GoddessDustyGold
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Joined: 4/11/2004 From: Arizona Status: offline
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Actually, No. I don't use those words. I have, as others have pointed out, taken the time to let someone know that they tend more toward the kinky bottom area, rather than a submissive who has the mettle to live the lifestyle they think they want. At the very least, they are not the submissive for Me. In answer to Jeff's very interesting point, I would like to add that I was interviewing a boy a little while back and one of the questions he asked Me was if being in control, ordering him around, etc, made "your pussy twitch". I honestly answered "No". That boy considered that a real Domina should be constantly wet, else She wasn't real. *shrug* It is not in My nature to be nothing but sexually driven. I have a busy life, and there is a time and a place. And not being sexually aroused does not make Me any less Dominant. My happiness and fulfillment is not limited to howmany orgasms I have hadin any given amount of time. Service is something I expect. I am not in a state of sexual arousal just because a boy is mowing My yard or doing My dishes. By the same token, I do not expect a *slave* (because I do seek a slave or slaves) to be in a constant state of sexual tension. That would wear both of us out, I should think! I also look at it this way. There comes a time when life is life, on both sides of the whip. If we are practical about it, most of the time, life is life. If I am constantly striving for or awaiting an orgasm,and the sub is too, then what happens once that is achieved? Does the submission go away? Does the Dominance go away? Until the next time? I am always Dominant. However,it has been brought up before,and quite throughly discussed in other threads, that many male submissives lose their ability to submit, at least for a time, after orgasm. I am sure I am not a real or true Domina according to the expectations of most of the fantasy wankers out there. Hells bells, I won't even chat! *Smile* Because I expect more than quick and kinky gratification. Way more... And it takes more to maintain an actual relationship. Way more...
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Dusty They that give up essential liberty to obtain a little temporary safety deserve neither liberty nor safety B Franklin Don't blame Me ~ I didn't vote for either of them The Hidden Kingdom
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