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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

you are not alone, there are a lot of women out there with that issue...and lots of authors of books writing books for them
 
some books tackle it from a psychological perspective, healing past trauma, doing deep relaxation , being comfortable with intimacy ect...
 
but my favorite is a woman who wrote "the super sexual orgasm book" ......Barbra Keesling is her name.
 
anyway her thing is that, she was a sex therapist and found a huge majority of the women she sees could not climax vaginally. Her research has led her to understand that the uterus in these women hang slightly over the cervix...she has discovered there is a huge pool of nerve endings she calls the cul-de-sac that are not accessed because the uterus is blocking the acess.
 
in her book she teaches countless women to tone the uterus, through a very elaborate series of kagles, and to have the mind altering, earth dripping orgasms.
 
and i am one of them.
 
to date i have had a 2 hour orgasm on 3 occasions...and sure folks out there might think that is as likely as Santa clause getting laid by the tooth fairy... but it is true...and i attribute it to her book.

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ORIGINAL: LaMspeach

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ORIGINAL: ADomlesssub

Ooh may i borrow him please? just for an ickle while.... hehe.....

I dont think Master would take kindly to me loaning him out. * smiles * but..... I am sure if you ever visit the states he would allow me to arrange something * sweet innocent smiles*

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ORIGINAL: DevilsVendetta

I had an ex with a similar problem, what worked for her was a variant of missionary. Put a pillow or two under your ass and have him not lying down on top of you, but with his knees out as far as possible, basically getting a somwhat upwards thrust, it also gets alot of depth and if done properly he can go fairly hard and fast. It's a bit tricky at first, but once he gets the hang of it you'll enjoy it

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ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress

but my favorite is a woman who wrote "the super sexual orgasm book" ......Barbra Keesling is her name.

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ORIGINAL: timeoutgurlie

For me the only way to hit my gspot is with oral and manual stimulation combined, and it takes quite a while to get to that level.  Multiple orgasms are a must before there's any chance of the gspot reacting whatsoever.

We make a night of it lol

That sensation of having to pee badly is your cue, go with it, and when you do your body just goes through the motions pretty involuntarily.  Just when you think you're about to lose your mind, the push comes and it's without a doubt the most intense orgasm you will every have.

I think every woman is capable, it just does take a lot of practice, trial and error.  Once you've had your first one though you know where the hot spots are and what does it for you just as it is with anything else sexual.  Gotta learn your body's hot spots and adapt around that, every woman is different and no two women will respond the same way to the same "moves".

I never orgasm through penetration alone, the times I orgasm during intercourse there is clitoral stimulation, either internally or externally, so you're far from alone.  I don't know of any woman who orgasms through straight penis in vagina intercourse without any clitoral stimulation, and I'm suspicious of those who claim they do to be honest.  It's likely they're still stimulated clitorally but from the inside rather than the outside.

You're normal, don't worry

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

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ORIGINAL: timeoutgurlie

For me the only way to hit my gspot is with oral and manual stimulation combined, and it takes quite a while to get to that level.  Multiple orgasms are a must before there's any chance of the gspot reacting whatsoever.

We make a night of it lol

That sensation of having to pee badly is your cue, go with it, and when you do your body just goes through the motions pretty involuntarily.  Just when you think you're about to lose your mind, the push comes and it's without a doubt the most intense orgasm you will every have.

I think every woman is capable, it just does take a lot of practice, trial and error.  Once you've had your first one though you know where the hot spots are and what does it for you just as it is with anything else sexual.  Gotta learn your body's hot spots and adapt around that, every woman is different and no two women will respond the same way to the same "moves".

I never orgasm through penetration alone, the times I orgasm during intercourse there is clitoral stimulation, either internally or externally, so you're far from alone.  I don't know of any woman who orgasms through straight penis in vagina intercourse without any clitoral stimulation, and I'm suspicious of those who claim they do to be honest.  It's likely they're still stimulated clitorally but from the inside rather than the outside.

You're normal, don't worry

One guy told me that women do pee when they have orgasms and said he was really grossed out by it.

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

One guy told me that women do pee when they have orgasms and said he was really grossed out by it.

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ORIGINAL: ADomlesssub



ok slight blush here...

i have NEVER climaxed through penetration!!  In fact i think i was born without a G-Spot.....

has anyone else experienced this and then managed to "get over" it? Any positions or toys i should try???

ta muchly in advance
snarf
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ORIGINAL: ADomlesssub

Ah thank jeepers for that - i thought that was the case - i mean many chicks needing clit stim too.... but my last master was adamant that MOST girlies climax through penetration - i did suggest that maybe that's what they told him and perhaps faked it....

Ooh that flogging hurt......hehe

snarf
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ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel

Nope, you're not alone.  I've never had an orgasm through penetration either.  I have become quite familiar with my g-spot though. *blush*

Last summer I bought the book, Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl, because I had never even heard of women squirting before.  The book is beyond amazing in teaching you about your anatomy and what it can do, and about female ejaculation in ancient cultures.  I started doing the "hands-on" exercises in the book and the first time I squirted I was astounded at the amount of fluid that came out, and NO it was not urine, although it is expelled from the urethra.

She does explain that you can squirt with or without an orgasm, and the times I have squirted through masturbation or intercourse, I have never orgasmed.

What I realized through reading her book was that over the years, several partners had been hitting and stimulating my g-spot, which lead to a feeling that I needed to pee.  This freaked me out because I didn't want to pee on my partner, so I held back.  If I had pushed into it like I would if I were going to the bathroom, I'd have ejaculated on them... but I didn't know that then.

The position that did it best for me as far as my g-spot goes was missionary with my legs over his shoulders.

I had never really explored my vagina until I read this book and followed her instructions as I explored.  I found my g-spot right off the bat and have been getting to know her ever since.   She explains that the g-spot is actually the base of clitoral tissues. 

Anyway....  I do hope to one day have a g-spot orgasm as they sound mind-blowing.

But don't feel weird, because my understanding is that few women orgasm without clitoral stimulation.

I highly recommend the book.