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ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

it's not about being the dom and having the last say or having rank over you; it's nothing more than selfishness and laziness; just ask any real man with  a marked amount of class!

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ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1

Question is.
Why do men feel that providing the same compliment goes against the grain, and cant?

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

To be more specific and lazy yet,. my fuckin clothes are in the closet, you lay them out, if you don't like what I am wearin' prepare for an ass whipping, fault lies with you.......THIS IS JUST A POOR EXCUSE FOR A COPE OUT OF RESPONSIBILTY!! 
 
imho, you are missing the point.  if you are a caring Master (which many of your posts seem cruel and short to others), if you care at all for your sub/slave, then maybe it would teach you something about giving to please and ensure your sub/slave is content and taken care of too. 
 
i really don't think it's a lot to ask your Master/ Dom to do those nice things too.  this life is not all about your wants and needs either.  a sub/slave asking this of her Master/ Dom should be viewed as a pure compliment!  not as a punishment in which you seem to think, it should be. 
 
i will apologize now if i have offended you, but your posts do come across as harsh most of the time and very cynical.  are u a happy person?  if not, i'm sorry and i wish for you to be able to find someone who maybe can give that to you one day. happiness and compassion for others.

Jali, offer to put on and take off his boots, you should be able to get boot jacks over there like nothing (the cast iron grasshoppers)  this i agree with, it's a great idea!  i will use it in the future as a way of complimenting my Master's ego and self-esteem, which everyone needs boosting now and again.

LOL,
Rib

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ORIGINAL: xoxi
Superficial? Extremely!  But then again I would rather be single than be with someone I wasn't compatible with.  And that includes physically.

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ORIGINAL: Xeath

I know I'm new, but I figured I would share My thoughts on it. My kitten has occasionally asked me to wear a specific outfit for going out or to put something on. I use that as a reward for when she has been good. All to often the excuse I don't have to is used, and i'll admit I have used that myself because I didn't want to. However I must point out that as others have said the subs needs must be met as well otherwise is just an abusive take relationship of with power subversion involved. Rewarding a sub is always fun and also necessary to show them We truly care about them when they deserve it. Just my two cents in a round about the bushes answer heh.

Xeath

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ORIGINAL: acctonthelook

i, as a sub get so tired of Dom's using 'because he doesn't have to' excuse in place of the actual cause: selfishness and laziness.  being a good Dom also includes making sure your sub's needs get met too.  oh sorry, you don't have too.  zzzz

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ORIGINAL: Diamonion
To make a very generalized answer, because he doesn't have to. To get into a bit more specific... it's the joy of being a dom. 

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To be more specific and lazy yet,. my fuckin clothes are in the closet, you lay them out, if you don't like what I am wearin' prepare for an ass whipping, fault lies with you.......THIS IS JUST A POOR EXCUSE FOR A COPE OUT OF RESPONSIBILTY!!

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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secondly,  I don't dress up for my girls... I dress up for myself... I take pride in how I look!   Also,, I am glad that my girls appreciate that I enjoy and want to dress well.  But, make no mistake... I do it for me not them.

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ORIGINAL: amuzingtoyou

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

secondly,  I don't dress up for my girls... I dress up for myself... I take pride in how I look!   Also,, I am glad that my girls appreciate that I enjoy and want to dress well.  But, make no mistake... I do it for me not them.

I don't see what is wrong with dressing or wearing a certain article your submissive enjoys you in.

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

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I never said there was anything wrong with it.... maybe you should stop being so defensive.

I gave my motivations for how I dress myself.... others have different motivations... neither is right or wrong... just different.

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ORIGINAL: Sirandlittle1

I also have visual arousal in my repetoire. And there are many 'looks' that do it for me. /quote]

It is a well known fact that women are not affected with visual but that of emotion. ;)

Ross

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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists




I don't dress up for my girls... I dress up for myself... I take pride in how I look!   Also,, I am glad that my girls appreciate that I enjoy and want to dress well.  But, make no mistake... I do it for me not them.

Lastly, I would be concerned that my girls are dressing up just for me... I want them to have their own self-pride of looking good etc.... and I will definitely show my appreciate on the care they give in looking good and taking care of what is mine.  But, make no mistake... this is not some deal I dress well you dress well BS.

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ORIGINAL: Elegant

My somewhat snarky thoughts in general, not necessarily relating to D/s relationships:

• Many men are inept at picking out matching/coordinating/appropiate attire.
  
• Some men are colorblind and cannot match pants to shirts to ties to socks etc.
  
• Many men do not like to shop, especially in higher end stores so they either wear their  ratty ('comfortable') clothing until it falls off their body or they pop into Wally World once a year for another Nascar T or doubleknit golf style shirt.
  
• Men often get into a rut and wear the same look for a loooong time..sometimes much longer that they should . (Hey..the 1980's are calling...they want their leather and knit sweater back).