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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 5:59:33 AM

SamKeithsslave

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

All the toys I own were recently purchased. I had to get rid of my old things when I got married becasue th evanilla hubby didnt "approve".

Oh, I can so relate to this, I was made to feel cheap and dirty by my ex for wanting just ONE vibrator! He took it as a personal insult, which on reflection I could see how he might lol

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 7:16:03 AM

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I am piece by piece building my own collection of toys. So far I've only got a flogger, 2 crops and a wooden spoon and am awaiting a paddle that is being custom made for me. I'm thinking next up will be a singletail. I've also got clothespins, clamps, and my own insertables. When I bottom the tops use their own personal impact toys generally. All are cleaned right after use. Most of the tops I know have and use their own selection of toys and have extensive collections. They prefer their own as they are more comfortable and familiar to use.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 8:31:25 AM

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Who needs toys?? Surely all you need is a damn good Dom/Master with loads of imagination ;)

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 9:03:13 AM

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Who needs toys?? Surely all you need is a damn good Dom/Master with loads of imagination ;)

I don't think anyone is saying toys are needed. But some of us do like to incorporate them into fun, training, and discipline. Owning toys is not an indication of anyone's imagination level. But if my Master wants me to experience a knife cutting into my skin, or to experience the fear of his blade pressing into my juggular, then that is what he will use. He can elicit the same intensity with just his voice and words, too. All are tools he uses for various reasons and purposes.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 9:30:22 AM

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I own more toys then Sir, but I began collecting before he did *S*. We play with items we both own. Insertables that he buys will stay with me, if for any reason we do not stay together, as that is something neither of us believe is transferable to another

Other toys that can be used on multiple people if we bought them together I'm pretty sure would be negotiated as to whom they stay with if there comes a time that we split up. Anything I buy for for Him would definately stay with Him.

Considering we don't live together that might make a difference as well. He controls what can and will or will not be used whether he is there or not.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 4:09:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: MercilessMarcy

Love it when a bottom brings their toys. Fast easy way to see their experience level and what they are happy with.

I am curious how this demonstrates experience to you? I can understand the assumption that the toys they have are ones they enjoy having used on them.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 4:14:54 PM

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I would not want a toy used on me that had been used on another person. To me that is icky.

Do you think this about all types of toys or just certain kinds? Insertables are the most common ones that I hear about people not wanting to share, but I am wondering if canes, paddles, clothespins, etc. are also something you do not want to share.

Kyra

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 4:18:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: acquiescentfem

Who needs toys?? Surely all you need is a damn good Dom/Master with loads of imagination ;)

Yes, but how much more fun it is to have a top with a wicked imagination AND a room full of toys to choose from!!

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 4:48:52 PM

theMadWelder

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Hello,
Toys and usage

I will politely excuse myself and wash my hands for a good ole fashioned spanking/rough body play scene.

The singletails, for most the cracker is a highly prized trophy, just remove it from the whip and present it to the person after the scene.(I dont use any signal whips)

Cuffs, floggers, dragontails etc, just carry a couple of each and have the person you did a scene with help clean the items up.

If the person that I were to do a scene with had their own impliments, I would gladly use them and return the favor and help them clean up also.

The benches, crosses, stocks etc, also just have the person help you clean them up and then they are ready for the next people that want to use them.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 6:31:15 PM

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All of our toys have been purchased by one or both of us since we've been together. i have never thought about ownership - i've just assumed we both own the toys. The only exception to this is the crop, which for some reason, i consider to be his. He has a special fondness for the crop, and for some reason i strongly associate it with his mastering/domination. His crop seems like the one sacred item, and more of an extension of him than a toy. We've never discussed this, it's just my own perception.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 6:44:51 PM

ownedgirlie

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

Do you think this about all types of toys or just certain kinds? Insertables are the most common ones that I hear about people not wanting to share, but I am wondering if canes, paddles, clothespins, etc. are also something you do not want to share.

