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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 4:56:42 AM

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I don't think size is half as important as how you actually look in your clothes.
And I do really appreciate what the OP had to say in his origianl post (thank you)!

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 5:10:20 AM

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I wish I didn't have to care about my weight. I was a small child and could eat anything that I wanted. Granted being confined in body casts and back braces all the time I was growing up helped. When i was in my early 20's I developed a problem of not being able to eat. They thought that I had that eating disorder...but my husband at the time say no no...is not that...she will be straving, we will make a big dinner and she will eat 2 or 3 mouthfuls and then she will choke...and if she forces she will loose what she already ate. Took them months to figure out what was wrong...but during those months you ate what you could, when you could. I put on some weight, not a lot...like those 20 pounds that everyone wants to loose. A few years ago I was really depressed and put on a lot of weight, have lost is all again, but those 20 pounds ...damm those 20 pounds...lol...thing most of you are saying 20 pounds...what's the big deal.....well it is a big deal for me....when you have a totally messed up spine....more weight means more pain. So those 20 pounds cause me more pain every day. At the same time if i go too small....i get sick all the time......so I need to really stay at a certain weight. am actually down to 15 pounds now...but I am doing it by changing how i eat overall...and not a crash diet....cause those diets...usually you just put it back on again.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 5:44:24 AM

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I personally blame the media,and the people who make movies. Cause they all seem have to have slim models in them

Clotheing stores such as Lane Byrant or Romans who specialize in the
larger sizes for very big women their catalogs are made with models
all thin and shapely- None of them are overweight in any way.

Sure we care and will cater to your size, but we are never going to show our clotheing with a fat woman wearing it.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:09:38 AM

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i will most likey get flamed for this but.....i have always been skinny, as much as i try to put on weigt i cant. i just want people to understand that people who are underweight have just as many problems as people who are over weight. i have been told many times "your skinny so your opinion doesnt count". i count no matter how much i weigh.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:12:46 AM

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There is actually another thread going on under this topic about the dangers of anorexia and being underweight.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:17:30 AM

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thanks for the info but have anorexia and drink extra calorie shakes to keep my weight up, i just wanted to show another side of the equation.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:26:47 AM

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as being to slim is unhealthy please think of that,please put yourself first not other people's wishes.

I don't think this is very accurate. Over indulgence or deliberate tatics to become slim are where trouble lays. To much of a good thing or not enough of a good thing scenerio. People who are very thin naturally but eat fairly healthy..are quite healthy individuals. Like some have posted here already..I am naturally a very thin person but I eat pretty normal, and don't deliberately attempt to lower my weight or increase it for that matter. My father is very slim, as is my brother. We naturally have a speedy gonzalas metabolism.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:36:51 AM

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Only small, petite, thinner women will do~!! This is what I was told by a Dom I met some time ago for coffee. Ok, here is the thing. He was 5'11, 300 lbs, yeah, balding, iffy on the Hygiene, { his teeth}, and unemployed at the time, told me he was a contractor, it was just slow for now. But here is what he wanted. First he stated he had only dated Asian women for a while...because they are usually petite, and always thin. He said he didn't find women over weight in any way attractive. Then he went onto what he expected in the relationship should we enter one, and how basically most women were unexceptional. Holy F'in Crap~! All I could do is look at this guy in amazement~~ Why is it that a man can look like him and expect a Barbie doll and more?? I agree with the idea if your happy with what you are weight wise, being a women, then cool, key word Happy. But why oh why is it such a double standard?? Lillie

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:44:34 AM

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I just wanted to say that 'blaming the media' for a socities conception of weight issues (or any issues) is a bit naive and just an easy way out. The media reflects society, they exist in a kind of symbiotic relationship. As someone said on the wonderful programme, Question Time, yesterday (a British discussion programme) - 'the media does not exist in a vacuum'. Why contemporary society has developed such a taste for slim women is another question, and probably has a very complicated answer.

A person's body is not the only thing that makes someone attractive, and certainly shouldn't be the most important thing in their life, but it is important. Which is not to say that everyone should look a certain way, as it's 'different strokes for different folks'!

And I'd just like to say that surely no one finds those really skinny celebs attractive, do they?

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:53:56 AM

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I am guessing this was just standard reply since I never mentioned the media in my post..lol.

As to whether anyone finds those really skinny celeb girls attractive? I am sure there are quite alot of people that do. I am not into pretty boy thin men or even muscle bound men. A nice well rounded plump man that I can squish, squeeze, and melt into is awesome for me. :)

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 6:54:31 AM

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And I'd just like to say that surely no one finds those really skinny celebs attractive, do they?

Most people have a weight at which they look their best and it doubtful it will be skin hanging off bone and just as doubtful will it fat that makes them look like a barrage bloon. Slim and nubile to shapely curves is the spectrum I find attractive.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:04:24 AM

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it was just a response to the start of the thread

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:07:01 AM

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I have to echo Susan. Your weight to me isn't as important on the looks scale as how you look in your clothes. I have seen some woman at 150 that looked "bigger" and I have seen other woman at the same weight you look great! It really has to do with being proportionant.

When I was younger I obssesed about my looks. My Mom was the local beauty queen. Even at 13 I felt I needed to rise up to her standards. "Prettiness" was something we took seriously in our house (One very pretty Mom and 3 sisters). My Mom scolded us for eating sweets. She kept us thin by guilt. She judged all woman on how they looked before she even noticed how good of a person they were (EX: Yes, I know Mrs. So and So she is the one with the big nose and even bigger backside). I suppose that for years I was my mother's daughter. I do not have the dedication to beauty as she did. I found all that worring over my hair, and nails, and jean size to be exhasting and not much fun.

