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Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 1:11:47 PM   
zzzstinky


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Hello all...

I was trying to do a few "extra" things around the house, and to generally be pleasing to my owner...

What sort of things.. would Dommes, enjoy most as a pleasant surprise...

I was thinking of doing the grocery shopping, cleaning her car/changing oil, simple tasks but also things that might be welcome and pleasant surprises...

If you have any idea's to offer I "would" greatly appreciate them...

Thanks as always,
robby.
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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 1:21:08 PM   
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this probably differs from Domme to Domme... .but first to say that Im impressed wth ur initiative to do these tasks to make ur Dommes life easier.... Still on my own quest to find a sub of my own who might be able to show similar levels of initiative.

Try to think of the things that ur lady has mentioned not enjoying doing. Cleaning windows, hoovering out the car, hanging up freshly washed clothes back into the wardrobe etc are all winners with me :) oh... and defrosting the freezer lol

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 1:24:41 PM   
zzzstinky


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Thanks...

Yup... those are great idea....

You see, "i" think that "i" have started to do a good job serving her... Now "i" am hoping to move onto great....

little simple, fabulous thigs... warming her boots in the moring (it's cold here)... cleaning her car of snow... paying the odd bill as a surprise...

Thanks,
robby.

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 1:25:08 PM   
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One thing I hate to do is clean out the oven. Love to cook but cleaning it definitely is one of my dislikes.

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 1:41:05 PM   
zzzstinky


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Thanks for your "reply's" so far....

I think they are wonderful....

the idea, of just doing some simple things on top of my set of chores, isn't new... However "i" am trying to do a few things to really focus on satisfying my owner...

I have tried to do some simple things.. like take notes when she say's she like's certain songs... Then I download them to her Ipod...
Or maybe get a subscription to a favorite magazine...


I "appreciate" the suggestions from other Dommes, very much...

Cleaning the "oven" is a great idea... :) and when I am done, I could bake her some cookies... (okay, maybe not) I know my limits :)

Thanks again...
robby.


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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 2:31:32 PM   
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I was a live-in a few years back to a headmistress of a house of domination. There were times when I'd see her maybe later at night when she finally finished for the day, and she was generally so tired from working that all she really wanted me to do for her was to massage her and maybe draw her bath.

Well, one day I happened to be off from work, and she was in all day sessions again, so I wandered into the backyard of her place. It was an overgrown jungle back there because no one really had time to deal with it. So, I started cleaning it up. I pulled weeds. I chopped plants that had overgrown all over the place. Every moment in the garden was just another realization that something else needed to be done. That day stretched into weeks, and no one really even paid me much attention, as long as I was around when she was not in session, but she was extremely popular with the clientele, so that was a rarity when she was not in a session. I probably spent 3 weeks working on the garden, until it was finally what I thought it should be.

The important thing: I never even mentioned it to her. I was doing it for her, not me, so I figured some day she'd wander back there and see what a difference that place made.

Well, a few weeks went by beyond that, and she was locking me away for the night when one of the other mistresses came rushing in, whispered something in her ear, and they both disappeared. Then she came back and that was when I realized she had JUST discovered what I had done. She couldn't believe it. She hadn't even asked for it. But she was overwhelmed with how wonderful it looked.

That moment was great. Not because I received some redemption or reward for doing it, but because of the glow on her face that showed she realized how happy I had made her by doing this and not drawing any attention to it. I spent the rest of my time with her trying to do things like that, but that garden was probably my favorite accomplishment. And here's the catch: I didn't receive my most pleasure when she discovered what I had done. My pleasure came each moment I was out in her garden making it look nice for her.


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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 4:13:36 PM   
mp072004


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When trying to surprise someone, please determine that the person you intend to surprise likes to be surprised. I do not like to be surprised, even when the surprising behavior is something I would ordinarily like. This has resulted in unhappiness for me and for the person delivering the "pleasant surprise" more than once. I found Littlesarbonn's story a delight to read, but I know that I would not have reacted with happiness like the woman in his story did. Robby, I thoroughly applaud your intent, but you know what they say about roads to Hell. Then again, perhaps this caution is unnecessary because you have already learned that your owner enjoys being surprised.

If you don't know, however, you might move gently toward surprises. You could effectively ask permission to do something extra, "Wow, the oven is grungy. Would you mind if I cleaned it tomorrow?" If you have been asked to do something relatively small and not permanent previously, like warming her boots in the morning, and you do it again unasked, that's a gentler sort of surprise. Then, too, you can apply birthday gift logic; you can observe her carefully and note when she remarks on a task in need of attention, and attend to it. You might take note of things she does for herself, and note carefully exactly how she does them, and then do them for her, or make it easier for her to do them. For example, if she fixes herself a cup of tea on arriving home, you could set a kettle to boiling.

Good luck!

