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ORIGINAL: subwantsamaster

Hello all u Sirs'  quick n simple...Would u conceder a HIV+ for a sub or not? please explain. ont worry i wont hold judgement, just curious  ty have a ghood day

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ORIGINAL: Archer

I'm in the it depends camp as well, It would mean much more study on all sides, it would mean that the relationship would have to exclude behaviours where body fluid transfers are a real risk. But I can see the possibility of taking on someone with HIV as a submissive. But then again it would not be a primary relationship already have one of those.

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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

Wow, so much to respond to and I haven't even read the entire thread.

No, HIV is not a death sentence the way it used to be, though I think that a lot of the population are a bit too overconfident in its treatability and don't take the threat serious enough. Obviously that is not the case in this group. I would absolutely take on a slave with HIV if everything else matched up compatibility/attraction wise. People can die any day, anytime, from anything. You can be the healthiest person on earth today and have a sudden brain aneurism tomorrow with no warning signs. HIV is also not as powerful as people think, relative hard to contract. For example, it doesn't last well outside of the body. Condoms are pretty effective, 99 point something percent, and I'm sure no one is going to say they want to gamble with their lives even to a tenth of a percent but think of it this way: if you were going to have sex with someone whose HIV status you weren't sure about, like a one night stand, you'd use a condom, right? So you're expecting that condom to protect you just in case that person has something. Now why does it all of a sudden become TOO RISKY when you know the person has something? Same condom, same possible disease. Then there's the fact that oral sex is pretty safe in the bigger picture, add to that a flavored condom and I'd say you're down to no chance of transmission. It all comes down to being smart about it but no excuses that I can see being put out there would stop me from taking on someone with HIV. Even the method of contraction. To judge someone as a good or bad person by the way they became infected (was it drugs and promiscuity or a blood transfusion?) is to claim that all victims are not equally worthy of our understanding. It says that someone must have done something to deserve getting this disease. Just because someone made a mistake in their behavior doesn't mean that they deserve to be infected...unless we are radical right wing Christians, I guess. Now, if they are still participating in that risky behavior, that would be a different story, but has more to do with my lack of interest in being with a drug user than judging them for being HIV+