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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/22/2007 11:12:12 PM

cjenny

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It is funny that nearly every single response revolved around sex or sex acts... service is so much more than sex isn't it?
Way uppers in my post I explained an alternative to serving online, in a non sexual way.
Oh man its after 2am. Silly dog woke me up and I'm soooo sleepy. Hope this wasnt incoherent cuz my eyes are mostly shut.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/22/2007 11:19:38 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: cjenny

It is funny that nearly every single response revolved around sex or sex acts... service is so much more than sex isn't it?
Way uppers in my post I explained an alternative to serving online, in a non sexual way.
Oh man its after 2am. Silly dog woke me up and I'm soooo sleepy. Hope this wasnt incoherent cuz my eyes are mostly shut.

yawns *s*

For me, and I only speak for myself and this in no way lessens what other people do or how they feel, I want to touch and be touched. I spent years of my life without that because I was rearing my young one, and I need that in my life. It is not all about serving him, it is about us being satisfied.. he would not be satisfied either and a large part of my submission to him is sexual... that is not all it is, but it is how we express our feelings for each other and we are very sexual people.

I am not with him all the time, and I do not see him every day, and I talk to him online when we post here at times, and we talk on the phone. I have done things for him "remotely", and I could never do enough for him... whether it is trying to help him find something on the internet, or calling every cell phone store in the Bay Area to find him a replacement when he was not at home. I can serve by helping him find a place to live, or helping him move, or refinishing his dresser.. but the sexual bonding is something that I need personally. Not everyone is cut out for online.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/22/2007 11:43:08 PM

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as i stated previously on different threads directly and indirectly related to this subject, sex is not the heart of this Daddy-daughter relationship. it's more like the dessert in a 7 course dinner. that being said and though we don't live together, we chat online and talk on the phone (if He has time between patients) without having to micromanage every detail of my life. according to Him that's not the right type of domination for a submissive like me yet He still reserves the right to approve (or not approve) certain aspects.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/23/2007 7:26:32 AM

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Sure people can establish relationships online. As far as service goes, they could do research for their partner, I used to do that for him and proof read letters. And most of all, I showed up every night to give him someone to talk to who he could joke with and open up to. I was the friend, lover and sounding board he needed and he was mine. And that's worth a lot more than sweeping the damn floor.

But you seem to assume that service is required in a D/s relationship. It isn't. Not every dom/me demands it and not every sub gets off on it.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/23/2007 3:54:14 PM

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Well and now I will state my opinions on the matter. As I have stated in other posts. I am a submissive. I have served both online and off. As far as service goes there are many forms of "service". I can be a good listener. I can be a support, I can fulfill assignments. (Yes I've gotten some wierd ones in my time). Writing, researching, Photos (my personal favorite), and of course the ever popular cybering. I say that last part with tongue in cheek BTW. I have used a webcam, I have made phone contact. It is hard for me to get out due to no car and an extremely disabled mother that I care for. When I can go out.....I do. However when I cannot if I am pleasing my Dom/me or a Dom/me online then I am happy. But that is just me and that is not for everyone. I just wanted to see the different thoughts and opinions on this.

respectfully,
Kali

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/23/2007 4:15:29 PM

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i can personally say i knwe a man for a few years who ended up acting as my online master although i did not realize it....he was in my eyes exactly what a master should be for me...we matched perfectly and it was a great match online. he pushed me to new levels mentally and emotionally and found ways of punishment online yet i never realized we had the master/slave relationship till years into it...once i realized i brought it up and he agreed we had flowed into it but he never felt the need to "collar" me so to say due to the fact that he wanted me to have free will to walk away at any moment.....yet i never did and dont think i could of ifi wanted to. he had a tighter grasp on me than any man i have met in rl

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/23/2007 4:25:55 PM

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Since I live in a bubble online is the only type of relationship that I can personally allow at this time....If I were able to get out and had the ability to converse and was not a recluse and valued the company of another human being I don't think I woud see the merit of anthing online....Hold that thought...(Domiguy gets out the windex to remove a big dried splatter of spunk from the side of bubble) Anywhoo If I felt comfortable and was capable of having a face to face relationship that is what I would do.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/23/2007 8:18:38 PM

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I think it can start online with the intentions of being real time ...

