NickInSLC
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Joined: 8/9/2005 Status: offline
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I think it's important to consider why your bottom is bossy. If you're playing with a 'do me' bottom, they've probably got a mental screen play that they want adhered to and anything that deviates from their screen play will suck. If that's the case, your best bet is to pull up your pants and go home. But what if your bottom is nervous or scared? Their fear might warrant some exploration. Or maybe we need to focus more on building trust before going someplace new or scary. There's also the possibility that our bottom might be used to playing at a higher level of technical expertise. If that's the case, we might be well served by listening to them. I frequently teach people new types of play by serving as their bottom. However, when I do that, it's understood from the start. Or, perhaps that masochist you're playing with has a dominant personality. Fortunately, there's also such thing as a submissive sadist for such people to match up with. But if you're a dominant sadist, you probably won't much enjoy playing with a dominant masochist very much. No doubt there are tons of other reasons for a bottom to turn bossy on us. The point is, rather than just bearing with it, getting through a scene we don't enjoy, and being all resentful after the fact. We can stop and figure out why the scene isn't working for us and see what we can do to fix it.
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