littlesarbonn
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Joined: 12/3/2005 From: Stockton, California Status: offline
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To be honest, in your circumstance, I think you still have enough control that you can decide whether or not IMs become a part of the interaction process. In my circumstance, it's a bit different as I am more of the submissive nature and needing to be a bit more responsive. However, with that said, I'm not a real IM person, and even though people have asked for my IM information, and I have given it, I also put forth the strong possibility that I'm rarely, if ever, going to be on that IM platform. It somewhat works. I am communicating, and have been communicating with one woman, who is on yahoo messenger all the time, but she generally sends me emails rather than IMs mainly because she realizes I'm usually either not "on" or invisible most of the time because I leave my computer on all the time and am rarely standing right in front of it. It works for me, but I guess the important part of that disclaimer is that I was very upfront about my lack of usage of this type of technology so that it never really became a problem for me. But if you are seeking younger people, which if I remember correctly is something that you do seek, it's going to be one of those decisions you'll pretty much have to make based on the fact that more and more younger people are using IMs as actual communication these days. I find this a case in my teaching responsibilities. Most of my students are all late teenagers and in their very early twenties. They're extremely linked to the Internet, and it takes a lot of effort for me to convince them that they need to contact me in the real world, not send me an email or try to instant message me, or try to locate me through my Facebook/My Space interface either. They do what I tell them, mainly because as a teacher, I have that authority to make sure that they contact me in the way I deem most useful to me. In a roundabout way, I think that should probably fit your category as well. If there are other circumstances, then I can't talk to those, but just based on what little I know, there's that.
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