BDSM05478
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ORIGINAL: youngmistress500 My boyfriend and I have decided to explore female domination in our relationship; our journey began only a few days ago. It is something that we both want to do and we want to make sure to avoid as many “rookie” mistakes as possible. Neither of us are hesitant in any way, but we do want to avoid mistakes. How long have ya'll be together in total? and who's idea was it to change the dynamic? I have found the message boards to be very informative, but most of the advice seems to be for situations different than my own. I am a brand new domme and the advice which I am seeking is very situational in nature. I hope that some of the more experienced dommes, having dealt with similar situations in the past, can shed some light on some of my issues. I have visited sites like FrugalDomme, but am really much more interested in tried and true methods used by others with firsthand experience. Don't limit yourself to only femDom pages, you can learn alot from the MaleDom ones too, just an fyi. I would like to develop a few rituals to guide the early stages of his training. For the past three nights, our femdom play has consisted of one ritual that I developed. It is the only ritual that we have so far. My boyfriend lays over my lap for a spanking while I explain, over and over, my expectations for him. (Repetition is my strategy right now.) repetition is a good thing.......it's tried and true in all worlds This lasts for about 30 minutes and I gently rub his balls and his penis with my other hand. However, he is not allowed to cum for four more days. I want him to wait one week for his first femdom orgasm as a sign of his submissiveness towards me (is this too long?). One week is not too long, no matter what a man may say lol We have agreed that all of his future orgasms will be humiliating in some way. I do not understand the proposed benefit of this.... is it a fetish or training method? Although I’ve checked the forums, I am still trying to think of a good idea. I would also like it to involve him eating his own cum, but I’m not sure if it would be too much for a new sub. I would welcome any humiliating ideas for his orgasm, or any thoughts about a new sub eating cum. I think cum drinking isn't something to hard for a new sub to do, in my experience most have already done it when they were younger. I really can not help with the making an orgasim humiliating part, kinda at a loss with that.... unless you made him cum in his underware or criticizing his preformance..... I would also really like to hear about any rituals that other mistresses have found to be successful. By ritual you mean? I can tell youhere in Our house there are rules that are posted till memorized then removed and reminded or tested. That way everyone knows the basics of what is expected. I already miss having sex with him, but the increased frequency of oral sex has more than made up for it. He has been licking me to orgasm multiple times each day and, so far, seems to be more attentive in other areas as well. I intend to allow him to penetrate me again in the future, but I want to make sure he can control his orgasm first. Cock ring can help with holding back orgasim. I would actually encourage penetration during this time, but controled by you.... ride him as you like but stop before you get to that point, settle him down a little and do it again, and again and again lol not that can be fun! or painfull stimulus when he has an erection, so long as he doesn't like pain that can work but if he likes pain it cam make him cum instead .... dealers choice I really want him to make it through his orgasm denial periods, especially in the early stages. Does anyone have any suggestions for teaching a sub to control his orgasm during sex?see above Other areas of interest include ass worship, foot worship, some nipple play, verbal humiliation, butt plugs (for him!) and I definitely want to get a riding crop. In the near future, I would also like to explore watersports, cbt, and strapon play. This might sound weird, since I haven’t seen anything about it on the forums, but I have a burning desire to see him finger his own ass. Sorry to say but the reason you don't see that posted too often is because it is a common activity among most sexually liberated people. Thats why ya won't see any posts about kissing..... I really want to make sure I do this right and any suggestions from experienced dommes (and other dommes and subs as well) would be greatly appreciated! I would be happy to answer any questions or fill in any details that I might have left out. I also would love to set up recurring mentoring/tutoring when new situations arise. Thank you in advance! Wishing you and yours the best of luck on your new path and I pray you find a new level of love and adoration we each other. As I firmly believe that this lifestyle rocks! Happy New Year
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