MsKatHouston
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Joined: 6/7/2006 From: Houston, TX Status: offline
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Do you Female Dominants ever submit to a sub's request to do something specific to the sub that the sub likes? Sure I do. I do so because I care about my sub and he needs to get something out of it too. It's a two way street. Plus, he can come up with some really cool scenarios. Why cut off my nose to spite my face so to speak? If he wants to do something, I like it too, why not do it? quote:
If yes, does that mean the sub has some type of control within the sub/dom relationship? Well sure. If he is not getting his needs met within the relationship, he can leave. He has control over his own life and chooses to give me control. He can always take that away. However, within the context of our consensual power exchange, he has given me control, I have agreed to take it. He is more than welcome and encouraged, to express his desires and wishes to me. We communicate a lot and well. It is my choice to do what I want with those. I do, however, choose to, on occasion, reward him with one of his fantasies or do it just because I also think it would be fun. quote:
Does this differ from the control professionally dominanted subs experience? I am in a relationship. So, I do not equate a relationship with a professional scene, even if the client is a regular. So, yes, I suppose it does differ. quote:
Or is it all the same that subs do have some form of control because they all express fantasy desires and allot of dominants (life or pro) will enact and execute a scene for the sub's fantasy? I think whether in a pro relationship or life, everyone's needs have to be met. If a pro does exactly what the sub does not want, she will find she no longer has a client. However, within a pro negotiation she has the right to set boundaries and make her own choices and will only do what she wants. In a good pro situation, that will coincide with the client's desires, also. In a life situation, the choice is there to be with someone compatible or not. It may not always go the sub's ideal way, every day. But when all is said and done, everyone is likely getting their needs met or it will not be a successful relationship.
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-Kat ~If you can't be a good example, you'll just have to serve as a horrible warning~
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