subfever
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I've been a sub for well over 10 years now. However, I started my D/s life as a Dom many years before that. I had an experience yesterday that has me questioning myself. Here is the scenario: I paid a visit to a ProDomme who I had been communicating with at length for several weeks. After having spent a few minutes with her at her place, it became clear to me that she lacked confidence and direction. Aside from the awkwardness of the situation, I felt truly surprised, considering that I had previously provided her with an enormous amount of information regarding myself and what I was looking for. A few minutes later, it occurred to me that she didn't have a dominant bone in her body. I wondered whether she had really performed pro-sessions previously, as she had claimed. Finding myself in a lost-cause situation, I decided to make a fast exit to save us both from additional awkwardness and discomfort. We were about 20 minutes into the lengthy session that we had arranged for. I paid her for the first hour and left. Several minutes into my long drive back home, I began thinking about the entire chain of events with her that had occurred. I concluded that her behavior was far more submissive than it was dominant. (There are other factors that support this conclusion, of which I have not mentioned here, because this OP is not intended to be a rant about her. It's about me.) The more I thought about her and what had transpired, the more I felt the urge to call her back and offer to return to her under the premise of switching roles. As I imagined myself putting her over my knees and spanking her for such a poor performance, I found myself quite sexually aroused. This caused me to temporarily flash back to a scene I had years ago with a femsub, which even further aroused me. As I drove along the highway, I pulled up the woman's phone number on my cell phone and almost hit the send button. At the last moment, I chickened out. But I continued to play out a very specific scene with her in my mind, where I forced several confessions out of her, really gotten into her head, punished her accordingly, and then had sex with her on my terms until she was completely sated and spent. For the first two hours of my drive home, my cock was throbbing from rolling along with my fantasies of domming her. And this was the first time in over 15 years that I've been aroused by fantasies of dominating a woman. I had some truly memorable experiences back then as a Dom, and now find myself wondering how I had morphed so completely over to the other side. I also regret not calling the woman back. Now I'll never know if she would have taken me up on my offer. So... my questions are: Have any of you found yourself, or know of anyone having a similar experience of feeling a strong desire to "return to their D/s roots?" Or taking it even a step further, has anyone ever actually began as either a Dom or sub, then morphed to the other side, then morphed back over? I don't mean short-term flip-flops, I'm talking about long-term and complete changes. Does my experience with this woman and my fantasies that occurred afterwards even remotely suggest that I'm a potential "switch," or perhaps, have been a switch all along, but didn't know it? Needless to say, I was quite surprised at my powerful sexual arousal and desire to go back and dominate this woman. I haven't had a single thought of subbing to a woman for over 24 hours now... which is a rarity. What's going on here? I feel like I've been psychologically broad-sided. Am I at the throes of morphing again, or have I just hit a bump in the road? Comments?
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