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MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 1:53:45 PM)
Well me and Master just talked... He assured me things where ok and that we would have our talk in person but that it was a new year with a clean slate. My emotions where a little waky and he didnt completly understand and said he didnt realise that I hadnt had my medication for a few days (my Dr was AWOL and Im outta meds Im bipoler) so there were some things feeding the emotions but things are ok between us though we will talk further about it and how it can be avouided in the future wich is good... I need a way to keep my emotions in check even without the meds though :( Magik;s slave

mbes -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 2:21:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave I felt alone and abandoned I tried to get Masters attention he didnt like it I am wrong here not him I should have sat in the corner quietly like a good slave and taken the attention that was given to me and not tried to take more then Master wanted to give. End outcome.. this is my foult. Magik's slave I only really have one question--- Does he find it acceptable for you to feel "alone and abandoned" and feel no need to provide reassurance, or does he also see this as something that could be worked on? Ok, another question--- Are you ok with the answer to the first? The only thing I've really figured out about this lifestyle is that there are no right answers, only answers that work for you.

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 2:28:50 PM)
mbes.. a lot of the feeling I was haveing looking back on it was due to lack of meds and the fact that I had only a few days befor gotten of a plain from Disney world where I had taken my little sisters and was totaly drained and starved for Masters attention a party was probubly the last thing I needed but I wanted to be with Master. We both made some mistakes but mostley it was a lack of some comunication, Master usualy reads me so well Im not used to haveing to spell my needs out for him.. Im spoiled that way I guess, and it is something to work on for both of us. Magik's slave

adaddysgirl -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 2:35:08 PM)
MS, i have seen you come on here before with emotional issues that seemed to get resolved before the thread even ended....lol. But seriously, i just hope that whatever you worked out with your Master, you have peace of mind with it because if it really wasn't resolved, it will no doubt happen again. This is supposed to be a place to vent but as you know, once you do, you open the door to others' opinions....which may not always be favorable. In any event, maybe posting did help you in some way....either as a vent, or a 'push' to talk to your Master, or perhaps even to realize that maybe things weren't just the way you thought they were that night. But i'm glad to hear you worked it out. Best wishes in the future [&:] DG

domiguy -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 2:38:48 PM)
In this day and age of not being able to turn a corner, let alone turn on your computer without being bombarded by information. I find your lack of communication skills completely refreshing. out. D.G. p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers.

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 2:42:16 PM)
Yes actually this thread has helped a lot... talking about it here helped me reflect on things and figure out in my mind what went on and helped me peace the entire thing together such as realisieng DUH I didnt have my meds as well as other feelings I had... I wouldnt keep posting here if it didnt help.. and as Iv said Im bipoler so my emotions are a roller coaster and emotionaly heated things get resolved rather fast (well much faster then threads seem to die on here) for me when I do calm down and think about things... bringing it here befor bringing it to Master also helped me calm a bit I was able to vent and not make things worse by maybe venting on Master befor I had calmed enough to see the real problem. also I so much prefer to fight things out with people here then to take that pent up emotion to Master and or the other loved ones in my life (no offence to those here or anything) Magik's slave

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 2:43:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domiguy In this day and age of not being able to turn a corner, let alone turn on your computer without being bombarded by information. I find your lack of communication skills completely refreshing. out. D.G. p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers. um HUH?? Magik's slave

akisha -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:33:32 PM)
Just a question. Why was he not aware that you were off your medication? That should be something that is communicated immediately. IMO anyway. It's something that directly and very much effects both of you. edited cause i lost my "n". have you seen my "n"? hehe

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:40:52 PM)
I had told him when I walked in the house that I hadnt had my meds in a few days but i dont think it regestered with him as it was very bussy. and like I said I had been away with my lil sisters and ran out of meds while away.. its one of those communication blips but I did tell him I just dont think he understood what I ment. I think he thout that I was saying that I didnt take my meds that night because I would be doing a bit of drinking (I dont drink much honestly if I said I had 5 drinks a year it would be a lot but if I am going to drink I will skip a dose of meds just in case Master knows this so I think that is where his mind went to) I dont think he understood that I had been out for a few days. Missing one does isnt a big deal because some stays in my sistom but missing a few days sets me off and i become very emotional and such so there is a big difference and thus I think the miss communication came in and caused a problem. We have straightend it out now though for the most part. Magik's slave

angharad -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:40:55 PM)
I'd just like to say with all this going on about profiles, I took his profile to mean that if he was to have a monogamous relationship it would have to be with a switch, because he can't deny his need for dominance and submission. He is a Master but I believe he submits outside their relationship as agreed by all involved. I did not see anywhere that he wrote I want a switch fullstop. What I saw written was a realistic statement that both sides of him need to be fulfilled the obvious answer for a monogamous relationship would be with another switch but it is not the only solution or even the best solution. Some switches say it doesnt work for them to switch with the same person. I think its possible people havent read his profile as it was intended, but that is just what I thought when I read it. Sorry to go back to it, but it has been niggling at me

