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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 6:38:57 PM

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Like GeekyGirl said, I'm in a constant state of arousal during my period. And vaginal sex does wonders for my cramps. Plus, I just love getting dirty and messy during sex.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 6:43:01 PM

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To be honest, I was more squicked about it than he was....he doesn't mind at all...though we do try to use condoms during...and it's usually only during the light days. He knows that it squicks me a bit.

As for oral....that squicks me a lot...I just get ultra-girly and shy and wiggly.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 6:48:45 PM

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Gee-pers kyraofMists I just got cramps, lol.

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It is very rare for our sexual activity to not include some type of SM. I remember the first time it happened; I was horrified that I had displeased him because he didn't hurt me.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 6:56:13 PM

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never played while on my cycle even though i get horny as hell however i get severe PMS and cramps

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 9:56:01 PM

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I have never heard such nonsence, I never told my man no on this issue. We always enjoyed sex maybe more on those days as a woman I was always more sensitive and sex and orgasm always were stronger more enjoyable. Red towel days were always fun.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 10:26:54 PM

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I can't see why not, it might be messy, depending on what you are doing but that might be a bit fun too. My period is a bit of cruel irony to Rob, I'm kind of like a cat in heat, lol and normally my sex drive is fairly low. Unfortunatly my period squicks him out beyond words, he won't even shower with me. I Have no problems with playing while menstrating tho.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 10:34:54 PM

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while on my period im not horny but thats acutally how i got pregnant with my daughter..lol i get really really really horny an entire week before my period and it drives me nuts when i dont have anyone to help me with my issues...i have a really short cycle so 3 days with out sex isnt anything for me to worry about...

<added- i try to stay away from sex on my period unless i want another baby, but im good for now

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 10:52:18 PM

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Daddy's a carnivore and blood freak. I think he'd sulk if I declined sex during my period. He refers to it as having "steak tartare."

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 11:20:08 PM

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I was hesitant for a long time about play during my cycle but the last master I had would actually attack me when he noticed I was on my cycle! He said he enjoyed the "swollen" sensation. As I read in one of the other posts - having a warm water basin and towels are a certainly a must or baby wipes! Have fun!

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/6/2007 11:25:05 PM

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I like it and think it shows you wanna be with me no matter what ....

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 12:10:06 AM

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It must have a pheremone effect as well, its like you can smell it in the air.

Not to Hijack the thread but as its related. Do you find being pregnant equally Squicky?

I found that that the 2 states, pregnant and near& during my X's period made for a different level of sex.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 12:51:32 AM

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Here's a question for ya all.

Are there forms of play/sessions that are reasonable while a woman is having her menstral cycle? I understand some have no problems with play during, it is not my thing though especially any consideration of penetration of any form.

Just curious what forms of play could be possible during this timing? TIA

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i go through orgasim training when i have my menstrual cycle. i feel embarassed but my Dom doesn't mind. But i'm not sure what exact training you could do since my Dom and i play no matter if i have my menstrual cycle or not. We just use extra washable blankets

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 1:57:34 PM

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It must have a pheremone effect as well, its like you can smell it in the air.

Not to Hijack the thread but as its related. Do you find being pregnant equally Squicky?

I found that that the 2 states, pregnant and near& during my X's period made for a different level of sex.

I personally find pregnancy extremely squicky and it's one of several reasons I had my tubes tied. Not to offend anybody, I just find it sort of physically "ewww".

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 2:16:53 PM

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I don't suffer emotionally from hormonal changes but I do get bad cramps for several days. As a result, we don't do much play. He will do nipple play on me and if I'm not too uncomfortable some bondage, but usually it's just bj's assuming I haven't taken three aspirin and crawled into bed way early.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 2:18:24 PM

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I always saw it as taboo and kinda icky

Two of my goals that I have especially attuned to in BDSM relationships over the years are as follows:

1. We should embrace our sexuality and remove guilt concerning our sexuality
2. We should do what we can to remove 'taboo' from our personal language.