Kyra

This question has been interesting to me, Kyra, and I thought about it more today. I know he used some of his toys on his former slave, and it used to make me feel a little odd to be restrained in the same cuffs that once held her in place, or to be struck with the same crop, etc. But a long time ago I realized I really didn't care about that anymore.

However, recently I have made some floggers for him to use on me. When I make them, I think about him, and I wonder how they will feel when he strikes me with them. This question caused me to wonder...how would I feel if he used these on someone else?

I realized - I don't care!! I was surprised at my own conclusion, actually, but it's true. I give him these gifts without conditions attached, just as I give him myself without conditions. I am just as much his property as these toys, and vice versa. He might use ME on someone else just as easily as he might use one of those floggers. It really doesn't matter to me. He finds the floggers I make for him quite special, but what he does with them once in his possession is his choice and his business. And I am quite comfortable with that. I was surprised by this because there was a time when I would have really had to talk myself into trying to feel this way. But today I realized I just do feel this way. I told him about this thread and about my conclusion, and he was quite pleased.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 6:46:58 PM

SweetSarijane

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ORIGINAL: theMadWelder

The singletails, for most the cracker is a highly prized trophy, just remove it from the whip and present it to the person after the scene.(I dont use any signal whips)

The dominant friend who usually tops me at most of the parties I go to gave me the cracker off his singletail after he first used it on me and as long as I have it with me, he will put it on and use it on me <grin>.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 8:21:38 PM

NINASHARP

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Having a rather large toy collection I have a division of categories for who I use them on. I did provide more than half of the ones which were used on myself when I was submissive, although it did not bother me if my former Master would share these things with my sub sisters, Some personal items that were special, like my Russian riding crop, and other toys that were custom made and gifts to my former, were kept at my place to be used on me only.

Most all my toys that I use when topping I purchased myself. I have more than one of many of the same toys, for the use of different individuals. All collars, any kind of gags, hoods, cock rings/harnesses, vampire gloves, body bags, harnesses, blindfolds, arm binders, suspension cuffs, single tails and several paddles and floggers I use, are sometimes more personal, depending on with whom I play with.

There are toys which are defined as neutral because they can be cleaned appropriately, like rubber whips, rubber cuffs (these can be worn in the shower but must be dried so the clasps don’t rust), canes, crops, violent wands, assortment of nipple clamps, stethoscopes, wartenberg wheels, and an inflatable latex hood (which I adore). The main dungeon furniture is consider to be neutral, like my spanking bench or sling where I put a towel down before I lay a person on it, bed of nails, St. Andrews cross, stocks (though I have a lined set which is for one person and also me when I bottomed) all rope and locks and metal spreader bars. Although leather can be cleaned and sanitized, I have found after a few washes the items need replaced.

I also use disposable items like bamboo skews, clothes pins, hair clips, leather shoe lace for cock or breasts bondage, ear plugs and wooden pizza paddles that sometimes break.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 9:25:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: theMadWelder

The singletails, for most the cracker is a highly prized trophy, just remove it from the whip and present it to the person after the scene.(I dont use any signal whips)

Ah, thank you so much for sharing this, theMadWelder. It brought back a very fond memory for me. I was gifted with a cracker by a top when I volunteered to do a demo with him. It was completely unexpected and I was overwhelmed. I still have it to this day. :) I think it's an absolutely wonderful keepsake to gift to a bottom. Marks fade.. crackers last forever.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 9:49:43 PM

juliaoceania

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My Daddy does not have any toys anymore because he got rid of all of them with his last submissive. We will get new ones that will be dedicated to me. He does have a few martial arts weapons he has used on me, we play with clamps and other items that we have perverted, but we have not bought any floggers or any items for insertion. We have not felt the need for these things right away, we have a large imagination, and plenty of passion, but we do want to get some stuff. We have went window shopping for them. I want to try the Wurternberg wheel, it seems to be just the kinda thing I would love, and that is something we are going to try soon.

