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young12serve -> bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 2:57:20 PM)

I am a male sub and well I always had 'strap-on' play as my soft limit.

However, 2 days ago I met a lifestyle/Pro Domme who was looking for a bumboy and houseboy position. I met with her over a dinner and discussed things. I felt assured, and she also assured me that she has plenty of experience and that she was going to take things easy and not push anything.

So yesterday we met for our first play. Very soon she used a strap-on. Instead of making me relaxed, she just showed it up there and in 60 seconds it was almost all the way in. I've never had anything up there before and after 5 mintues I was screaming and begging her to take it out. She did..... and my ass burned.

Today, when I went to take the first 'dump', there was blood on my stool. Not only did I have a really regretful experience yesterday, I have no idea how to deal with this.
Should I see a doctor or some of you have had this experience and perhaps there is a simple way this can go away/heal?
Please help!



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 2:59:36 PM)

With the sort of activity that you did, some bleeding is normal.  If it continues after a day or so, or you have other symptoms, please get it checked out.  But it should heal on its own and be ok.

Hope this hasn't totally turned you off to anal activities with the right person in the future, they can be a lot of fun.



Bearlee -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 3:03:46 PM)

uhhhhhhhhhh... you would be correct to be concerned if you were turning the toilet bowl's water red, too.  A 'little' bleeding is normal...a lot is not. 
 
I'm guessing it's not a lot; in which case I wouldn't be concerned unless accompanied by pain.  If there IS significant bleeding...see a doctor immediately!
 
...just my $.02 worth
bear
 
PS...and I agree with LA...too bad you had such an idiot introduce you to such joys; such play really IS a joy when done between two caring individuals...



LotusSong -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 3:36:40 PM)

Did you tell the pro about it?  Did she give you any advice or re-assurance?
 
I agree with the others here.. sounds like it was ill-delivered.

I wonder if she carries insurace for injuries she causes.



EarthGoddess52 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 3:45:22 PM)

It definitely sounded like it was too much, too fast!!  When you said that your "ass burned", the first thing that came to mind was the type of lubrication she used (if any).  It wasn't BenGay or something equally as irritating, I hope.  Did you discuss any medical issues such as hemorrhoids prior to your encounter??  All this is important as is just making you feel more comfortable and relaxed with the whole idea.  It should be a pleasant experience for each of you



young12serve -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 3:59:55 PM)

Nope no insurance on this one. I have no clue where she even lives. I met her at a hotel.
I am not bleeding such to make water bloody too, but my stool is about 1/3 bloody on the outside.
So i guess i should be fine then. Just never had it happen to me before.

Turned me off? Yes it totaly did.
i am defenitely not doing that with a anything similiar to a Pro Domme. In a relationship with a Domme... perhaps.....



LotusSong -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 4:04:10 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: young12serve


Turned me off? Yes it totaly did.
i am defenitely not doing that with a anything similiar to a Pro Domme. In a relationship with a Domme... perhaps.....



Where did you find this domme?



givemyall -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 4:08:36 PM)

Sorry to hear of your bad experience..... it must be a little frightening to see blood when you go to the loo.

The strap on, or your Mistress (depending which you want to blame) may have caused an Anal Fissure - its a small tearing or cut in the lining of the anus, which would account for why you felt like you were on fire and also for the bleeding.  90% of fissures heal without any surgery and certain creams can be used to help the natural healing process - one of those being a very weak version of GTN cream (DO NOT USE THE NORMAL STRENGTH ONE) - it increases the blood flow to the area which promotes healing - stings a little when its put on but its manageable.  Also you may find that a warm bath will promote relaxation of the muscles before you go to the loo.  If the bleeding doesnt go any worse but doesnt stop, then I would check with a doctor, if it starts to increase then i'd get checked as soon as you can.

Ive been where you are now and it may seem very worrying for you but most people get better naturally.  Im one of the 10% that werent that lucky and this is why stories like this really bother me - I dont want to worry you, but the surgery that can sometimes be required to solve this problem can be life changing....  I know!  So please make sure that you are well prepared next time, but if it is a fissure, make sure that you give yourself lots of time to heal first and make sure you trust the person that you are with - although I think you have learnt that lesson!

Hope it works out ok for you.



MissyRane -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 4:13:01 PM)

You've my deepest sympathy!  Thank gawd my ass is exit only and I have no intensions of changing that EVER! geeeez eww ouch ugh omy *holds my bum*[&:]



amaidiamond -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 4:25:53 PM)

Hi, sorry to hear you had such a bad experience! Anal play isn't always like that luckily.
As has been said it sounds likely you have a small tear,  there are creams you can get over the counter at the chemist that will help, also recomend fiber in your diet for a few days will make things a little erm...smoother so to speak and hopefully less painfull.
This may sound like a strange idea but if you plan to play anally in the future it is well worth investing in a good vibrator or a plug, start small at first, it means your body has a chance to get used to the sensatuion and it will all be a little less alien to you.
Sorry if that was tmi for people lol!



