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MsOpal -> RE: being married... (1/26/2007 1:27:46 PM)
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I have to agree that cheating is cheating is cheating, makes no difference if it is vanilla, bdsm, play, sex, or whatever. To me, MHO ONLY, anyone who cheats, or hides an emotional relationship from a partner will haide something from me. I also knwo that I deserve better than to be the reason someone cheats. It is like saying you are "poly" because you have a wife and a girlfriend, but unless both women know about each other and are OK with it, it is just an excuse to cheat. I have to second what LA just posted, we do all need to make judgement calls - is this car safe, is this food good for me, is that person someone I really want to be involved with. I also cheated in my past. I knew my marriage was a very very bad one, but instead of ending it I slept with someone because at the time I "thought" it meant I was still desireable. The right thing to do would ahve been to end my marriage first. That marriage was bad and it did end, but it does not make the fact that I cheated any better, nor does the fact that he had been cheating all along. I have had to face that and deal with it. Being sneaky, being a liar, has not so much to do with Dom-ness or sub-ness as it has to do with being a good, decent person, honest person.
oh, btw - I have, in my lifetime, found and turned in or returned 3 wallets, 2 very beautiful and expensive gem-stone rings, and an envelope of cash dropped outside a bank. Karma. It does not make me better than anyone, it just makes me able to sleep good.
MsOpal
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