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/25/2007 11:48:48 PM

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it's a good way to start or practice, while getting to know a master, and although it's no substitute for the real thing, it's still fun too...

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 12:53:45 AM

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Unless he can figure out a way to wash the dishes from online, he can't serve me online.
I've been asked to train online, and I cannot find a single positive side to it from my perspective; well I can, but than I'd be another person taking money from people. M

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 12:58:57 AM

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when i stop and consider this, online service could work well in some cases. say someone is in a vanilla relationship but longs for BDSM. one could serve online and be vanilla day to day because of kids and so forth, one could lead a double life and have some fulfillment. not for me, but i could see how that could work

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 1:27:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear ravenairsprite, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Being one of those ancient relics from pre computer lifestyle origins, I have come to my mind's eyes a long time ago, that where the 'heart' goes the body will follow.

I see computers as a tool at my disposal. How people behave on line can at times open more to what a person is in the safety of privacy, a screen name and the like. If someone needs to always be a sarcastic twit, they do so safely behind a screen. This does save me the need to meet such a person so weeding is easier. There are some programs that have a telephone like capability so I can hear their voices. What a plus! I can quickly find out that if someone who is poor at typing may express themselves wonderfully well by this 'phone' through computer chat, such as AOL and Yahoo. Phone numbers are exchanged, which enhances the security feature for both involved.

In my mind's eyes I see that those who dearly wish to participate in the D/s, M/s and or BDSM but, might be unable to physically interact in real life due to disabilities and or lack of local support and or munch groups. Although a person's body fails the spirit of a Dominant and or submissive; the mind, the emotions and or the spirit still is alive. It is my 'accepting' of all individuals flaws and all that wish to see those who cannot physically participate feel some of what a lot of people take for granted because they are able. I think that a person can serve decently if their core intent is genuine. Of course--there will be those who aren't genuine but, this can be found in able body realms as well as cyberland. True, they are denied the ability to physically participate but, for many--it is the first safe taste of what can be in real life.

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

I can't believe no one has quoted this brilliant woman yet! What she said stole the words from my mouth, and perhaps helped expand my mind a little more on the subject.

I don't think I can even evolve the subject right now let alone say anything new or beyond these words. I loved it! Beautiful to the signature :)

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 4:03:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: cjenny

Thanks tea just might help

Hello cjenny,

One thing that helps take care of nausea is to put raw ginger in the tea. It should calm an upset stomach.

Sinergy

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 5:08:49 AM

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Well do you think that someone can serve decently as an online sub or slave?

No. Real life and cyber life are different.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 5:15:47 AM

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Online can be a decent place to start before you take it offline.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 5:19:43 AM

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Granted the two are different, but yes i do agree that it is a place to learn... Everyone has to start some place....

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 5:24:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: Sinergy

quote:

ORIGINAL: cjenny

Thanks tea just might help

Hello cjenny,

One thing that helps take care of nausea is to put raw ginger in the tea. It should calm an upset stomach.

Sinergy

and that's a fact.. got me through side effects from a medication I had to take for a while.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 5:25:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: ravenairsprite

Well do you think that someone can serve decently as an online sub or slave? How would they be able to do this? In your opinion what way would they best serve if they were to?

I ask because I just had a post along these lines and was curious. I'll post my thoughts later unless of course you find them first.

Respectfully,
Kali

I don't know about everyone, but there are few things I like more than having my cyber floors scrubbed, my cyber dishes washed, and my cyber lunch sat before me while my cyber slave kneels quietly at my cyber feet.

In all honesty, it is about as satisfying to me as being hungry and having someone hand me a written review of a steak they ate. I can get some small degree of use out of a person online, such as having them do research or write an essay for me, but when it comes down to it I had rather have a thick, juicy T bone than a written description of one.

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 5:27:27 AM

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Well do you think that someone can serve decently as an online sub or slave?

No!

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RE: Do you think that someone can serve decently as an ... - 2/26/2007 5:45:39 AM

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Just adding my two cents worth. Although r/t is so much better, I have an online sub. I have had him for about 8 years now. It is much more than a sexual thing. It is the power exchange, I guess. We have grown close over the years, talking about our lives outside of this lifestyle. It's not for everyone, and I've not had anyone else, online but him. It just kind of happened, but he is wonderful just the same.

Ms Carla

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