Monica

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 4:27:44 PM   
Renorei


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Wowee.  I can't imagine how awesome it would be to have someone like you around the house. 


You might could also try to buy her small, but sentimentally meaningful gifts now and then.  Not a big thing, just something to show you care.  Maybe have roses sent to her workplace or something like that.  And, as everyone else has said, simply observe the things that she does and do them before her so she doesn't have to. 

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 4:45:54 PM   
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Dear zzzstinky, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Mistresses/Dominant Ladies are different and that is a fact.
 
I can only make suggestions based on what my slaves have done that warmed my soul.
 
A winter blanket covered my house, car and the lot.  My slave without needing to be told, woke himself up and snuck outside and shoveled the entire walkway, side walk, driveway, cleaned off the cars.  Being a light sleeper, I heard him and watched from the window.  When done, he snuck back in the house and went back to his pad and resumed his sleep.
 
All my slaves have been wonderful gentlemen, who acted with random acts of kindness.  So, at times they surprised me with little things.
 
Most normal days at the dining table, it is set casual and or informal.
Out of the blue, my slaves gave me a formal dinner. 
 
It really comes to my mind's eyes; that the spirit of love comes from the heart and the spirit of giving and or serving comes from the soul.
Whatever someone does, with no prompting and or command; is the most wonderful gift a dominant woman like I, could ever receive.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/26/2006 7:56:23 PM   
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I generally HATE surprises, especially when it involves a slave doing something that was not part of their proscribed duties......

I often will create a list of "other duties" that are random things that need to be done on a rare or occasional basis, but nothing that needs to be assigned on a routine schedule.  Picking things off of that list to tackle might be the most adventurous I will stand from my slave.

sarbonn's post was very interesting.  I doubt something would go past me taking that much of a slave's time without my noticing.  It would bother me if it DID go unnoticed for that long, as a dominant!

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/27/2006 12:21:57 PM   
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I personally love when my slave does nice things that surprise me.
The best thing you can do is learn what your one likes and dislikes and use that to please further.

You sound like you are a wonderful little slave....and I would adore a surprise like sarbon gave too.

Different strokes for different folks.

The Guiding Goddess

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RE: Doing mundane tasks... - 11/27/2006 3:48:50 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: zzzstinky

Hello all...

I was trying to do a few "extra" things around the house, and to generally be pleasing to my owner...

What sort of things.. would Dommes, enjoy most as a pleasant surprise...

I was thinking of doing the grocery shopping, cleaning her car/changing oil, simple tasks but also things that might be welcome and pleasant surprises...

If you have any idea's to offer I "would" greatly appreciate them...

Thanks as always,
robby.


In addition to what others have said, its been my experience that most Dommes, as women particularly like to be pampered and treated with special attention.  You might think in terms of eCards, or Hallmark cards that she can have the pleasure of tearing open.  Don't foget to pick up an inexpensive bouquet of flowers when you do the shopping and various things along those lines!  These all are things that you'll want to send for no particular reason!  They're just to show her how special she is to you, and how thankful you are that she's in your life to serve!  

You might also offer to give her a manicure & pedicure.  Be sure to ask her to train you for the task if you don't already specifically know how, as there are certain techniques that you'll want to make certain you have learned to master.  Otherwise, you'll want to surprise her and take her to a salon and pay the price to have them done for her.    In my experience, there's little that makes a woman feel quite so feminine as having had her nails freshly done!  

Even if you don't have a foot fetish, I've never met a woman who didn't enjoy having her feet rubbed after a long hard day.  Ditto for an offer to have her neck and shoulders rubbed as well.  Which reminds me that I've never met a woman who enjoy polishing her shoes.  You might consider going through her wardrobe and polishing each and every one!  At the very least you do your best to try and remove all the black scuff marks the lighter colored ones tend to get.  I can guarantee that's something she'll greatly appreciate.

Here's another you might try, and that's to make yourself useful in the morning by brewing her a fresh pot of coffee (or tea) if that's what she likes to drink.  Personally I'm not into either one, but used to brew a pot every morn for my former special one.  As she washed, I also helped her collect her clothes for the day and helped put them on her as well.  This saved her time and created additional intimacy.  It also provided me the opportunity to suggest what she might want to wear.  I also got to fondle her sexy intimates as I got it out for her as well, not to mention touching and feeling her body as I put her things on her each day.   It was a great thing all around!   So, its something you might consider asking to see if she might like having your help.  Offering to brush her hair at night is something women seem to like as well.  Think in terms of personal service to her and I'm certain you can do yourself some favors all around.   Add in the others with regard to help the house and you should be all set.   There's little doubt that you seem to be on the right track, just keep it up and you should be all set.!

Best of luck to you, as I think you're on the right track!   Give it a whirl and be sure to drop back in and let us know what worked the best for you.

- pixel

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