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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 6:41:01 PM   
PsyVamp


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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247

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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
...have you ever heard of a woman masturbating in the way i described?


yes, although instead of both hands it could be Master's leg...


yes! i've done that in the past with a vanilla SO, but i had to put the pressure on his knee. anything softer doesn't work for me. but i am grateful to learn that i may not be quite as weird as i thought (just mostly lol).


Here's another vote for similar technique
Psy

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 7:05:56 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass

I have been around for a while and have read repeatedly on this board and others, of women with trouble orgasming. I have no such trouble, and while I'm not trying to brag or rub it in (cause it must suck to have that problem) I often wonder if I am on the opposite end of the spectrum. When I am aroused by a lot of foreplay I can orgasm within a few minutes, a few seconds if I let myself! I go through periods of extreme horniness and then periods of being less so but recently I went through a few weeks where I was not only NOT horny at all but absolutely unable to get myself aroused if I tried. I felt for the first time what it must be like for some women who have this as a perpetual problem. Luckily, I think my dry spell was due to being over-stressed and away from my partner because spening a weekend with him fixed me right up.


I'm sorry...did you have a question?

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 7:07:46 PM   
sugarcandy


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I am not here to brag, but to share info, same as everyone. I wish lust, love and pleasure for all!

Please forgive me.  I have always had an easy time orgasming. Multiple orgasms are very common with me. I can have them every day with or without a partner. The most I ever had in a day was eight. 8 in three acts of intercourse. 8 hard, screaming orgasms. Great partner who really knows how to work me. 

Funny thing is: it is harder for me to come from clit stimulation alone. I rarely come from oral sex, so that is not important to me. Rather give it! But---- I would be slightly offended if he didn't take a little lick now and then ;) 

When I do myself-- I use the Hitachi Magic Wand vibrator ( highly recomended!) on my clit. I do come with this electric machine pressed, rubbed, circled around my clitoral hood. When I do this, I have outrageous, wild, submissive, forced fucked, double dicked penetration, humiliating, dirty lustful fantasies.

After using vibe, I am soaking wet, but not fully satisfied. I keep toys beside my bed. I need penetration.

I fuck myself with a variety/ choice of dildos. I use a little lube, spread open my pussy lips with my fingers and arch my back -- then shove the bastard in until it hits the end. I am tight, so it only goes about 2 inches in at first. So, I pull it out, then in and repeat.

Steam builds. I get so wet sometimes I need to get a tissue to wipe off my hand. need to keep that grip. My pussy tightens up, to love (?)  and grasp the toy. It is weird. I can feel my own self , my female inner muscles surrounding, gripping fiercely, spazzing on the toy. It must feel real good to a real man. I need to use both of my hands at this point. Why? because I get so tight, one arm isn't strong enough. I need both hands and full arm strength to keep plunging and fucking until I am fulfilled. I usually come 2 or 3 times this way.
I have to put a pillow over my face if the windows are open, I get loud. LOL. That's too funny, but I do moan, cry out, even when I am all alone. I bite my pillow. I am dead serious.

Afterward: I am left panting, sweating, soaked. Sweet smelling.

This is all when I masterbate. With a lover, well--- another day, friends.

In all honesty, sugarcandy

P.S. sometimes when I use the vibrator; I stuff a small dildo up my ass. Lately; I put Tiger Balm ( like bengay) on my nipples. Hurts just right.


Good topic, thank you everyone

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 7:13:46 PM   
MaryT


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Status: offline 		Have you considered submitting your technique to Penthouse Letters?

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 8:02:42 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
  I know at work I love putting my hand on my pants and pushing in on my clit and just grinding against it a bit.  Nice friction.


Where the hell do you work? And does you boss know about this? ;)

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 8:09:25 PM   
DominaSmartass


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Status: offline 		I'm glad I started this thread, though it's turned into more a talk about masturbation but that's cool too.

Since you've all been so open, I will share as well. I get off best using a toy for penetration and my hand to rub my clit, though like daddysprop, I think I might do something unique. I'm certain I'm not the only one in the world, but I've never encountered someone who claims to do it the same way. Granted, I don't talk about my method of masturbation with too many people in real life. To get off, I need both vaginal and clitoral stimulation, though I don't rub against my clit so much as my pubic bone, or so I think. I know that the clit extends pretty far towards our abdomen internally so I think I'm still stimulating it somehow but I've never met anyone else who does it this way. Too much stimulation on the clit is uncomfortable but if I push against the bone I get all the sensation without the over stimulation.