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:45:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angharad I took his profile to mean that if he was to have a monogamous relationship it would have to be with a switch, because he can't deny his need for dominance and submission. He is a Master but I believe he submits outside their relationship as agreed by all involved. I did not see anywhere that he wrote I want a switch fullstop. What I saw written was a realistic statement that both sides of him need to be fulfilled the obvious answer for a monogamous relationship would be with another switch but it is not the only solution or even the best solution. Some switches say it doesnt work for them to switch with the same person. I think its possible people havent read his profile as it was intended, but that is just what I thought when I read it. Thank you. That is exactly what his profile means. I didnt really understand why people werent getting it. Master has a subs side and a Dom side to me he is ALL Master and as I have written here befor I have been with him when he has submitted to others and I havent a problem with that (well I get protective I dont want him hurt). I cant give him the release he needs on that side of things and it was known going into the relationship how things where. I didnt understand why others had a problem with something I didnt. Magik's slave

Devilslilsister -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:45:55 PM)
No havent seen your "n" but have you seen my marbles??? quote: p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers. HA! that cracks me up every time. Its sooooooooo true.. i'm telling you.... those crazy people.. religious wars... religious people telling you that your going to hell if you dont do x y and z.... suicidal... fanatic.. interferring.. always right.. close minded.... all sorts of things that the "followers" do. i say - it should be a nightly prayer.

dvart -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:49:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave I do understand what you are saying. But I just care more that I dissapointed my Master then the fact that I was uncomfertable or unhappy at the party. Magik's slave But I still think there is an issue of trust. If you trust him in your heart, then fine. If you don't trust him or he doesn't trust you, then the relationship won't work. It's an obvious point, but I just wonder if you are avoiding it. Good luck! [:D]

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:53:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Devilslilsister No havent seen your "n" but have you seen my marbles??? quote: p.s. Jesus please protect me from your followers. HA! that cracks me up every time. Its sooooooooo true.. i'm telling you.... those crazy people.. religious wars... religious people telling you that your going to hell if you dont do x y and z.... suicidal... fanatic.. interferring.. always right.. close minded.... all sorts of things that the "followers" do. i say - it should be a nightly prayer. Master always says he is in aw of how many wars there have beeen under the pretence of "My G-d is bigger then your G-d" Magik's slave

kyraofMists -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:54:24 PM)
How much alcohol and caffeine have you had to drink during the holidays? In my experience these two things can have huge impacts on mental/emotional states.

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:54:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dvart quote: ORIGINAL: MagiksSlave I do understand what you are saying. But I just care more that I dissapointed my Master then the fact that I was uncomfertable or unhappy at the party. Magik's slave But I still think there is an issue of trust. If you trust him in your heart, then fine. If you don't trust him or he doesn't trust you, then the relationship won't work. It's an obvious point, but I just wonder if you are avoiding it. Good luck! [:D] I trust Master very much.. and i know Master trusts me. but he is human as am I.. And well we were very human the other day. Magik's slave

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 3:56:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kyraofMists How much alcohol and caffeine have you had to drink during the holidays? In my experience these two things can have huge impacts on mental/emotional states. WOW I didnt take into acount the caffine. I normaly drink diet non caffinated master doesnt usualy let me have caffine I get hyper. But I did have 2 regular sodas as it was all he had and I had a few sips of Masters beer and one full drink of my own (I dont drink a lot as I have said) but yeah I took into account the beer and the drink I had and the sip of one of Masters other drinks I had but I didnt think about the caffine... which my body isnt used to eather Magik's slave

BDSM05478 -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 4:03:45 PM)
as someone that is a follower of Jesus, I would appreiciate it if you did not paint us all with that same brush........ We are not all like that tyvm.

MagiksSlave -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 4:05:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BDSM05478 as someone that is a follower of Jesus, I would appreiciate it if you did not paint us all with that same brush........ We are not all like that tyvm. he sighns all of his replies that way!!! Its really only a joke... I think. Magik's slave

amuzingtoyou -> RE: what to do when your opinion of your Dom changes (1/2/2007 4:15:17 PM)
in my opinion you are way over reacting. People have bad nights...people disagree, yes even Dominants and submissives will disagree from time to time. It is human nature. Your responsiblity is to bring your feelings to his attention. I have in the past myself been accused of being too sensitive. Sometimes we need to look at ourselves before we start placing blame on our dominants.

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