MsSilvie
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ORIGINAL: MsSilvie I disagree about "it all boils down to what "safe" means to a particular individual". There is some room for disagreement as to what safe practices are, but there are things that everyone reasonable should agree to. Oxygen deprivation for extended periods of time? Handcuff suspension? Big wad o' cloth gag while unsupervised? I don't think anyone sensible is going to argue about any of that being safe. Yet, I hear people talking about these things like nothing is wrong. First we had 'safe' to deal with, now you want to throw 'reasonable' into the mix? Yah, geesh, what was I thinking there! Sorry about that! quote:
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When something does go wrong though, generally the sub/bottom/maso is pointing their blue, numb little fingers at the dom/top/sadist who should have known better. And I can't say I completely disagree with that. Ah, the poor, defenseless sub/bottom/maso. Wait, I *am* the poor, defenseless sub/bottom/maso! Don't we share an equal responsibility for our own safety and well-being? If I lay there silently while my blue, numb little fingers turn more blue and numb, aren't I just as culpable or even more so than the dom/top/sadist for any injury that might occur? No, I think sub/bottom/maso folks have a responsibility for their own safety. However, once playing starts, it's those dom/top/sadists who are doing the hitting, restraining and generally roughing up of aforementioned sub/bottom/masos. And out there in subspace, I'm real naive if I think every bottom is going to be able to tell me s/he can't feel her toes, can we take a break? In playing, I'll argue that the top has more responsibility for the safety of both parties. quote:
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The SSC creedo isn't the worst thing that has ever happened to the bdsm lifestyle. It surely beats the dangerous, insane, non-consensual theory. It's certainly not the best thing to happen to it either. All hyperbole aside, the number of people who tout the UIN "lifestyle" as anything other than a joke to tweak the sensibilities of the rabid SSC proponents, are practically nonexistant. I like that logo!! quote:
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Bottom line, it's a big world out there. If someone disagrees with what you do, it's their opinion. A lot of times, it's worth at least considering, if for only to help understand what and how other people think. Maybe you get some info that makes you change your style, maybe you don't. All true. I'm just trying to point out there's a world of difference between understanding that some activities come with risk attached and initiating the "Chicken Little" alert system. I think we just interpreted the thread differently. I didn't see anything that I would have said looks like rabid SSC chickens. (and that's a scary mental image, isn't it?)
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