Again, I guess I am just plain lucky that I've never experienced a real problem orgasming. I grew up in a pretty sexually liberated environment and never made to feel as though sexuality was abnormal. I can come alone, with a partner, over the phone with my partner, or whatever. That doesn't mean it's been 100% all the time with every partner but when it's the right one and the chemistry clicks, no complaints here!

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 8:15:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: curiouspet55

Well, I know I'm a lot younger than most (nearly 19), and I'm a virgin so that plays a part. But, when it comes to orgasms, no matter what I try I can't make it happen. I don't know if it would work out with a partner, but by myself I'm at a loss. I can get aroused, but it comes to a certain point and dies off. Quite frustrating, really. Can't really figure out what to do about it, other than wait and hope that a partner could help me out without finding me frigid.


This might be a stupid question, but have you tried toys? If so, have you tried different toys? Have you tried anal stimulation, nipple stimulation? You may just not have found the right buttons on your body yet. When I was younger and exploring (and lol, I'm only 22) I could only get off in one particular way and when I found that way I was happy (on the other hand, if I had never found that way I would be in the same boat as you.) And then I started expanding and found that having more experience orgasming made it easier to acheive them in a variety of ways and not just sticking to the old standard.

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 8:16:20 PM   
MaryT


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Status: offline 		I saw a magazine of sorts one time (wish I owned it) that was full of face shots of people orgasming.  What I noticed was the women's faces tended to tense and scrunch up and the men's faces seemed to relax completely - like la la land.  I would love to feel it from the other side.

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 8:36:24 PM   
curiouspet55


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Status: offline 		Well, I had a bullet vibrator that died...stupid batteries. But then, I bought a slew of toys over winter break - a clitoral stimulator thing, anal toy, and vibrator. Without complete vaginal insertion (too painful), I managed to get hugely aroused, but then it just died off. In the past, the risk of people interrupting me, hearing me, or everyday stress may have been partly the problem, but the time I used all the toys I had all the time in the world, was completely alone, and had no stress. Alas, it still died. I'm not sure if it was too much sensation too quickly, or if I'm subconsciously scared of the loss of control or intensity. Now I'm back in the dorms so usually only have 20 minutes here and there of exploration time, so if I get turned on then its a quick fix until it dies and I can't pursue it any further than that.

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 9:17:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Curious all I can say is that I know your pain and to read the other links I've posted.

I started masturbating at 11 and was unable to orgasm until I was 18 with a very loving and patient partner I felt secure with.  Trust me, I tried every toy, every position, and went to bed many nights crying and engraged with frustration.

I can't promise you will orgasm at a particular time, but I can say that you are by far NOT alone in this and that I hope you can enjoy sexual tension without letting the lack of orgasm take away from the experience as much as possible.

Also to Candy- there's nothing to apologize about being so relatively easy and numerous with your orgasms.  We should enjoy what there is to enjoy.

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/14/2007 9:59:31 PM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		curiouspet (and others who haven't/have fear of orgasms),

My experiences have been that orgasms are a product of the mind, the body is little more than a prop to permit it.  The same can be said for a burst of adrenaline, too though; we can't just 'will' ourselves to get an adrenaline rush, there must be some sort of unconscious stimulus.

Men who have a hard time orgasming for short term physical reasons can end up with long term psychological fears related to inability to function.  The more the man pressures himself to orgasm (or even achieve an erection) the less capable he finds himself able to do so. 

For submissives, a combination of 'permission' and 'expectation' of orgasm can often be a trigger (one, the other, or both can be a key element in orgasm control.)  I've been involved with two women who were able to orgasm 'on command' without any physical stimulation of the clitoris or vagina, and one girl who required no physical stimulation at all.  This suggests, to me at any rate, that any woman can achieve an orgasm under the right circumstances.  This gives some hope (I hope!) for those who have not achieved orgasms yet, in knowing that the source of the trouble doesn't lie strictly with the physical act, but simply requires an environment and possibly the right lover to bring the feeling out.

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/15/2007 12:12:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Toys are a fabulous thing ...... I will admit to not using one until the old age of 41 - and that was last year.  Something to try is a vibrating egg.  There are a variety out there - ones with a coated cord that you can wear for an extended time.  At the end of the cord is a control - slip it in, put on yout cloths, and put the control in your front pocket.  And then?  Do what women do best .... go shopping ! 

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RE: Let's talk about orgasms - 2/15/2007 8:57:10 AM   
sugarcandy


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Also to Candy- there's nothing to apologize about being so relatively easy and numerous with your orgasms.  We should enjoy what there is to enjoy.


Thank you, LuckyAlbatross. That was very generous of you to say.

To anybody: it is not like a man has to work, or go out of his way to make me orgasm. All he has to do is please himself, and along I go.

Humbly, sugarcandy 

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