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Would you consider a serious relationship with a switch? - 2/18/2007 1:28:30 PM

MzMia

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I have been approached several times lately by switches.
I enjoy chatting with them as friends, but I don't think I could ever become seriously involved with one.
Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?
Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 1:48:21 PM

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I have a couple of submissives that I see on occassion that label themselves switch , ,, when they are with me they are all submissive. I have never seen their Dom side.
However, I do not believe that I would ever consider one for a 24/7 simply because I never switch, and would not deal well with my property wanting to Dom someone else. *shrugs* just ME

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 2:04:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: MistressArri

I have a couple of submissives that I see on occassion that label themselves switch , ,, when they are with me they are all submissive. I have never seen their Dom side.
However, I do not believe that I would ever consider one for a 24/7 simply because I never switch, and would not deal well with my property wanting to Dom someone else. *shrugs* just ME

My thoughts exactly! thanks for sharing.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 2:06:33 PM

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Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?

Nope. If you want reasons why please email on the other side.

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Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

I would not switch, I will be his equal or his Domina, never his submissive.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 2:10:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: KaramelGoddess

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Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?

Nope. If you want reasons why please email on the other side.

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Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

I would not switch, I will be his equal or his Domina, never his submissive.

With kind regard,
~Kara

Kara, I posed the question to see how the other ladies feel, not me.
I find the majority of submissives on CM and other online sites, NOT SUBMISSIVE enough for me.
Hence the reason I don't have one.
At this time, I would not consider a switch.

< Message edited by MzMia -- 2/18/2007 2:28:37 PM >

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 2:14:52 PM

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Who has the easiest time finding monogamy then, a dom or a sub?

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 2:18:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Who has the easiest time finding monogamy then, a dom or a sub?

Hiya badgirl I tried to email you 3 times but it would not go through

I am not sure badgirl wonderful question!! You should post the question upstairs.
I would not answer that question Dom or sub, I think women in this lifestyle have
the hardest time finding monogamy.
I read a lot of the threads, some of the Doms want poly or a 3 some with 2 women <wink>
......many of the single male submissives don't seem to want to commit.
So IMHO it is more of a male/female issue then what side of the paddle you are on.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 2:26:33 PM

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Kara, I posed the question to see how the other ladies feel, not me.

Not sure I understand this.. as I simply answered the question. I was basically saying if you wanted reasons why I would explain them in private, not on the boards.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 3:06:56 PM

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Only if its just in the bedroom.
Service topping is service and service is submission which is like bottoming so topping can be bottoming!

Whee - the logic - and to think - i am sober

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 3:16:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?

No. Since I seek a long-term monogamous relationship, I don't feel a switch would work out for me. Since I don't switch myself, he would be forced to look outside the relationship to fulfill a part of himself, and I don't want a person who has to look outside the relationship to have his needs fulfilled.

I do play casually with switches at play parties from time to time, but these are not individuals whom I would consider for a long-term relationship (not that they are looking for one, anyway).

Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

Not in this lifetime.

Lady Topaz

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 3:59:27 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

I have been approached several times lately by switches.
I enjoy chatting with them as friends, but I don't think I could ever become seriously involved with one.
Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?
Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

These are two different types of people.

People who switch and people who want to switch with the person they are with.

Fox is my slave but Fox is also a switch; he's an excellent top especially a bondage top.

It in no way lessens his abilities as my slave, in fact, I think it makes him more empathic to how much stress and responsibility I take on was the owner in our relationship.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 4:26:31 PM

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Me switch? Never!

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 4:30:11 PM

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Hummm these responses are very interesting!
Thank you.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 4:41:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MzMia

I have been approached several times lately by switches.
I enjoy chatting with them as friends, but I don't think I could ever become seriously involved with one.
Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?
Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

A couple of switch friends I have (males) have turned dom... Then I have met several switch men who are subs...

Me personaly, no, not a long term relationship with a switch. Did think about a dom friend of mine once... *Laughs*

Me switch for a male, ummmmmmmmmmmm, no....................................

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 4:47:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia

Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?
Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

Yep and yep.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 5:56:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?

I have played with switches. Only one of them was submissive enough in session to suit me and I had him for two years. The rest were not able to give me the submission I need to be fulfilled. After the fourth switch disappointed me badly, I swore off of them.

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

Never. I am not emotionally or mentally suited to be submissive. I do not put on Dominance as a role. It is who I am. Being submissive would involve role play for me and I'd not pull it off very well at best. At worst, the experience would be damaging for me.

There is a very thought provoking article on switching at http://www.xeromag.com/fvbdswitch.html

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ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl

Who has the easiest time finding monogamy then, a dom or a sub?

I think that both orientations have a hard time finding someone to share their lives with exclusively.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 6:05:31 PM

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Yes I would be willing to have a partner that is a switch. While I cannot imagine switching myself I feel that such a relationship would be possible. Though I believe it would require alot of communication and trust. I would not allow her to have another sexual relationship.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 6:30:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?
Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?

I could consider a switch as a long term partner, as long as there was the initial understanding that I would NOT be expected to switch for them. They can be my equal and codom and we might think about finding someone for both, or they could be my sub, but I could not and would not switch. The problem I have had with switches in the past is that in their submission, there isa dominant streak that breaks through on occasion and I find it disruptive and annoying.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 6:44:46 PM

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Nope, wouldn't trust them as far as I could throw them which isn't very far!

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/18/2007 6:52:49 PM

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no & no

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