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RE: Question about tribute? - 2/16/2005 2:42:41 PM

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I have also found that there are numerous "do-me" subs who are only out there to get their kinks satisfied. I do not like wasting my time on no-shows or non-serious subs.

As part of my detailed application process, I ask them to pick out something from my online Wishlist. However, I am very aware that not all subs are made of money, so I chose several items that they could do for me that did not cost them any money, such as:

- Writing me an original poem
- Writing an essay for me on a topic of my choice

or another possibility that does not benefit me directly:

- Any donation to a recognized Women's Crisis Shelter
- Making a tax-deductible donation to one of my favorite charities (such as the War Amps of Canada, Heifer.org, or a Tsunami Relief Organization such as the Red Cross, Unicef, Oxfam, etc.) All they have to do is show/email me the receipt.

I like to see that they are serious in their intent and that they have the potential of caring and doing good for others.

When my subs come to visit me, particularly if we are going to play (versus just a service-oriented or housecleaning visit) -- I like it if they come with a small token for my time... much as men do on an important or romantic date. It might be as simple as a single flower, a favorite magazine, a box of my favorite Twinings Teas or a tin of my favorite French Vanilla Cappucino. It is the show of thought that went into obtaining such as token, and it means that they spent the time thinking of me while they were doing it. And of course, everytime they come across that same item, their thoughts will automatically turn to their lovely Mistress Jade! <very wicked grin>

As to expecting a tribute, particularly of money, just to be able to talk to a particular Domme -- it reeks somewhat of a Pro-Domme, but even then I know of many Pro-Dommes who do not charge simply to have a brief phone conversation with a potential client in order to clarify their terms, etc.

I would suggest caution if you are approached by such a Domme, or if they ask for such terms when you approach them. Or, to see if they are simply doing to "narrow down" the field, if there is any "non-material" tribute that you can offer - such as an essay or poem.

Just my 2¢ worth...

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RE: Question about tribute? - 2/17/2005 7:09:53 PM

BeachMystress

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I like the idea of writing a poem as tribute. LOL I know a lot of subs who would prefer to buy a woman something rather than sit down and take their own time producing something of this type. *grins* It does help to be poetry literate if you do this. I once had to tell a friend that a sweet, realistic poem a sub "wrote for her" was actually Shakespeare's Sonnet #130. sigh

Sonnet 130
My mistress' eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red than her lips' red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damask'd, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress, when she walks, treads on the ground:
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.

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RE: Question about tribute? - 2/20/2005 8:55:37 PM

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IMHO..Tributes are B.S. unless you are paying for Pro-domination (a service).

Don't get burned.

I was foolish enough to fall for it once...never again.

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RE: Question about tribute? - 2/25/2005 1:39:15 PM

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I do not require tribute as it is being discussed here. What I do expect is that the sub/slave do the things a gentleman would do on a first meeting, ie we meet for coffee, he takes care of it. Howwever, I still appreciate old fashioned manners and courtesy. If they choose to impress by bringing somethng simple like flowers (not roses, they are not appropriate for a first meet) or a small box of chocolate, fine. I would not accept jewelry or the like. One difference, however, is that I am not going to play with them the first meeting either. I would not demand that they buy me anything later. To me it is about the relationship, not the monetary things the sub/slave can bring to me. If they really want to give me something, then what I want is their submission, their surrender, their heart, their service. Unfortunately, I have not run into a lot who understand what those words really mean, whether it be male or female.

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RE: Question about tribute? - 2/25/2005 4:56:06 PM

LadySonelle

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I do *not* think it is at all appropriate to "tribute" before anything else! And I say that as a lifestyler who is just now getting into Financial Domination!

There is a word for a Woman who demands money before she'll talk with a man! If a Mistress demands cash up front, you have every reason to suspect her motives. With My first online slave it was two months before I asked for a tribute! Currently My second online slave has just bought Me a gift from Amazon, after nearly seven weeks of correspondance, daily! In each case, I made certain the slave was receiving My best attention, Lessons and rules, a schedule of activities and more *before* I requested a tribute.

You should have time to get to know the Lady in question, to talk to her, to learn what style of Dominance she prefers, etc. She should know about you, what yor abilities are and where you need to learn more before she even *thinks* of gifts! Anything else is just gaucherie.

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