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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 11:34:31 PM

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Sadly there are plenty to giggle about...:)

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/7/2006 11:50:11 PM

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In my view, girls who have "trouble" with other men are trouble. I agree that a girl who doesn't want to be spirited away from the man she is with isn't going to be. But it is also true that if a girl is really annoyed by some guy trying to spirit her away, she is going to shut him down.

I don't buy this Little Miss Helpless story. "Oh! They have an Ignore button?" The thing is soooooo right in front of her face! She doesn't want to be rude? She doesn't want to hurt his feelings? Awww, isn't that sweet. And yours don't count eh? Well fine then, lose them.

Either nothing is going to happen and you're only being insecure, or the two of them deserve each other and today is your lucky day. Never play the dork in the metal suit. "Rescue Me" is a dangerous no-limit game. The only winners are the girl and, sometimes, the funeral director.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/8/2006 4:15:03 AM

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ORIGINAL: kollin

Thank you for all the advice. I had no fear of my sub wantering off, it was just the lack of respect that pissed me off. I appreciate the advice and have since found the block button.
Kollin

As a man, you know we are horn dogs. Can you blame them for trying? Relax and be relived that she is all yours. People can try, but they are just waisting there breath. Hell, even if I wore a shirt reading "I'm straight and God hates fags" a homosexual would still ask if he could give me a blow job.

As I said, men are horn dogs and have to atleast try. How else will they ever get any if they never try? They don't care about honor, they care about getting laid and figure it was worth a shot.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/8/2006 4:43:42 AM

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I think this is a trust issue to be honest.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/8/2006 7:43:03 AM

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My responses to these emails vary depending on my mood. I usually just delete them and don't respond. If I do respond, it is never a polite refusal, instead I give a short and pity course in manners. Plus I always ask what their mother would say if she knew he was trying to break up a happy relationship. Oddly enough, I've never gotten a thank you for teaching basic ettiquette.

One time though, I did ask him to deal with a strange series of emails. They weren't rude or blatant come-ons but definitely creepy. He blasted the sender, who apparently never noticed that I hadn't responded, and the weirdo moved on.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/8/2006 9:14:20 PM

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I was wondering if there had been a rash of sub theafts in the area or something LOL

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 6:09:17 AM

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Simple... if she is yours then have her cancel her sub profile & create one as a couple. She can continue her online communications with her already established friends as well as contribute to the boards.

The men that troll the women on here are less likely to pull up the couple profile.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 7:18:38 AM

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I go about this in a different way. I play mind games with the idiots. Why complain when you can screw with their heads.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 8:43:02 AM

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There have been a few masters on here who attempted to steal me away. Some even offered to spoil me as an incentative. I tried pointing out to them that I would no longer be desirable if I could be so easily bought. I even bluntly told one of them who wanted to be my daddy that if I was the sort of girl he could just spoil me away I would probably just stay until the money was gone and leave. He couldn't get the message so I used block.

Most of the time I try to talk to them because I've found in the real world that sometimes you can still be friends with someone who is really into you. However, it doesn't seem to work here so I've taken a different approach. If they continue to bother me, I simply direct them to my dominant, however many times is needed before they leave me alone.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 9:44:13 AM

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I had a so called Master offer one of my subs money and jewelry.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 10:47:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I had a so called Master offer one of my subs money and jewelry.

Take the money and run (just kidding)

I have seen a lot of people that advise using the block button. I would not necessarily employ this tool because certain psychos take exception to anyone with the unmitigated gall to block them, like how dare! After being blocked these individuals will make 100s of accounts to harass, pester, and mess with a submissive. The best course of action is to keep the email in the box and save it incase the person starts stalking the submissive. It is best to keep a record of every communication just in case.

I would not know if someone emailed me repeatedly unless I kept a record of it.... if it starts to seem obessessive I can alert the other side that someone is stalking me and they can look at the record of it. If I deleted and blocked the person would just make more names to harass me... so far I have not had much trouble.

Instead of worrying about a submissive being "stolen", it is more concerning to be stalked... but that is my opinion.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 1:33:28 PM

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Just my .02 worth...I read the OP's profile and that of his sub. You may well find part of the problem in her journal entry, which is as follows:

11/5/2006 2:57:26 PM:
I am now owned. I am still however looking for some friends on here that can help guide me.

I would suggest that quite a bit of the issue would cease if this journal entry was deleted or revised.

As well noted above, if that does not do the trick, there is always the block button.

Just my humble opinion..good luck.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 3:21:32 PM

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But what is wrong with a submissive trying to seek friends?

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 3:36:34 PM

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there is nothing wrong with seeking friends but this Domly type don't read the letters they read inbetween them and what they think they see is someone saying that a posiblity of more than friends just crying out to them. These are the Masters that have girls 2000 miles away under "consideration" collar cause they cam good..... on a side note I am a little more upset that not ONE master or mistress has even tried to WOO me away.......so i guess being limited as a couple is a good thing as comparied to not being adorable enough to be sweet talked away from Daddy.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/9/2006 5:28:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LongArms

Just my .02 worth...I read the OP's profile and that of his sub. You may well find part of the problem in her journal entry, which is as follows:

11/5/2006 2:57:26 PM:
I am now owned. I am still however looking for some friends on here that can help guide me.

I would suggest that quite a bit of the issue would cease if this journal entry was deleted or revised.

As well noted above, if that does not do the trick, there is always the block button.

Just my humble opinion..good luck.

No offence Sir But I see nothing wrong with that journal entry. If people see it as an invite to try and proswaid her to do bad things that is their problem not hers!!! Like said here though you cant steal a sub from someone if a sub can be stolen the problem is as much with that sub as with the Dom trying to steal them.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/10/2006 12:38:22 AM

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I look in the profiles all the time. If they have collared or owned on their profile, I might consider the for friendship, but nothing else. Those who try buying or bribing a sub are usually posers or ones who's personality fails to win them subs on their own.

Besides, if a sub could be so easily persuaded into leaving their Dom/me, then what's to stop them when someone else comes along with an even better deal?

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/10/2006 11:21:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: WishkaWriter

Besides, if a sub could be so easily persuaded into leaving their Dom/me, then what's to stop them when someone else comes along with an even better deal?

And really why would you want to stop them if that is how they are!!

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/10/2006 3:50:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I go about this in a different way. I play mind games with the idiots. Why complain when you can screw with their heads.

Since I'm unowned you could send them my way. But somehow I have a feeling they aren't looking for someone my age or size........ Might be an interesting mind game though! LOLOL

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/10/2006 4:11:04 PM

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But what is wrong with a submissive trying to seek friends?

I think nothing is wrong with a submissive trying to seek friends.

I do raise an eyebrow at one who is seeking "guidance" from those other than her Master or Dom. It tells me she is not getting adequate guidance from her dominant...a sure fire subtle invitation to others to come in and lend a hand, so to speak. It's all in the wording. Lotsa guys out there sniffing around for the smallest kink in the chain.

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RE: 'Stealing' Subs - 11/13/2006 1:17:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: kollin

Maybe I'm just not being blunt enough with people but I have had several doms contact my sub, some wanting to be friends and give advice. But mostly doms that are making unwanted advances and simply do not understand that she is already owned. I have attempted to deal with the matter and it doesn't seem to be sinking in. Any suggestions on how to deal with this utter lack of respect?
Kollin

If they want to still you're slave away offer then a challenge to win her instead. After all what gives one the right to own some one if they cant take it or have ever earned. Let alone keep such a person. The gorgon master (or what ever they call them self.) would understand this.

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