Mouthy
Posts: 35
Joined: 1/18/2005 Status: offline
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The only reason to go in pursuit of this particular kink for real, vallynz, as opposed to doing it in role play with somebody you know, is if for reasons of your own you feel you HAVE to. It's high-risk and stupid. I know that. I spent a lot of years trying to find what appeared to me to be the golden mean of BDSM relationships--some perfect, flexible, funny, stern and certain, articulate, attentive man whose orders I would obey absolutely while enjoying a permanent state of lust and limitless trust. What I found was a few good scenes and a few that left me sad and lonely. What I learned was that I was naive and inexperienced and that I know NOTHING about how to maintain a healthy intimate relationship. So, I stopped looking and while the years passed I spent my energies on my job and trying to mature as a human being. But I still get horny, so I post ads on websites, I be as honest as I can with the men who respond to my overtures, I say no at the first sign that somebody may be a creep, and I accept that I'm putting myself at risk. I STILL think it's stupid of me! But I do it and, when it's good, I just LOVE it that I gave myself the memories that I have. When it's bad, though, it's bad in a really icky way, and I don't mean that I've ever had it go bad in some highly dramatic way--I haven't--although that's certainly possible. The more pervasive ickiness I go through is that I can feel sordid and that I've wasted myself in pursuits that were beneath me. I can feel depressed and lonesome.
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