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Micromanagement - 2/14/2007 9:18:32 AM

jadedmistress

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Has any Mistress done this with any of their slaves, and to what do they credit their success with this? And also are there any resources to consult on this topic?

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RE: Micromanagement - 2/14/2007 10:11:35 AM

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Here is some treads, welcome to the forum.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_470661/mpage_1/key_Micromanagement/tm.htm#470677
http://www.collarchat.com/m_461163/mpage_1/key_Micromanagement/tm.htm#461811
http://www.collarchat.com/m_157976/mpage_1/key_Micromanagement/tm.htm
http://www.collarchat.com/m_62082/mpage_1/key_Micromanagement/tm.htm#62096
http://www.collarchat.com/m_770646/mpage_1/key_Micromanagement/tm.htm#770687
http://www.collarchat.com/m_61470/mpage_1/key_Micromanagement/tm.htm

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RE: Micromanagement - 2/14/2007 1:11:23 PM

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I think every dom has something they micromanage, but it rarely ever works as a whole management style. My partners job is to make my life easier for me- if I have to order everything and watch everything and measure everything, where is my ease?

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RE: Micromanagement - 2/14/2007 1:18:44 PM

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Personally, I do not do it. First, because I don't have the time and second I haven't the inclination.

But, if that is what you want to do, I would suggest making some very detailed lists. Think about all the aspects of life that need to be managed and daily tasks or goals that need to be accomplished. Then use a calendar and task list so the submissive can check off things as they are done. Make sure the submissive reports on daily tasks and expenses.

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RE: Micromanagement - 2/15/2007 7:26:53 AM

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I think every dom has something they micromanage, but it rarely ever works as a whole management style. My partners job is to make my life easier for me- if I have to order everything and watch everything and measure everything, where is my ease?

That's how I feel about my partners who are my slaves any way. I wouldn't expect that for a sub or a bottom or even a husband.

The only time I "micromangage" is in a specific scene for a short period of time.

I could micromanage Fox anything and however I want by I have that authority but I have no desire to do that -- he's probably happy about that too frankly.

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RE: Micromanagement - 2/15/2007 7:39:13 AM

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Micromanagement can be essential at the beginning of a relationship, while a sub learns the needs of the Dom/me. Unless it is something all parties explicitly want/need on a long term basis, or for specific short periods of time or certain jobs, it shouldn't be neccesary to micro manage a sub/slave.

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RE: Micromanagement - 2/15/2007 4:23:19 PM

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Not a mistress (but that's never stopped me before..lol):

Professionally I'm an executive secretary and in my private life I'm very much a submissive. In both I consider it my "job" to make both my boss and my dominant lives easier. That's not to say I haven't experienced some micromanagement because I have, especially in the beginning. Over all, I'm not real crazy about micromanagement because it makes me feel inept. Later on, however, once I know what they need, want and expect, I just do it without fanfare or expectations. The best (and most fun) boss I ever had called me "Radar" because it seemed to him I could anticipate what he wanted and have it ready upon request, if not before. What he never knew (and I never told) was that I could hear him from my desk, which is how I knew he needed a new pen, or a file or staples or whatever..lol. In my mind that's the way I envision a close relationship, whether villa or kink.

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RE: Micromanagement - 2/15/2007 4:31:45 PM

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Also not a Mistress, as I'm missing both naughty bits (brain and vagine) necessary.

However, I do work both in management (Dom) and serving people (sub) at work. What other people call "good" service, I consider the basics. I take pride in perfection, and as such, have learned to read people, to notice things, and to be proactive in my service.

I just recently resigned my current position, and today I had a long talk with a potential incumbent, who as worked with me for a while. I told him that the trick to doing what I did with clients is to know everything before anyone else, and to solve it before they tell you.

If a Mistress chose to micromanage me, I would, of course, tolerate it in the short term, and respect her wishes in procedure, but she would be much happier with the results if she jst told me what she wants and leaves it to me.

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