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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/13/2007 5:48:01 PM   
feralcat


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Status: offline 		lube yes,lots of it...desensitizer? no! If it hurts, it is because something is not right...either the angle is bad,not enough lube ,or you are going in too fast. The first muscle you pass through can be relaxed,the second muscle does it's own thing. Better to allow the man to push back onto your cock when he feels it relax...just wait for him. Bad anal sex, ie. painful , is just bad sex. No fun there. You want them to come back for seconds!

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/13/2007 5:56:42 PM   
feralcat


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Status: offline 		I have the Nexus jr as well.Nice product.What I love best is how it looks like it is really part of me,labia closing in around the shaft of this beautiful turquoise and white marble cock....not too big,not too small...just right for the job.

Vixen creations makes a one sided dildo for harnesses called the "Mistress" which is also very nice for beginners...a big seller ,long enough ,a bit less that 2 fingers in  width...nice starter.


remember ladies ,water based lubes only if you are using a silicone anything!


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/13/2007 5:57:40 PM   
skirtboy43


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Status: offline 		 i am as nerves as he is.    No doubt, but I sort of liked it the first time I tried it - the problem was my girl, she didn't like it at all.    Good Luck to you both!    Skirt Boy


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/13/2007 7:08:33 PM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: PsyVamp

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

I love helping first timers.


Diane

Good to know, that may be me in another couple of weeks....

Psy


Just send me a message on the other side.


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/13/2007 7:25:48 PM   
nephandi


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Status: offline 		i dont know, i kind of like painful anal sex, the one that make you bite down on the pillow and just wish it was over but that still turn you on so mutch, yeah, i like that and have never had any health problems after such activities. Ofcourse i have not had a stropon used on me, but i would imagine i would think the same there as whit a living phallus.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 4:41:43 AM   
theGuideGoddess


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Status: offline 		There are so many harnesses to choose from!  It would be nice to know specific favorites from the more experienced.
 
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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 4:53:22 AM   
theGuideGoddess


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ORIGINAL: GuidingLite

I honestly cant answer but you might like to know that men have an advantage when it comes to being on the "receiving" end of anal sex... it is possible for a man to have a prostate orgasm. Women don't have a prostate and can't... although some women do claim to be able to have orgasms from anal, it is probaby due to some vaginal nerve endings managing to get stimulated for certain women.   Have fun and remember to let us know how it went.



I have had multiple anal orgasms.  The key for me has been in starting slowly and then increasing force.  Once warmed up it is great!  If the start is hard and forceful then I will simply not enjoy it as much as otherwise.   Anal orgasm, vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasms are entirely different sensations.  I have never analized to explain, but know that they in fact do feel differently. 

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 12:08:25 PM   
Unrepentant1


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Status: offline 		I agree I adore the feeling of being taken and would not want that feeling spoiled or taken away.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 1:08:41 PM   
porthuronsub


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ORIGINAL: theGuideGoddess

I have never analized to explain, but know that they in fact do feel differently. 


Freudian slip???  Analyzed...lol 

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 2:49:12 PM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: theGuideGoddess

There are so many harnesses to choose from!  It would be nice to know specific favorites from the more experienced.
 
The Guiding Goddess



My favorite harnesses are the Texas Two Strap and the Jaguar Harness.

http://www.stormyleather.com/product.asp?0=289&1=311&3=271

http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-1-5-BL-0502--m-17 

Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 6:56:43 PM   
cogitator


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Status: offline 		Thanks for your reply Akasha.  Makes sense, yours being bigger than his, sort of a demeaning/intimidating "I'm the one with the cock in the relationship" perhaps....

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 7:12:18 PM   
theGuideGoddess


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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

My favorite harnesses are the Texas Two Strap and the Jaguar Harness.

http://www.stormyleather.com/product.asp?0=289&1=311&3=271

http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-1-5-BL-0502--m-17 

Diane


THANK YOU DIANE!!!!  I think those may soon become my favorite too!  I can't wait to analize those. 
 
The Guiding Goddess
 

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 7:17:00 PM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: theGuideGoddess

quote:

ORIGINAL: DianeB269

My favorite harnesses are the Texas Two Strap and the Jaguar Harness.

http://www.stormyleather.com/product.asp?0=289&1=311&3=271

http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-1-5-BL-0502--m-17 

Diane


THANK YOU DIANE!!!!  I think those may soon become my favorite too!  I can't wait to analize those. 
 
The Guiding Goddess
 


You are very welcome.


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/14/2007 8:06:07 PM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: theGuideGoddess

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ORIGINAL: DianeB269

My favorite harnesses are the Texas Two Strap and the Jaguar Harness.

http://www.stormyleather.com/product.asp?0=289&1=311&3=271

http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-1-5-BL-0502--m-17 

Diane


THANK YOU DIANE!!!!  I think those may soon become my favorite too!  I can't wait to analize those. 
 
The Guiding Goddess
 



I also like to put big spikes on my harnesses so, subs know when it's all the way in.


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/15/2007 7:33:28 PM   
AAkasha


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ORIGINAL: cogitator

Thanks for your reply Akasha.  Makes sense, yours being bigger than his, sort of a demeaning/intimidating "I'm the one with the cock in the relationship" perhaps....


It's also very effective to make him suck it off before I fuck him with it.  The dual humiliation is delicious.

Akasha


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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/17/2007 4:25:06 AM   
ftmouse


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Status: offline 		oh  my Mistress loves using a strpaon me, and im more than willing to complay.  i aggree with what i have been reading here, and loved the idea of spikes so you know when its "home" :D  

Mistress oftens works me first with her finger or two just to r4elax me before she slides in.  i also find some nights a smaller one is all that is needed and other nights the larger one, and it is quite large :%  is not enough, nothing like being taken :D

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/17/2007 4:53:55 AM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: ftmouse

oh  my Mistress loves using a strpaon me, and im more than willing to complay.  i aggree with what i have been reading here, and loved the idea of spikes so you know when its "home" :D  

Mistress oftens works me first with her finger or two just to r4elax me before she slides in.  i also find some nights a smaller one is all that is needed and other nights the larger one, and it is quite large :%  is not enough, nothing like being taken :D


I sent you and your Mistress some spiked harness pics.


Diane

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/17/2007 6:56:09 AM   
mistressfran


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Status: offline 		diane .....  i want to thank you foreverything i am going to be with him  in 4 days when i get back i will be loooking for you to fill you in oncce again thank you to everyone for all the advice

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/17/2007 7:11:09 AM   
LotusSong


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Status: offline 		Do NOT begin by having him bend over as you take a running start from across the room as you scream "KAWABUNGA!!!".  This causes the male to tense up a bit and bends the dildo.

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RE: going to use a strap on for the first time - 2/17/2007 7:14:14 AM   
ArgoGeorgia


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Status: offline 		I saw the post about the Nexus Jr.  Has anyone here used the item called the "Feeldoe"? http://www.goodvibes.com/Item.aspx?i=13BA08  It says that you don't need to use a harness for it, but I remain skeptical.

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