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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/20/2007 5:49:39 PM

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Yes, I'd consider a switch as a serious and frequent lover. But I'm polyamorous, and my primary partner is a dominant like me, so I guess I'm already outside the box. He occasionally bottoms-sort-of to me, and I occasionally sort-of-bottom to him, as we couldn't really have sex without someone getting scratched up a bit. [N.B. We've quit identifying as switches because 1) properly bottoming is relatively rare for both of us, and would likely be even less common if we didn't get all those lovely relationship-strengthening benefits from having sex with one another 2) people who identify as switches tend to be regarded as switching both on the d/s axis and the SM one, which isn't the case for either of us 3) neither of us is looking for a dominant or top partner, for one-offs or more advanced things, nor would either of us be a good addition to a submissives' group, so there is no social value and some social confusion if we identify as switches.] It is important to note that this imaginary switch secondary or tertiary partner of mine would submit and bottom to me, and if he or she desired, would top and dominate with others. Perhaps we would co-top, if we were reasonably well-matched stylistically, as I often find that fun.

No, I wouldn't properly submit, or engage in submissive roleplay. I've tried it, and I've learned that I don't like submitting and I'm not very good at it. I'm good at inflicting pain and getting people to do what I want, and I like those things, so I do them. It can be fun to get bruised a little or do some rough sex, but a punch or pinch on my terms or a bit of playful wrestling is quite different from obeying and serving, and is even distinct from saying "Yes sir" and kneeling.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/21/2007 4:50:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: MzMia
Would any of you ladies consider a switch as a serious, long term partner?
One of my long-term partners is a switch.

Also, would you be willing to switch and be the submissive on occasion?
No

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/21/2007 5:00:45 AM

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Yes I would consider a long term relationship with a switch as long as he understood that I am not submissive and that I will never be submissive. My current sub went through what I'll call a "switch" period which didn't last very long, the appeal of the submissive role was just who he was inside. I am not submissive, but I like to play bottom sometimes, that is with me telling him what to do. I don't do it often but when I do its alot of fun for both of us.

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/21/2007 6:32:36 AM

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My long term partner is a switch and he is the only one i have played with who i felt comfortable submitting to. It is really more of an equal relationship though where the switching is primarily sexually oriented and more about sensations and fun than role.

The slave i am currently in talks with will be just that. He will submit to me, and may be in a submissive role with my partner at times, but only within my discretion and at my direction. This situation is more about service and care. It's just different

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/21/2007 10:16:34 AM

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I would differentiate between switching D/s and switching T/b. I am looking for a SLAVE. and there's no way I switch, ever. Nor do I want a slave who has any desire to dominate anyone (much less me!). However, if he enjoyed playing as a top at play parties with other subs, I don't have a problem with that, and in fact would very likely get considerable enjoyment out of watching my slave at play :)

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RE: Would you consider a serious relationship with a sw... - 2/22/2007 12:02:05 AM

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I am fascinated by the responses. As a switch, I am confused by some of what has been posted. I would NEVER try to switch roles with my Master, ever. I am only submissive to him. If I was only submissive to him and had no other experiences, I still think I could be a happy fulfilled person. Just like a bisexual person may have relationships with both men and women throughout their lifetime, I think switches can have relationships as dom and sub throughout their lifetime. Why does everyone assume it would have to be simultaneous? I am bisexual and married and if my husband had not decided recently that we could add a girl and become poly, I would have been content to live monogamously for the rest of our lives. It was our original commitment, and while I find joy in our current situation, I was not unhappy before. I think such a variety of situations can exist if people give them an opportunity.
That said, of course everyone can still choose not to be with switches, I just wanted to point out that some of us are fine as either dom or sub in relationships, it just depends on the person.

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