LotusSong -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 4:53:45 PM)

Young1-  If you feel you need to see a doctor.. just go to the ER.  They have seen it all.  Don't be embarssed.. GO if you need to.  I tend to agree with the possiblity of a slight tear.



young12serve -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 5:08:30 PM)

Uh oh... now I'm really worried......
I should've just said 'no' to the anal play in the first place. [:(]
I never planned to have anything up there anywayz, but for some reason a lot of Dommes are into it, so I thought it'd be a good experience to say that I tried it.
I'll see what happens next time I go to take a 'dump' lol.... if it continues I'll go to ER. What does ER stand for?




shadowrose13 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 5:59:18 PM)

i'm really sorry to hear about all of this too.  i've had a tear, but long before i started anything sexual and had to go to the doctor and was given a perscription cream to put on the tear...everything healed in a few days.  things will be fine...it's just horrible you had an experience like this

~rose

btw, ER stands for Emergency Room



MsKatHouston -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 6:01:34 PM)

Emergency Room

Just monitor it and your pain...if in doubt, go.  I hate hearing stories like this and could kick some of the "dommes" who do this and ruin a guy's first time needlessly.  Just know that your experience was not how it would have happened with someone else.  Next time, be very careful and go slowly.  If you have continual problems, talk with your physician about dangers of anal play from now on and communicate those, if any, to any other Domme you play with.  Good luck.



leatherorlace -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 6:43:16 PM)

Was she wearing naugahyde? When's  your next date with her. If you're going to be dumb- ya gotta be tough because "OUCH is the sound of learning", and all the other warnings that should have entered your mind before emptying your wallet and shovin' it down her Dollar Store fishnets.
  Yes, there's usually bleeding if  you were used in such a manner, I have no idea whether she used Monster Kong boy butt-buster, or did she have a lengthy extension on it.?
  If your bowel begins to bloat or feel full, if you develop any kind of discharge, if your belly hurt, grab a cab and do the ER thingy. DO NOT lie to the examining physician.
  Sorry that, I'm rather abrupt tonite, but, I only caught three fish today, but it was a beautiful day on the lake.
Gentry



leatherorlace -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/11/2006 6:45:11 PM)

Emergency room, located at those quaint meeting spot that the sick and traumatized hangout at.
Gentry



Lashra -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/12/2006 5:02:51 AM)

First of all you don't just *shove* something up your ass, you should use plenty of lube and ease it up there until the muscles have time to relax. It sounds to me like some tiny tears were made in the tissues and you shouldn't have any problems. BUT if you notice there is blood in future stools I would say go to the doctor and have it checked out. Rather to be safe then sorry.

Also I have to question this "proDomme" method, if your a strapon virgin she should have definitely taken that into consideration before she played with you. I can honestly say I've never had a sub tell me he bled after a strapon session. So be careful.

Good Luck,
~Lashra



JerseyKrissi72 -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/13/2006 8:18:56 AM)

anal sex can be a very enjoyable experience between two "consenting" adults. I find that anal eaze is the ONLY way I'll have anal sex..it seems to numb that area and make it more enjoyable.[:)]



Bearlee -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/13/2006 9:21:53 AM)

Personally, I find anal sex most enjoyable without some cream to deaden the feeling.  I think it feels good...and prefer to be able to experience those good feelings 'full strength' rather then deadened.
 
What a shame boy, I hope some day you find someone with whom you can try it again...and experience the joys and wonders of why people 'do' what it is we do...
 
bear



LotusSong -> RE: bleeding after a strap-on (10/13/2006 10:34:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Bearlee

What a shame boy, I hope some day you find someone with whom you can try it again...and experience the joys and wonders of why people 'do' what it is we do...
 
bear


But...but.. but... she was a PRO!!!!!! They know EVERYTHING and are ALWAYS honorable and REALLY do it out of the love for the LIFESTYLE... the money part is just a well deserved "tribute".  Like the Kennedy Honors or the Bronze Star. 
 
It wasn't HER fault if he tensed up a might.  Geeesch..let's give the woman break here... you bunch of judgmental, close minded, hypocritical wannabes!!!!
 
And Bear.. LUBE???  What kinda masochist are you?? Is EVERYBODY here just a wannabe?? All talk and no submission????
 
Am I the only REAL one here?? Hello?? Helllooooo?
 
 
(y'all  know I'm kidding.. right?)  



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