I might not always be successful in easing any emotional discomfort to a woman during her time(s), but I'm always very supportive and willing to show myself ready to participate in any and all ways.

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Seems you missed the "until i met him" part of the quote. While i want to be open to many things, i do find my "middle class upbringing" as i like to call it does make me judge acts sometimes. BUT not enough to not try many things. And experience is the greatest teacher. Enema's and anal both were yuck to me in thought because of the cleanliness factor, but experience taught me the pleasures of giving and receiving. Amazing how your limits change over time.....which sounds like another thread....

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 2:20:45 PM

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The Mister has no real problem with my period at all. Unfortunately, I'm one big swollen sore crampy exhausted mess for 5 days. And the older I get, the worse the PMS gets, too. So I'm pretty useless during that time.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 2:46:48 PM

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While i want to be open to many things, i do find my "middle class upbringing" as i like to call it does make me judge acts sometimes.

How do you feel your middle class upbringing affected you? I was raised middle class as well and I was curious about anal and enemes by the time I was 18. I'm curious as to how you feel socio-econonmic standing affects kink.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 3:05:26 PM

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Maybe it's more suburban??? I don't know, probably not the best choice of words, but it's kinda the age thing i think. it's the way things were portrayed on tv as we were growing up. Those nice "normal" people. My parents also raised me with the idea that sex was not bad but it was an only for marriage thing if you were going to be a "respectable girl". My 1st husband actually asked me to marry him when he did because we were moving in together and going to marry in 6 months anyhow, but his father made him feel he would be ruining my reputation if we lived together.

The journey has been a long one from there. It has made me very adamant about how i raise my UM as far as portraying anything related to sex as flat out wrong (except for rape and abuse of course). I want her to know it is good to be open and i think she has much lower barriers to the ideas, even though she is in general much more of a prude than i was at her age.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 3:12:13 PM

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Maybe it's more suburban??? I don't know, probably not the best choice of words, but it's kinda the age thing i think. it's the way things were portrayed on tv as we were growing up. Those nice "normal" people. My parents also raised me with the idea that sex was not bad but it was an only for marriage thing if you were going to be a "respectable girl". My 1st husband actually asked me to marry him when he did because we were moving in together and going to marry in 6 months anyhow, but his father made him feel he would be ruining my reputation if we lived together.

The journey has been a long one from there. It has made me very adamant about how i raise my UM as far as portraying anything related to sex as flat out wrong (except for rape and abuse of course). I want her to know it is good to be open and i think she has much lower barriers to the ideas, even though she is in general much more of a prude than i was at her age.

So perhaps not so much social status as a generational thing? I grew up in the suburbs and then later in rural area. I'm not sure what your age is, but I'm 24. My mother is 44. I think sex was more prominent on tv and in the media when I was growing up than it was for older generations, plus during my teenage year we had that wonderful thing called "THE INTERNET". All the information you could ever want right at your fingertips, and of course this was when the internet was new and websites were still easier for minors to gain access to, and parents had not yet learned about parental controls and such.

I grew up watching Married With Children, South Park, the Simpsons...a lot different from my mother's generation. I also came from a fairly liberal home and my mother firmly believed in living together for an extended time prior to marriage.

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RE: Squick or squish (curious) - 3/7/2007 3:20:33 PM

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maybe it is generational. I am 40. It wasn't until i was older that i realized how sheltered i was when i was growing up. It didn't feel that way at the time. But it's true.

Things hav definately changed. I interact with alot of UM's through work, my own UM and other activities and it amazes me how sometimes the subjects they talk about freely infront of me, or even ask me about. I know when i was in high school someone who came out as gay was thought of as brave for admitting it, but don't rub it in everyones faces. My UM on the other hand has several gay friends who outted themselves as early as middle school and have received support from peers and adults. I hear the word "kinky" all the time in all their conversations and have to think "if oyu only knew...."

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