Dear SassySue, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In the lifestyle, I have found that sometimes you have to have more of a tough skin and not get so insulted by everything and or anybody that doesn't suit your personal style of exchanges.
With so many individuals who play behind the computer screen, often selling themselves falsely, to include looks; which has been evident in my area at times--pictures do help but, that said--anybody can download a picture of somebody else and present it as theirs. However, those who can proffer a picture within minutes of request are those who most likely are genuine individuals--flaws and all.
I also find, that those who say; "I want to be your friend," may be wanting to be something entirely different then 'a friend.' So many people who say they are my friends, are more likely to be acquaintances but, most times rarely in the most intimate relationship as friendship in my minds eyes I see as 'a friend.' I would also feel uneasy for someone to suddenly want to be my friend out of the blue. Friendships are earned, much like trust. And, if this dom has been burned --he will be ouchy as I would be.
Friendship in my mind's eyes I see, is a relationship. Although it is not on a D/s level; one is operating in and about the D/s, M/s and or BDSM community and or scene. So, to have an approach that is demanding and one sided, to meet as to make friends but, not a relationship--well, it might not be the same recipe in making acquaintances and or friendship later on.
Pictures help anybody who recieves them. So many times the picture gives a sense about someone. I also suspect that this dom didn't ask for a nude picture--that would have been tacky and over the line. But, again--refusal to give a picture could be the beginnings of assumptions that you might be some legal bait or something other than being what you originally intended. The whole on-line and or Internet process of connecting has made many cynical. So, one should be prepared to be faced with cynical individuals. I don't ask for pictures myself. I do mention if and when there is a meeting, to wait until then so I can find them in the mass of humanity. But, I wouldn't be slighted at all, if somebody asked for a picture. It could lead to more conversation, as to what kind of picture and what not.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,