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RE: The femdom "gifting" dynamic - 2/18/2007 11:01:41 AM

TexasMaam

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PS. Conversley, I have also found that a man who is generous in spirit, who wants to provide for the object of his desire, but who never is allowed to see her enjoy his gifts (for example a woman who bitches about what he brought, bought, gave to her) will either quickly lose interest in her or will spend his life being miserable with her, wishing he were somewhere else or with someone who appreciated his efforts.

So I think the satisfaction he gets from scenario 3 is twofold:
1. He wants to KNOW, without a doubt, what it is that 'his woman' wants, and
2. He needs to know she appreciates it and enjoys the gift.

I think that's what it's all about re: men/subs giving gifts.

JMHO.

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RE: The femdom "gifting" dynamic - 2/18/2007 11:38:14 AM

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quote:

would you accept a large or expensive gift from a man on a non-professional basis, if you knew you had no intention of spending time with him in the future? Would such a gift influence the way you feel about him?
Stephan

No I would not accept an extravagant gift from someone with whom I had no intention of having a professional or personal relationship; if however I did intend to have some type of relationship with him, I would accept any gift he gave me.
Would a man's generosity make me feel warm and fuzzy about him if I already like him? Absolutely. Can a man buy my affections if I cannot stand him? There's hardly enough money in the world, but I guess if he were Bill Gates, I'd sacrifice me for the greater good.

Eddited to add that I completely concur with TexasMaam's statements above

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1. He wants to KNOW, without a doubt, what it is that 'his woman' wants, and
2. He needs to know she appreciates it and enjoys the gift.

M

< Message edited by BlkTallFullfig -- 2/18/2007 11:41:06 AM >

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RE: The femdom "gifting" dynamic - 2/18/2007 7:20:20 PM

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This is an interesting article which intriques me. I am a little uncertain as to what you do on your web site for sub/slaves to send you gifts. I am assuming you are doing online training/domination, or something to that effect which is ok by me.
I have always had problems asking anyone for anything because I was so independent until I got sick a couple of years ago.
It would be hard for me to ask them to send gifts. Friends I know who have a more demanding personality than I, get things. I guess I should listen to them.

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RE: The femdom "gifting" dynamic - 2/20/2007 5:54:03 PM

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I always accept gifts from people I like and from random people also it would be rude not to, I like it when people choose to give me things as gifts though I would not accept them if they were expecting something in return that I am not prepared to offer freely anyway.

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RE: The femdom "gifting" dynamic - 2/20/2007 8:15:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: MstrTiger

I always accept gifts from people I like and from random people also it would be rude not to, I like it when people choose to give me things as gifts though I would not accept them if they were expecting something in return that I am not prepared to offer freely anyway.

You are so damn cute, I have a gift for you.

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RE: The femdom "gifting" dynamic - 2/22/2007 3:20:04 AM

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i must say this is exactly what ive been searching for!

i have been a dom for only over a year now when recently (3 times) was approached online by a sub(s) that told me they were interested in buying me pretty things.

since i am kind of a suggar baby underneath this tough exterior, i happily obliged him because he was begging me to pick things for him to purchase for me!

well to put a long story short, he wasted 4 hours of my time (picking pretty things can be a task lol) he signs out with no word but a simply "brb"

well that was 48 hours ago and after making 2 attempts to figure out what happened i have given up!

I HAVE MADE A NEW RULE! no talkie until i know your serious in the form of a gift.

is this too mean or what? lol

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