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 9:51:36 PM

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Oh.. here is a toy I thought looked like a lot of fun for Halloween... I could go as roadkill... I am such a masochist!
http://www.tirepaddle.com/2005/10/the_master_mech.html

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RE: Owning Toys - 11/30/2006 10:05:02 PM

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Dear kyraofMists, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I have an extensive "toy"/"tool"/"gear" collection. Since I do enjoy the educational side of the lifestyle; I like to have a good selection for students to hold, handle and experience.

I am not into blood sports or breaking skin. I believe you can be a Sadist and use the victim's body nicely without ruining the toys used on the victim.

I will use other's personal toys on them. There are some who do have medical issues and to contaminate mine isn't a good idea. What cost me $250.00 for a flogger over 13 years ago, would be roughly $400.00 now to replace, times 13. That doesn't include the cat o nines, flails, paddles, canes, quirts and other goodies I have.

I also use a snake whip (in the single tail class); if there is a risk of drawing blood. The snake has a leather piece attached to the braided part of the single tail. It also holds a cracker on the other end, which can be removed and tossed away without having to dedicate the entire whip. I can then put a brand new cracker/popper on the end of the snake whip and resume my fun.

In my salad days in the scene, it was just normal for Dominants to supply all the toys used. The cost so high now days, as well as STD's and other health issues cropping up and or just a discomfort of being subjected to toys having visited elsewhere--its normal now days for slaves/submissives to buy their own gear. I also find it nice that they'll haul their own gear in also!!

Some things I have can be washed in a dish washer or sterilized in a pot or medical sterilizing equipment. However, leather and wood, fiber like objects cannot be sterilized. So, if any risk of blood--I use rubber, plastic or aluminum products that can be properly cleaned.

I come into a relationship equipped. If the relationship ends, it will have to be decided how to handle the equipment bought by the slave. I buy it--it is mine. Gift, it is mine.

And--I will state--that a dominant can NEVER have enough toys in the toy bag.

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RE: Owning Toys - 12/1/2006 5:09:34 AM

angharad

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I decided to buy my own gag, my own insertables for hygiene and 'ick' reasons, and anything to fit my body. I also started noticing things and collecting things, just in case

, lengths of soft cord rope, little things he may have mentionned.

As shopping for things is something I really enjoy I often look around, attend meets and talk to craftsmen. Ahhhh so many beautiful things

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RE: Owning Toys - 12/1/2006 5:58:46 AM

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Julia,

I checked the link to the tire paddle. Awesome! and if you do ever buy and use it, let me know what you think of it please.
A former Dom worked at a tire place. He took some tire rubber and made me a paddle- it did not have the tread texture the link one had- but he craved a heart into it. The rubber was very thick /heavy
I called it the beast lol. I have a picture of it some place
I can take/tolerate alot of pain. I love it- crave it in fact-but that thing.Forget it!
He didnt even swing it. Just hold it over the skin area and let it flip over and strike the skin. Talk about a STING! To this day that is the only thing I own that I still cannot do.
A friend of mine just held it over her arm and just let it flip over striking the skin it left a bright red mark.

Now my rubber flooger- ooooh yummy

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RE: Owning Toys - 12/1/2006 6:36:44 AM

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ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane

I'm thinking next up will be a singletail.

I wouldn't recommend investing the money in a single tail unless it's something you want to learn to use yourself, or it's a gift for a specific person.

The skill level needed for a single tail is significantly higher than for a flogger or a paddle. Single tails are fairly precision instruments, as a mild enthusiast (I only have 6 or 7) I would not care to use anyone else's in a scene, particularly if I'd never used that specific piece before. Every single tail handles differently, and every person throws a single tail differently, IMHO. The whips "break in" to how the user throws

When I get a new whip, or even if I just haven't used one of my own in a while, I always work with it extensively before I'll use it on someone, to make sure that I have *that* particular whip under control before it gets to taste a human target..

Instead, I'd recommend investing that kind of money in perhaps another flogger that is different from what you have (for example, if you have a soft thumpy, you might want to get a stingy one).

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