Elorin
Posts: 970
Joined: 8/22/2004 From: San Antonio, TX Status: offline
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Confusion is such an amusing term when applied to a switch. Do you like to eat or drink? What, you like both? You must be CONFUSED! Personally, I like to bottom. Nothing that I know of will ever change that I enjoy the feel of the violet wand, flame on my flesh, rope biting into my skin and encasing me, the all over body hug of mummification, the slowly warming through my entire body of erotic spanking, the bite and sting of blades tasting my skin, or needles puncturing. I like these things, they bring me joy, pleasure, and experiences both emotional and spiritual as well as the physical. I love to Top. I'm a sadist. I like to bring someone to tears. I like to hear whimpers of pain. I enjoy the creation of body art with rope, body paint, welts, or needles. I like to use canes, paddles, my hands, clips, clamps, weights, and someone's mind. I love the intoxication of power when someone gives control into my hands and trusts me not to kill them, wound them, break their limits. It is a craving, and a hunger, and a dizzying joy. No one that I know of will ever be able to carve those loves and desires from my psyche. I am not "a submissive." I am HIS submissive. I do not have the desire for someone to "complete" my life, I don't long for someone to control me, I don't seek out a Dom. I do have someone in my life that I trust implicitly, whose orders I willingly obey, whose joy is my joy. I find pleasure in doing simple things for him, making him happy, in enduring pain because it pleases him, in relieving his physical pain and in doing things so that he doesn't have to do them. I trust his judgement. I am his submissive and get just as much joy from serving, submission, and obedience as does any other sub who craves a dominant - I just don't have the desire or need to submit outside of my relationship with HIM. I am a Dominant. I like to be in control. I like giving guidance, teaching, mentoring. I like expanding someone's limits, helping him to see other points of view, helping her to experience new vistas of joy, bondage, pain, or service. I like having someone dedicated to my pleasure in life, relieving me of work, spoiling me, and listening to my judgement. I crave someone who will trust me, follow my directives, and accept my discipline when I feel he has overstepped bounds. I am ~all~ of these things. I am not fluid. At any time, I am all of these things. At any time, I am a sadist, a submissive, a bottom, and a Top. I do not bottom to everyone, or Top everyone. I submit to only one. Around everyone else I am definitely a Dominant. Is who I am dependent upon who I meet? Not by any means. When I meet Stephan, I will be a dominant. I will not suggest that he let me cane him, out of respect for ~his~ role. But neither will I immediately submit or ask him to tie me up. While each person is different, and perhaps many find their role defined by who they meet and how they react to that person, I am who I am all of the time. And I am a switch, quite happily. I meet people, get to know them, and based on what I learn of them, I might ask them to engage with me for BDSM or not. I might treat them as contemporaries (sharing evil plans w/ Dom/mes, going through toyboxes with Tops) or as complimentaries (asking a Top to tie me, happily tying a bottom, discovering that a Switch wants to be pierced and I will happily be lit on fire in exchange). But I make those choices based on experience, trust, comfort levels. None of those choices change that I'm a happy lil switch at heart. ~E
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