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Iskander -> RE: Slave vs. submissive (10/17/2006 9:24:02 PM)

Submissive season is all year round... But you do need a hunting licence which can be obtained from the Association of True Dominants by passing a written test explaining the difference between a sub and a slave, and demonstrate the 99 kinky ways to torture with a chicken feather...

Iskander...






adaddysgirl -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/17/2006 9:37:32 PM)

Darkside,
 
i notice your profile states you are a "Real Master".   Would you mind sharing how you've earned that title?
 
DG




adaddysgirl -> RE: Slave vs. submissive (10/17/2006 9:43:42 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

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amayos
To put it simply, a submissive negotiates her rights in servitude, whereas a slave does not retain any rights at all, save those rights her keeper grants.


And if the slave's keeper grants her "negotiation rights"?  Is she now a sub because she now has those rights....or is she still a slave because that is what she is granted in her relationship?
 
DG





SadistCpl4fslv -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/17/2006 10:42:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

The house slave in Roman times could easily say "Master, there are rats in the silo eating the grain, your slaves are going hungry and cannot work the fields because they're getting weak,  the neighbor is stealing your calves and the tile worker did a mosaic of your wife doing Pharoh.  And the boat building business is bad because your boats sink."  Can bet me that slave wasn't referred to as a submissive.  Nor did he operate under the assumption that "maybe Master likes it that way, it's not for me to warn Him".



A Gladiator slave could insist on having his own place to live, his own servants / house slaves, and could tell his Master to go soak his head if the slave didnt feel like getting out of his harem that day.  The Master put up with this because of what the Gladiator brought him on Tournament Day, which is recognition and power and prestige. 

There is a perfect example of differences in SLAVE populations, without even trying to compare them to submissive populations.

A gladiator slave had to fight in tournaments.

A house slave had to empty the chamber pot and wash the dishes.

A sex slave had to pleasure his/her master.

These are all slaves.

But they are all different.

I suspect it will be impossible to nail down an accurate definition of what a slave or submissive is without giving it a context, and even then it will be impossible to compare the two because they are different to the people involved.

Just me, could be wrong, but there you go.

Sinergy


Sinergy,
I would be very curious to know your source on the information you have provided concearning Roman Gladiators.  Not that I am refuting what you have posted.  However, as a student of history and in particular Roman culture, I have done considerable reading and research and have never found anything even remotely close to this in recorded history about the treatment of Gladiators.  As a matter of fact I have only seen these kinds of things portrayed in Holywood movies, which have also bent historical facts into fiction such as the "thumbs up" which originally was a sign to cut the throat of the subduede gladiator by the victor, not show mercy.

It is clear from historical fact, that while some gladiators were looked upon as cultural hereos by a contingency of the general public and obtained respect and popularity in the arena, Roman society viewed gladiators as nothing more than slaves and treated them with ambivolance.  They were no doubt well cared for physically and medically as they were expensive to replace, however gladiators lived a harsh life by law with only certain rights if any that were allowed by their owners.  Perhaps what you have posted did on occasion happen, but it certainly does not appear to be the norm.  According to Petronius, gladiators had to swear an oath to "indure branding, chains, flogging, and death by the sword, to follow their Masters's orders without question, and to pay for their food and drink with their blood."  It is also a fact that, for several practical and situational reasons, many citizens were recruited into the service as a gladiator and upon their recruitment they took the same oath, lost their "liberatus" and became a slave, and became the property of the "lanista", or gladitorial manager.

There is evidence as well that some of the more succesful and popular gladiators were able to win or puchase their freedom, or earn their freedom after 3 years service "ad ludum".  But this is also the exception as most gladiators who were not originally Roman citizen recruits were criminals, prisoners, or slaves and were expected to die within a year.

You might be interested in reading the book "The Gladiator: The Secret Life of Romes Warior Slaves", as well as the written works of Petronius, and Tacitus.  And I had also planned to include several websites on the subject, however firefox won't let me C&P so if you are interested I will email them to you. 

Again, I would be most interested in your source as it would be quite a contraste to all of the research I have done previously.

Regards,
RSC




Mavis -> RE: Slave vs. submissive (10/17/2006 10:43:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

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ORIGINAL: Mavis

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amayos
To put it simply, a submissive negotiates her rights in servitude, whereas a slave does not retain any rights at all, save those rights her keeper grants.


And if the slave's keeper grants her "negotiation rights"?  Is she now a sub because she now has those rights....or is she still a slave because that is what she is granted in her relationship?
 
