on. They probably have no intention of giving off that impression at all, but to you, (if you have an imagination as wild as myne anyway!) they just seem they've got a nasty streak in them and would make perfect dommes in my opinion.
I suppose i prefer less 'large' dommes, but thats just my opinion.
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