I have found in my world that worring over how you look so much is actually pretty selfish. I understand wanting to drop 50 pounds for health reasons, but obssesing over 10 vanity pounds is just that..........vanity.

Be happy with who you are. If your not happy and your self esteem is paying the price than by all means do something about it, but don't judge yourself on what you look like in the mirror. This body is only a temporary home and in the end we all end up ashe anyway.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:08:47 AM

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General response ... everything is a trade.

If you work hard for a hottie-bottie ... huggers and short tops will get you dates with all the hot guys you would ever want. Unfortunately, most really hot guys, are real jerks.

When I was 35 pounds too heavy, I was pretty healthy. At the 'perfect' weight right now, I seem to catch every fucking illness that blows into town ... but I do look kick-ass in the mirror, if you ignore the sneezing.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:13:30 AM

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I have to echo Susan. Your weight to me isn't as important on the looks scale as how you look in your clothes. I have seen some woman at 150 that looked "bigger" and I have seen other woman at the same weight you look great! It really has to do with being proportionant.

When I was younger I obssesed about my looks. My Mom was the local beauty queen. Even at 13 I felt I needed to rise up to her standards. "Prettiness" was something we took seriously in our house (One very pretty Mom and 3 sisters). My Mom scolded us for eating sweets. She kept us thin by guilt. She judged all woman on how they looked before she even noticed how good of a person they were (EX: Yes, I know Mrs. So and So she is the one with the big nose and even bigger backside). I suppose that for years I was my mother's daughter. I do not have the dedication to beauty as she did. I found all that worring over my hair, and nails, and jean size to be exhasting and not much fun.

I have found in my world that worring over how you look so much is actually pretty selfish. I understand wanting to drop 50 pounds for health reasons, but obssesing over 10 vanity pounds is just that..........vanity.

Be happy with who you are. If your not happy and your self esteem is paying the price than by all means do something about it, but don't judge yourself on what you look like in the mirror. This body is only a temporary home and in the end we all end up ashe anyway.

Here here very well said madam.My best wishes to you from Paul.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:27:50 AM

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For all the positive posts I see in this thread, in which everyone says it doesn't matter, there sure seems be a plethora of profiles (of both males and females) on this site which state "person must be height-weight proportional" or similiarly worded requirements. What's up with that?

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:30:45 AM

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When we stop apologizing for being different or imperfect threads like this can stop... I suppose we have to bitch about something, so why not size. I for one say "unfuck you" to anyone who says you should [insert popular trend] to be more like everyone else who's miserable about discovering he/she is imperfect.

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caitlyn When I was 35 pounds too heavy, I was pretty healthy. At the 'perfect' weight right now, I seem to catch every fucking illness that blows into town ...
but I do look kick-ass in the mirror, if you ignore the sneezing

*This is completely wrong, but I'm Laughing making snorting noises* M

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:44:58 AM

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I personally blame the media,and the people who make movies. Cause they all seem have to have slim models in them mainly,but when it comes to the real world.Obviously not everyone is a beautyqueen,as the real world is not full of models or slim ladies for that matter.This notion puts a terrible pressure on young ladies today i think i must be slim otherwise society won't except me for who i am.And in all honesty thats all nonsense,as being to slim is unhealthy please think of that,please put yourself first not other people's wishes.

All ladies try to be a non conformist as opposed to a slim conformist.I'd say so long as you are happy in yourself please don't get brainwashed by the media or so called friends,to be something else that you are not basically.Please don't get brainwashed by this must be slim culture,just be happy be healthy,and eat what you want to and be happy with who you are.As no one is perfect i certainly am not,we all have our little faults no matter how perfect you may think that you are.You must just try your best in life,and to do the best you can in any given situation.But above all please be happy folks,as happy people tend to live longer.My very best wishes to you all from Paul.

We are all conditioned by the media. Madison Avenue has been pushing rail thin models since the 60's when Twiggy started the anorexic look. What we see on TV, billboards, magazines, etc., as the "standards" of beauty all form indellible impressions on our minds. That is why African-Americans talk about the need for diversity in the media, to give our young ones role models to whom they can relate.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 7:47:16 AM

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Mercy, you aren't a woman. Case in point, I can walk down the street as version A (size 12) or version B (size 10), Guess which version gets more nods and smiles and attention.....yep, size 10. There is a lot of pressure to be thin, actually to be skinny. At my height, size 10 is skinny. There were times when I would freak about my size, lately I don't really care. But I would love to be a size 10, mainly because of the positive feedback. But I don't want to diet and starve myself to get there. Pass me the chocolate.

If you want positive feedback at size 12, walk past a group of African-American men. We appreciate more of a good thing.

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RE: There is nothing wrong with being a bit overweight ... - 2/2/2007 9:37:42 AM

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I do not have the dedication to beauty as she did. I found all that worring over my hair, and nails, and jean size to be exhasting and not much fun.

I have found in my world that worring over how you look so much is actually pretty selfish. I understand wanting to drop 50 pounds for health reasons, but obssesing over 10 vanity pounds is just that..........vanity.

Be happy with who you are. If your not happy and your self esteem is paying the price than by all means do something about it, but don't judge yourself on what you look like in the mirror. This body is only a temporary home and in the end we all end up ashe anyway.

I think you have a dedication to a different beauty than your mother. Physical Beauty is not necessarily the most beautiful.

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