DG


No,no...   there isn't a "she" in what i was saying to amayos, i was just discussing my own thing.    The definition amayos stated is similar to the one used at our house, i don't expect it to apply to anyone else.   i operate in both dynamics. with Hubby, i have both negotiation rights, and outright refusal rights..  but that's not because of sub or slave, it's because that's how Husdom/mavis works.  Master/ mavis works differently.  

i kind of wonder if you missed my other posts on this?  we do seem to agree on this subject.  But there's been a LOT of stuff typed, it's hard to find all relevant posts across 3 threads.




adaddysgirl -> RE: Slave vs. submissive (10/18/2006 3:54:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Mavis
i kind of wonder if you missed my other posts on this?  we do seem to agree on this subject.  But there's been a LOT of stuff typed, it's hard to find all relevant posts across 3 threads.


Sorry Mavis, this was really directed to amayos.  For ease sake, i took the quote from your post but inadvertently left your name at the top.  my apologies.
 
DG




twicehappy -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/18/2006 3:58:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy 

It is ok Rover, a few years back i bought my Master a 12 by 12 inch piece of property on English soil, filed some paperwork and had him declared Lord ******* of *******, a Baron in his own right, we hung the declaration on the wall. So fly your Grand Master symbol proudly, it means they loved you for some reason.


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ORIGINAL: liljoy

twice,oh gosh that is so cool. i love it. may i steal this idea?


Here you go, two places where you can purchase your very own land and title. I cannot remember where i bought his, it was years ago but these to have good ratings. It really was a great gift, i bought the pack that let you design a coat of arms as well. Have fun with it.

The best part was naming your land, think about it you can be serious,"Baron of Braxworth", or funny, "Duke of Diggleworms" or pornagraphic, "Earl of Early Ejactulation". 


http://www.englishtitles.com/

http://www.becomealord.com/starnames/uslsuperstore.asp?nextstep=order&dept=Become%20a%20Lord%20or%20Lady




twicehappy -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/18/2006 4:02:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DarkSideisXTC

At the risk of pissing everyone off, here is my 2 cents.


Damn i am going to have to order more flame retardent suits and asbestos underwear; here's your suit, jump behind the fire wall, pardon the crowding, we are working on a larger wall.
 
Welcome to the boards. 
 
Edited to add i did not see this when i offered you a flame retatrdent suit and a spot behind the firewall, you used the word real which along with the word true have become anathema around here, you go straight to the bomb shelter and duck and cover.

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Darkside,
 
i notice your profile states you are a "Real Master".   Would you mind sharing how you've earned that title?




adaddysgirl -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/18/2006 4:30:58 AM)

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

Edited to add i did not see this when i offered you a flame retatrdent suit and a spot behind the firewall, you used the word real which along with the word true have become anathema around here, you go straight to the bomb shelter and duck and cover.
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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Darkside,
 
i notice your profile states you are a "Real Master".   Would you mind sharing how you've earned that title?


i have no intention of flaming DarkSide.  He responded to one of my posts (not sure which one) and now i simply have some questions for him.  i was not trying to be derogatory.  That just happened to be the first question and i may have more depending on his response.
 
DG





twicehappy -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/18/2006 5:05:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

i have no intention of flaming DarkSide.  He responded to one of my posts (not sure which one) and now i simply have some questions for him.  i was not trying to be derogatory.  That just happened to be the first question and i may have more depending on his response.


Oopppps, sorry, my bad sweety, i did not mean to imply you did.
 
But we all know what eventually happens when anybody uses the word real.
 
How are you this morning?




adaddysgirl -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/18/2006 5:22:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: twicehappy
Oopppps, sorry, my bad sweety, i did not mean to imply you did.
 
But we all know what eventually happens when anybody uses the word real.
 
How are you this morning?


Good morning twice.  Well, i'm getting ready for work [:'(]    Sure wish it was Friday!
 
BTW...i read your post on 'that other' thread....loved it!  Man oh man...do you got balls!  [sm=lol.gif][sm=lol.gif][sm=lol.gif]
 
Have a great day  [&:]
 
DG




twicehappy -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/18/2006 5:43:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Good morning twice.  Well, i'm getting ready for work [:'(]    Sure wish it was Friday!


Me too though only because it means Scooter would be home all weekend.
 
Sometimes i forget how spoiled i really am. I'll go soak in the hot tub then fix Jewel a snack. Then we will work on the house a bit, i'll do some cleaning and laundry then Jewel's lunch then take a nap.When i get up i'll fix dinner, we'll all talk or watch the tub or play on our computers then bedtime.
 
You have a great day as well, grins.




adaddysgirl -> RE: What's the difference between a slave and a submissive? (10/18/2006 6:39:06 AM)

Well, enjoy your hot tub twice (wish that's what i was doing right about now).  i'm off for now  [sm=hello.gif]
 
DG




Mavis -> RE: Slave vs. submissive (10/18/2006 8:04:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Sorry Mavis, this was really directed to amayos.  For ease sake, i took the quote from your post but inadvertently left your name at the top.  my apologies.
 


is ok, i understand,  i did the exact same thing and had to edit quote boxes, but nearly missed it myself.  Stuff happens.




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